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writes:I am a very arrogant and proud guy being from very rich family here. I get everything in my life without dropping a single drop of sweat . 30 months back, I fell in love with a amazingly beautiful girl here and I kept my family status in hide from her for initial three months just to check out whether she liked me for being from middle class family or being from rich family and she successfully passed that test . She loved me for whatever I was and I admired that. After disclosing my identity on her, she was not happy with me for few days on not informing her initially but then I made her understand and we kept it going. She was from middle class family. She was loving me with her heart out and was giving me more than 100% to our relationship. I, too, love her with all sincerity but once in a bloom I would release her that she was from middle class and couldn't match my status but through humorous way. So just 7 months ago, I felt bored in that relationship ,and to be honest for no reason , I dumped her. She is still struggling to cope with this break up and keeps sending me emails , sms and making calls without me replying once. In these mails and sms, she keeps repeating herself that she is just not interested in my wealth and just want me back even if I leave my family's wealth. I know her very well that ,she , indeed, does not seem to be interested in my wealth and stuffs. Just three days back, I saw her in market, she looked so weak and I felt like going there to talk to her but then my ego stopped me doing so. Just last night, I had her in my dream in which she was cursing me if I were to dump her for no reason, then why I stepped into her life and left her so shattered and broken ? When I woke up, I saw her text saying that she will remain single rest of her life as the memories of time we spent together is enough for her to spend rest of her life with. After reading that message and having last night dream doing rounds in my head , I couldn’t help crying in front of mirror and felt like getting back to tomorrow. I still love her, but question is how I am gonna face her? I have broken her heart and raped apart her soul. I know she will accept me again but I need to hide my face to confront her. Would you guys believe that in this world people like me exist?, who are so proud and egoistic ? And at the sometimes, people like her who are so committed in a relationship? I have destroyed her life and now I wana make amend for it but can’t face her. I feel like driving to her place right now, which is just 10KMs away from my place , and bow down on her knees to wash my sins ! I just have texted her that I am coming tomorrow and she replied saying “Ok”. People , please tell me what I should do tomorrow?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 'Pride goeth before a fall.'
You haven't any personal wealth that you, yourself, have earned. This is quite different from being the bored son of a wealthy family, where you can treat others like playthings.
You have a long way to go to earning anything - including her respect. You may think that you are honorable, but misrepresenting yourself isn't honorable.
If you have to humble yourself and make a fool of yourself, you need to take this chance to apologize.
If she is foolish enough to take you back, you might be the luckiest man on the earth.
Nothing worth having is easy in this life. You have to earn it to appreciate it.
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reader, Aunty Honest  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 Don't mess this girl around any more then you have already. You feel she's beneath you or that there is a class difference, and it sounds like you do care about her, so don't you think she deserves someone who will give her more than that, give her the kind of adoration she gave you?
I think it's good you feel guilty for mistreating her, but you can't get back with someone to absolve your own guilt. Getting back with her would make you feel less guilty. And it might make her happier-for a while. But are you sure the same problems wouldn't crop up again? That you wouldn't feel that class difference, that you could give her all the love she gave you? You broke up with her for a reason. And if you are going to get back with her to stop yourself feeling guilty only to end up breaking her heart-again-then you're actually causing her more pain.
Yes she's devastated, and yes she's said she'l never be with anyone else-but you know what, that's how everyone feels when they've had their heart broken. If she's as great as you say she is she'll find someone who can make her happy one day. And surely you don't wanna get in the way of that?
It seems liek you spend alot of time thinking about finding someone who's good enough for you, and meets your standards. But there's more to being a good person then class! And relationships shouldn't just be about someone impressing you-you should be trying to impress them too.
I think when you meet your ex you should explain to her why you broke up with her, it'll help her get over you, and explain that you do care for her but that she deserves better. Then learn from whatever mistakes you made from the relationship and give your ex the time and space she needs so you can both find someone else who you can both be happier with.
Good luck.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 Dumped seven months ago and she still constantly texts, emails, calls, sms etc etc, and in the market place she looks so weak?
Does this woman have no self respect? First you lied to her, and then you dumped her for no reason, and now she is going to let you back into her life, after you have gone to your knees and asked to be washed of your sins?
This is the very stuff of fairy tales, I think once you and she do the white fluffy frock and riding off into the sunset bit you should sell your story to Disney for a movie.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 If you're going to apologize, then get your balls up and show your face. She deserves to see your face and how sad you look. Just hearing it isn't going to do it for her and it shouldn't. So tell her you're sorry that you did what you did and don't be afraid to face her.
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reader, based51  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 Let go of your pride and tell her you're sorry! There's no room for such pride in a relstionship - it won't do to be too proud to say sorry every time you have an argument with a girlfriend. It leaves the relationship open to bitterness and more likely to never recover from wrongs. Tell her you're sorry and atone for it. Do it properly and you will get on famously in no time and if you always follw this rule life will be happy and easy - believe me. It is very agreeable to always admit your own wrongs and repent them, just make sure she does the same whenever she messes up.
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