Do I believe my current guy, who used to be a player, or my ex, who is a compulsve liar?
Q. Me and this guy have been friends for some time but we recently decided to take things a little further. We aren't officially dating or anything but we "talk". Anyway, He has a past of a cheater, but he has been 100% faithful to me. He gives me...
A. 1 August 2013: There is no rule in this life that you have to believe either. Why not show both of them your back as you walk away.
Until you let yourself be attracted to men who are not cheats, or players, or liars, or moochers or whatever other sort of men t... (read in full...)
I have amazing chemistry with this girl but she won't break up with her new boyfriend. Is she just leading me on?
Q. I met a girl on odd string of events. I went out on the porch of my friends house that i now have taken up residence to chill with him while he smoked. Well i looked across the street to the house directly across and saw this cute girl i had noticed ...
A. 1 August 2013: If she wont break up with her new boyfriend she isn't feeling the same chemistry as you feel.
I'd suggest asking her outright if she sees any future for the two of you together, and if she wont, or can't answer yes, then put on your walking ... (read in full...)
I've been saving for 9 months so that my boyfriend and I could move in together only to find that he has saved NOTHING at all. Is he subconsciously telling m he doesn't want to move to my area?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for coming up to two years and for the past year we've been talking about moving in together. We ruled out me moving to him because it is so much more expensive to live in his area that...
A. 1 August 2013: Consider this a wake up call ..... he isn't serious about moving. He isn't mature enough to give up the frivolous stuff for his car, he isn't mature enough to limit going out, he isn't mature enough to set up a simple saving plan, and because of ... (read in full...)
Can my siblings come after me for a decision my mom made on her insurance policy even though it's not my fault?
Q. Dear Cupid ,I have a question um my mom health is talking an awful turn we don't know how long she will be with us but she made me Power of Attorney over her and I was wondering who do I talk to about is there a (Will) my mom told me that if she ...
A. 1 August 2013: You are best to seek advice from a professional, in Australia the Power of Attorney ceases once the person dies and the Executor of the Will takes over dealing with matters. If your mother has made a will naming you as her beneficiary, and she was ... (read in full...)
My fiance and I are currently planning our wedding for December 2013 but I don't want his friends there.
Q. My fiance and I are currently planning our wedding for Decenber 2013. The problem is I don't want his friends there. Please advise me on how to handle this. Six months ago (when we were already engaged), he was invited to a wedding without ...
A. 31 July 2013: That was very rude of your fiancé's friends, to not invite you to the wedding when you were already engaged .... and I would have been hurt if I were in your shoes, I would also have been more than a tad angry to think my fiancé had blabbed all our ... (read in full...)
He is almost the perfect guy but he just wont text!
Q. i've been seeing this guy for 3 months now.everything was great. i know he likes me and he knows i like him. we went to several dates. he always holds my hand, hugs me when we are watching movies, always drops me off at my bus stop. in short to me ...
A. 31 July 2013: If he also does it to his mother and sister you know the issue is not with you. I can't see the problem to be honest, but then I prefer to talk to people and save the texting for thing like "held up, 5 mins away, C U soon".
Maybe your boyfrien... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is planning a weekend away with a female friend
Q. Id like some honest advice from men and women to see if I am just being over jealous or if anyone else would feel the same as me. My boyfriend of a year has a 4 year old girl from a previous relationship. He has lots of female friends which I ...
A. 31 July 2013: My gut tells me she has plans for a nice family holiday of one mummy, one daddy and two little girls. Your boyfriend is possibly too clueless to see this.
I would, when he gets around to discussing it with you, just naturally assume you are part... (read in full...)
I feel jealous because this guy gets a girl who is a virgin even though he probably is not one.
Q. This question might sound childish but it has been on my mind for quite sometime. I was dating this girl for awhile and found out she is a virgin. Now that is not the problem because I am one too but about a month ago I found out she was actually ...
