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writes:Hello, before I begin I just want to let you who read this, not to blow my own trumpet, know that I am a kind, forgiving, good natured person who would do anything to benefit others. I have told you this so you understand why I've put up with my situation for so long. Here goes :)My bestfriend and I, made friends with a few lads a while back. Me and my bestfriend spent every day together and went everywhere together, we came as a package. Within this group of lads we both got close to one of them. Just as friends, please do not take this 'relationship' between the three of us as anything more. strictly just friends. :) anyways, a year in me and my best friend, we still close with this lad. but then he got really attached to my bestfriend, and they began to argue alot, over little things, scared of losing each other, cared too much about each other. This lad has a condition, but me and my bestfriend dont see his condition, he's normal to us. we see past it. Now my part in this relationship was the peace maker. I knew how close they were and hated when they fought as i cared about both of them.Now here is my issue. Whenever he used to fall out with her, he used to come to me, and me being the person i am would always be there for not only him, but my female best friend too. But as soon as he was friends with her he used to no bother to speak anymore, but as soon as another fight arose i was needed again. This did annoy me a little but i didnt mind as i dont like seeing people i care about in a low way so i would always helo. Their most recent fall out a few months ago, meant they didnt speak at all anymore. as im a civil person i didnt fall out with either. me and him got really close and he was a bestfriend, i opened up to him a little which is something i find incredibly hard to do. But now their friends again and he's doing the same thing all over again. Dont worry i have grew tired of my good nature being taken advantage of, so i have fallen out with him and went to good measure to make sure i dont make friends with him again as i know everytime we had any kind of arguement he would manipulate and wind me round his little finger again, so ive decided not to let that happen anymore. I would just like to know, if i do in fact have a right to be angry, as ive helped him through so much you wouldnt believe but he's never there for me. Was i right to get rid of this person and stop him from taking advantage of my good nature? He was a good friend and someone i grew used to having around and have many memories worth, but it is it worth having him in my life if he only speaks when he needs me to be there for him, while she isnt around?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy other friend, the female one, knows why ive cut him off, she understands what he does but she doesnt encourage him he does it all off his own back. i have blocked him on facebook, if he contacts me im just not going to reply. he has asked her a few times what he's done, but she wont tell him she just tells him she doesnt know. I'd prefer to not talk to him about why im angry, as he'll just manipulate me and make me think its my fault. therefore, he can sit and ponder why i dont want anything to do with him :) thanks guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): Hes a user, users only think of themselves and think they deserve the attention people give them .
I think your quite right, and dont let your other friend talk you round. Its not fun constantly being piggy in the middle.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 He doesnt sound like much of a friend so I feel you have done the right thing.
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