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writes:Hi everyone. I need opinions! I've been seeing this guy for 3 months. It all started on my birthday when he organized an office party. In 6 yrs, none of my coworkers ever bothered to do it for me even though I've done it for them. Anyway, he's 10 yrs older than me. I'm 28. I had a recent breakup with a man I was with for 3 yrs back in mArch. He broke up with his gf of 2 yrs after my bday. He lives really far but has made the effort to drive down to hang out. But, he's not consistent with visits or phonecalls. For example, sometimes 2 weeks will go by without a visit. I don't go to his place because his ex lives on the same block and he says he doesn't want to show off a younger, new gf in her face. He says its worse bc he broke up with her. I have put myself in both hers and his shoes and I do understand. But, he has shoved himself into my life. He comes to my house and has introduced himself to my neighbors and family. I don't like that because I have not met anyone from his end. I've told him I don't like the double standards but he says he's taking it slow. But he's taking it fast with meeting my people! So, there's that and the fact that he won't call much or visit more than once a week. Do you think he's into me? I've told him to be honest and if the feelings aren't there, to please tell me. I wouldn't hold it against him. Also, we agreed to hold off on sex. Opinions please!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 July 2011):
 There are lots of red flags here. His inconsistency for one, also not meeting any of his friends or family when he is pushing himself into your life, and the ex girlfriend excuse? I think maybe he is still attached and not single at all.
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