A. 30 July 2013: Women and girls I have met have never expressed jealousy because their partners were not virgins. Very few (well only one) of the girls who I went to school with married, and is still married to, her first boyfriend.
Quite frankly, based on... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a squirting fixation and makes me feel inadequate because I can't do it.
Q. Sorry to be vulgar, but I am experiencing a bit of tension in my relationship because I am not meeting my partner's expectations. I am his first, and he has a "squirting" fixation... before we got together, he actually did not know it was poss...
A. 29 July 2013: This man is totally living in a fantasy world, does he really believe everything he sees on his telly?
Tell him either accept the real you, who is a real person with real orgasms. If he cannot accept your orgasms are real, based on some crappy f... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got angry with me and wants to break up because I didn't accompany her in to Starbucks, I'm considering giving her what she wants
Q. Story: We have being dating for just 3 years. We are both each other's first gf and bf. I am 28. She's 27. We are both Asians. I went to my gf's place to pick her and her sister up to attend their parents' event about 1.5 hrs away. They wante...
A. 29 July 2013: Seriously? Don't wait for her to ask to break up, tell her you are breaking up, tell her you are not a lap dog, tell her if you don't want to accompany her like pet lamb following her everywhere she goes, and that you just ain't a gonna do it. Tell ... (read in full...)
Should I let my sister and her family stay at my family home? I don't trust her.
Q. My sister wants to stay with my husband and I starting next week. Her, her boyfriend and their three children all under the age of 12 want to crash at our place, she says for 4 nights. I said, we could discuss staying if she had secured arrangements ...
A. 28 July 2013: Once they move in it could be a lengthy process to move them out again. It might be more cost effective in the long run to pay up front for them to stay somewhere for the four nights.
Good luck with it!
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MY girlfriend lied to me, we broke up and now everything is a mess
Q. Hi in need of help I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 and a half years. 10 days ago I had found out she had been lying to me. She had been going out with another guy and hiding it from me. It started out one day when I logged into Fac...
A. 25 July 2013: Run away from the lying cheater while you have the chance, and don't look back! She cheated with him 12 months ago, and has lied and cheated again since you first confronted her, so why on earth are you wanting her back again?... (read in full...)
I don't want to pay off boyfriends debts. How do I teach him to be more responsible?
Q. He's 21, and i'm 20. We've been together for 10 months now, and we're serious and in love. However, we're having money issues that are putting a strain on our relationship.. He has ADHD (not taking meds), is very irresponsible, and LOVES to spe...
A. 25 July 2013: Do not, I repeat, do not pay his debts. They are not your responsibility. You have not even been dating for a year and already he is expecting you to take care of his finances?
No, no, no, no, no! DO NOT!
He created the debts, and he cannot bl... (read in full...)
I can't wait forever for him! Do I move on?
Q. Hi I am really confused and need help deciding. I broke up with my bf. I had everything a girl could want but im scared of getting close to someone. Trust issues.-. But Im ready now and want to get back together. So foes he. But he's in a boys home ...
A. 24 July 2013: If he is in a boy's home how old is he?
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I want his girlfriend to know he's been cheating on her with me!
Q. So I've been talking/hooking up with this guy and he has a girlfriend of a few years... I don't want to change my situation with him yet but I do want her to know what he's doing. She seems like a really good (virginal) girl... How could I do this ...
A. 23 July 2013: Why do you want to do this. What benefit is it to you to hurt her like that?
Examine your motives very, very carefully, and then consider ALL possible ramifications.
... (read in full...)
My best male friend has cut me out of his life after his wife got jealous
Q. My male friend and I have been best friends ever since High School. We are both grown around our 30's now and we've been talking on the phone and emailing each other past years, I'am married with 2 kids and he just got married last year and a ...
A. 22 July 2013: Telling this woman her husband had discussed her with you was a no no. Not trying to get on with her but expecting her to be okay with your friendship with her husband, was also a no no.
I think you failed to understand husbands and wives co... (read in full...)
