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30-35,
*mandaj2
writes:Dear Cupid,I fell in love with a drug and alcohol addict. We have been together for the past 5 years. He no longer does drugs nor drinks, to my knowledge (and he's always either at home or at work). However, he just keeps messing up... First, I had kidney stones and he stole my pain medication. This was little over 2 years ago. Then, he got so drunk that he stole some one's truck a wrecked it. This was about 3 months ago. And the most recnt issue, and this has really pushed me to the brink, is that he lied. He said he paid the rent. I got a call today from our very unhappy landlord. I also went online to check my checking account and noticed some small charges made this same day, that I can't account for? I looked in my wallet and my debit card is missing...I have tried to leave him before, but I can't affford to live on my own, with only my income and I really do NOT want to move in with family... What the hell do I do????
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 You can't afford to live on your own. I don't know how bad American salaries are but thought housing expenses were a lot lower.
Any case, what is the point of having two people pay for things if you don't pay for things? Where is the rent money? Where is your part of it?
Just how much is living with him costing you?
Who is paying for the wrecked truck?
Part of being an adult is accepting that sometimes all your options suck and you still got to choose.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (12 August 2011):
 ASAP
*You kick him out and get a roommate. Change the locks.
OR
*You move out and find someone decent who needs a roommate.
OR
*You move back home with family.
*Cancel your current debit card and change account numbers.
Cut ties and access to you in everyway imaginable. Protect yourself.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 You say you cant afford to live without him, I say you cant afford to live with him. You may not have a choice if he doesnt pay the rent, you could be evicted and then what?
What did he do with the rent money? Did he pee it up against a wall? You seem to be intimating he has your debit card. What next?
Swallow your pride, give him the Big A and move back in with your family while you find somewhere else to live. Without him!
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