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writes:I just recently broke up with my BF of a year. I came home late one night and he said I dont love you anymore, Im not atracted to you and its over. This was really hurtful but I sort of knew it had been comeing for a while. Anyway I went away for the weekend, the night I got back he was really sympathetic and said he didnt mean the things he said and that he still loved me, he just said we needed to have a break. Im quite confused, I have started to pack all of my things and have found somewhere to live.He said I dont have to move out but I have chosen to, he is away for a couple of days and before he left we were getting on pretty well, not sleeping in the same bed but just about back to normal. I went to log in to my facebook the other day and he hadnt logged out, he had been talking toa friend of ours, I proceded to read the conversation and he was saying how he couldnt wait untill I had moved out and I was very anoying and he just wanted me gone. He said the only reason I was still living there was because he felt sorry for me. This really hurt me, its as if he is telling me one thing and telling everyone else another. I just dont understand why hes being like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): I'm sorry to hear things have not worked out for you both. If he has told you to leave, then said he wants a break. And he has also told a mutual friend that he wants you to go. Then it is pretty clear really. Telling you that you don't have to leave now might be his way of backtracking because he feels guilty...or he needs help short term with meeting the rent! But the Genie is out of the bottle now, so staying will probably be the last thing you want to do. Which i suspect is what he is hoping.If i were you, i would go with dignity and have no more to do with him now. He will probably want to have some contact for a while afterwards. Many get false hope from this but it is usually just the ex wanting reassurance from you that they aren't really THAT bad. And you don't think they are a complete A hole! I wouldn't bother to respond to him if it were me. All the best x
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (14 July 2011):
that must of been terrible for you to read it sounds like he is confused and doesnt know what he wants i would make the decision for him i would move into your new place change your number and have no contact with him again good luck
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (14 July 2011):
 I can imagine how you felt reading that conversation, it would have been hurtful. All you can do is try and put it behind you. You say that you sort of knew it was coming, which indicates that perhaps the relationship had run its course.
Because you already have found a new place to live and to move out, just continue with your plans, try and be out before he returns and also try to leave on amicable terms, his conversation was meant for his friends eyes only, so try and keep it in that context.
Good luck with this new stage of your life.
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