He has nothing about us on any of his social media sites, he hinted today on a post then took it down. I quietly took down anything associated with him and now he's upset. Am I wrong? What would you do?
Q. Long story short I have talked to my boyfriend about how uncomfortable it makes me feel that he does not have anything on any social media websites that say he has a girlfriend. No pictures, no statuses, his relationship status on FB is blank. He ...
A. 14 July 2013: There are two ways to solve this solution, the first one is to bring it all to a head. Next time he introduces you to somebody just by your name, smile broadly, hold out your hand and say "Hi, I'm Bill's (or whatever his name is)girlfriend, pleased ... (read in full...)
Since I no longer pay for everything, he doesn't hardly see me at all!
Q. Ok I'm back with more questions. I am still in the LDR. But have made some much needed changes. I no longer pay for everything but with that change it means he doesn't see me hardly at all. So this is probably the last straw. This weekend I drive 3 ...
A. 14 July 2013: Is it really the last straw? How many last straws are you going to have?
This relationship is going nowhere, let me repeat that NO WHERE!! You need to sit down and have a serious chat with your self, get a piece of paper and draw a line down the... (read in full...)
Heartbroken, in love with ex crush
Q. Please help. I have been noticing this man around a lot the last 3 weeks and we've been flirting (staring mostly by him and lots of smiles) we have not had chance to speak but have feeling that we would have got along, just didn't have chance to ...
A. 13 July 2013: HELLO! Earth calling!
You have seen him during the past three weeks, not even a month, you have never spoken, how the hell do you think you know why he is moving, c'mon, stop the lovely day dream because that is all it was, there was nothing ther... (read in full...)
He sent me a critique of our night together!
Q. Dear Cupid, Okay this is embarrassing.. I started to see a guy, very smart, kind and fun to be around. Last night was the 1st we had sex. I am a bit shy by nature but quite open minded sexually. Anyway the sex I thought was quite good, and when I...
A. 13 July 2013: Hi OP, I think you have made the right choice, maybe the young man in question will now take a long look at his actions and get over himself. He is the one with many lessons to learn from this, not you, I hope he heeds them.
If that had happened... (read in full...)
I don`t want to cheat but I`d like some affection from my friend
Q. Ok heres the dilema, I'm married and have 2 kids. Years ago I met a guy who totally blew my world away, we only saw each other for a short time and were never intimate sexually. I had to break it off because my ex wanted me back in my life and ...
A. 11 July 2013: What makes you think getting together and spending some time hugging, cuddling and kissing isn't cheating. Especially as there still seems to be an emotional involvement on your part. And how do you intend making sure that in the heat of the ... (read in full...)
We've been together a week and now he wants to have sex! I don't know what to do!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a week now, he is asking me for sex ,we are both 14, i dont know what to do can you help me? x ...
A. 9 July 2013: Yes, the best advise I can give is for you to tell him no! If he tries the old "if you really loved me .... routine tell him if HE really loved you he would respect your decision.
If you need more help, or if he persists come back here and the ... (read in full...)
He sent me a critique of our night together!
Q. Dear Cupid, Okay this is embarrassing.. I started to see a guy, very smart, kind and fun to be around. Last night was the 1st we had sex. I am a bit shy by nature but quite open minded sexually. Anyway the sex I thought was quite good, and when I...
A. 8 July 2013: Are you sure he wasn't trying to be funny .... and failing! If you are sure he wasn't, be a devil and critique him back, get a few of your girlfriends over and ask them to help you write it! A shared bottle of wine might make the critique even ... (read in full...)
Should I quit something I love (weed) in hope of happiness?
Q. Not a relationship question but advice please, right I have been smoking weed for about 10 years now and I still love it, I don't like alcohol as much for many reasons. Now my life is quite boring as I go to work, go home get high, go to a fr...
A. 6 July 2013: First, decide what you really want, to remain as you are, or to reach out for something different!
If you do want to change your life don't try and go it alone, go speak with your GP, be honest with him regards your pot smoking, and ask him if h... (read in full...)
Desperate for advice about living situation!
Q. Thank you for reading, I'm really struggling with this...I'll make it as brief as possible. I moved interstate 6 months ago, as I wanted a change and to live with mum (I'm 20). I have found a full-time job which I enjoy, and absolutely love liv...
A. 6 July 2013: I remember you writing several times previously about this issue. it sounds to me that depression may be causing a lot of your negative feelings (please note, I am not a trained medical professional), and I would strongly suggest you find a doctor ... (read in full...)
Would you change your religion for love?
Q. Ok,this is probably not the smartest question, having been spurred by the vision of a Sex and the City rerun, but I'd be curious to know the opinion of my esteemed DC colleagues and readers : would you change religion for love ? why, or why not ...
A. 6 July 2013: To me this scenario suggests religion is just like a hat you can put on and take off depending on the weather.
I want to marry this man, but he doesn't like my blue hat, it clashes with his read hat, so I'll swap hats and everything will be hunky... (read in full...)
My friend promised me she'd get me items on her trip and I'd pay her. She's been back a week and hasn't contacted me!
Q. Why have I not heard from her? What should I do? So my friend went on holiday and I asked her to get me some MAC products cause they are alot cheaper where she's going. She said that's fine. I texted her the things I wanted and said I wou...
A. 4 July 2013: Would it really matter if your friend DID NOT get the make up? What would you have done for make up if your friend hadn't gone on holiday? Go without? Buy a cheaper brand? Or pay the price it is where you live?
I don't see this as a cause to... (read in full...)
I want to make sure I get a good night of fun and then never have to see him again.
Q. Hey I am looking for some advice on how to play this situation I am in so I can snag this guy in my work before I leave next week. I started a new job like a couple of months ago but something else has come up with better money so i can leaving and ...
A. 1 July 2013: He has already told you just say where and when, so book the hotel room (unless you want to have sex in the back seat of his car), order the champers and put write the hotel name, room number and date and time on a piece of card and pop in an ... (read in full...)
Should I call my "friend" or write to her and tell her off..or should I just leave it?
Q. Hello Folks, A few months ago my best friend and I stopped speaking to each by my decision. She started her own busines a few years ago and I was there for her helping her all hours in the night and morning. Assisted her with her kids etc. She and ...
A. 1 July 2013: Get one of those blank cards, either a cute one or a pretty one, write in it, Hi XXX, just a short note to thank you for filling other people in on the details of my life, your doing so has really saved me heaps of time to get more important stuff ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but my guy friend who's interested in me just wont take no for an answer
Q. Hi there, I have a question about one of my guy friends.He is a sweet guy that would do anything for me.We hang out get along great but are just friends. he has been hinting around that he wants more, but I have a fiance and just want to remain ...
A. 29 June 2013: yech! What a creep. This is not a nice guy, nice guys listen when girls say no.
Stop being anywhere this guy is, especially without your fiancé, this person is not a friend, tell him he has overstepped the mark and walk away, quickly. Block hi... (read in full...)
She left me because I don't want kids
Q. I've been with the same girl for 12 years. She would like to have a baby. I really don't want kids. She has left me now to carry on with her life. It was a really painfull breakup. And I feel really guilty about my choises. She chose me to have a ...
A. 26 June 2013: No, you are not wrong, and neither is she. All you can do is wish her well and hope she finds a man who wants the same things she does .... especially a man who wants children.
... (read in full...)
Okay for a model girlfriend to kiss another guy model for photo shoot???
Q. My girlfriend does allot of modeling and yesterday she told me that she might be in a photo shoot where she will have to kiss another guy model. I'll be honest and say I am very protective of her and I don't even like the idea of a guy touching her ...
A. 24 June 2013: It is her job, you want her to give up her job, it's no different to actors kissing each other on stage and then going home to wives and husbands .... I don't understand why you think you have the right to tell her she can or cannot kiss another ... (read in full...)
Fiance wanted a break, he's talking to another woman about but isn't trying to fix things. What does he want?
Q. Hi, I wonder if anyone can help - five weeks ago my fiance and partner of three years, who I lived with along with his little girl, told me that he was unsure of his feelings for me and we should have a break. I was devastated - we only got eng...
A. 22 June 2013: Tell him to take a flying leap and threaten him with a breach of promise action.
Then walk away with you head high, AFTER blocking him on social networks etc.
Enter into no further discussions with him unless he come's knocking on your... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants a threesome. How do I handle this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, and have a great, caring, passionate relationship together. We often go out on a date night, go to our friends parties, etc together. Although neither of us are eachother's first long-term relati...
A. 21 June 2013: woops! As I was saying, I get frustrated with guys who seem to think a threesome with them receiving all the lurv from two chicks taking care of his every need would be the peak of sexual success. What's more important, a threesome or his ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants a threesome. How do I handle this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, and have a great, caring, passionate relationship together. We often go out on a date night, go to our friends parties, etc together. Although neither of us are eachother's first long-term relati...
A. 21 June 2013: Tell him the only threesome you will consider is boy/girl/boy and how much you are looking forward to seeing him taking it up the doo lacky!
I am happy to see you are not willing to consider a threesome with him, I don't see how not getting ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or was it just the drink making him be like this
Q. Hi, I am confused over the actions of my date the other night. It was a first date and we went to a baseball game together, he initially seemed very sweet, smart, good conversationalist. We went to several bars after the game where we contined...
A. 17 June 2013: You are not overreacting and he is a creep.
Maybe he thought all those drinks would do the trick for him, he has no respect for you, and only wanted to get you into bed for a quick roll in the hay.
Luckily it was only the first date and y... (read in full...)
Should I wait until the divorce comes through before I pursue things further with her?
Q. After a 6-year wait for a possible relationship, 3 months ago I finally got a reply from the advert I placed on Match.com, one thing I liked that she mentioned in her profile was B movies (and her advert seemed a little keen: it said: if you thin...
A. 17 June 2013: She is still living with her husband, I think she is still married and has no intention of being otherwise, and that yes, you are too tense.
You have never, ever met the woman and already you are writing her love poems declaring you will wait for... (read in full...)
Sex is different with my wife after our brief seperation
Q. After a short seperation my wife and I recently got back together again. we've been marrried 30 years. I've was worried she made have had an affair while we were seperated. after having sex with her for the first time in over a year I thought she ...
A. 15 June 2013: Both happen naturally. Explanations for both are easily found on several reputable websites.... (read in full...)
Do I end my long term relationship overseas due to homesickness??
Q. I moved from the US to Australia to be with my boyfriend over 2 years ago (he's an Australian citizen). I am currently debating ending my 7 year relationship with him, whom I love very much, because he doesn't want to move back to the states with me ...
A. 15 June 2013: Your boyfriend sounds like a decent bloke. I can understand his reluctance to move to the US when his career is here. It could be difficult for him to find the same level of job security in the States.
There are also the social aspects ... (read in full...)
Roommate is bringing cats into the home -- but I already have a dog
Q. I need your advice yet again agony aunts. Its not a relationship problembut rather a friendship problem. Ok, so I have 2 roommates and 1 is my best friend since I moved here. I also have a dog who loves people but can be picky with other dogs. Well ...
A. 15 June 2013: You haven't said why she needs to take her sister's cats, nor have you mentioned why your needs should take precedence over hers, (or why she believes her's take precedence over yours), I think this friendship is doomed unless you are both willing ... (read in full...)
I feel like my ex is my soul mate -- but I've since gotten married
Q. When I was seventeen, I met a guy and fell very deeply in love with him. Everything about him was ideal and we were together for three years. We broke up because he got a job in another continent and I was going to university and it didn't make ...
A. 15 June 2013: Phht, he always thought you and he would get back together again one day, and he had to take a day off work when he heard you got married.
What the hell did he think you were going to do in between the space where you and he broke up and that mys... (read in full...)
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