Why is she like this? What is wrong with my sister?
Q. Hi all well I have something on my mind and heart it's my sister we are always at each other's throats . But it's not me I don't argue with her I just let her talk to a certain extent. The problem is my mom is sick and she made me her Power of Att...
A. 9 December 2012: You sister feels as though you have been chosen over her (and you have, but that was your mother's choice to make and I am sure she had very good reasons for doing so).
If you are caring for your mother in your home, or you live in hers, there is... (read in full...)
I know I'm going to break up with him. But am I right to wait until after Christmas? Should I return his Christmas presents after we break up?
Q. Something has snapped in me this week and I have finally decided, after a lot of heartache, that I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. He is no longer making any effort with me, and despite me bringing it up several times and him prom...
A. 9 December 2012: The gift isnt a problem, you are both buying each other ssomething of the same value, £200, so if he is getting a present as well there is no unfair advantage.
However, if you are planning on breaking it off, you should do it sooner rather t... (read in full...)
Did my Ex ever really move on? Why does he still get so mad at me? How am I annoying him?
Q. Ok everyone, here it goes. Sorry if I am rambling a bit. Lately, I have been having trouble with my EX. I should add that it has been a year and a half since we split…..we are both in our 30's. He broke it off with me, saying he wasn't ready...
A. 9 December 2012: I like Aunty Em's farewell letter.
Block him on facebook and all other social networking sites, block his number so he cannot text you. If he gets around the blocks and continues to harrass save the messages, take screen shots of anything... (read in full...)
Her Fiance was caught cheating. How can I help her see him more clearly and help her heal from her blinded love?
Q. how can i convince my friend that her to-be-husband is not worth keeping? all her family have had many doubts before with no hard evidence, but now he has been caught with a women in their village. Relatives saw them and told her. Yet she wouldn...
A. 9 December 2012: There is no-one so blind as the person who refuses to see.
You are stuck here, there is nothing you can do to make your friend see the truth, or to acknowledge the truth. She is refusing to see it.
Its frustrating I know, maybe one last t... (read in full...)
I thought he was cool. But he's talking about me to others and my private messages to him are being re-posted to others. What can I do?
Q. I like this guy because he seems cool and funny but not romantically. sometimes i send him pms. however he is making a huge deal out of it. apparently he's been telling people i pm him and now they are joking saying i'm his gf. They are talking abou...
A. 8 December 2012: First up stop trusting him, secondly stop pm'ing him.
There is not a lot you can do to stop the teasing at this stage except to sit tight and let it blow over. If the boy asks why you are not pm'ing him tell him you will when you have somethin... (read in full...)
Can I fix my marriage? If the answer is "yes", then what should I do?
Q. my wife and i are at the end of our marriage, I think. I made mistakes. When I was dating her i was also dating another. I proposed to her with hickies from another woman on me. While married i felt feelings for her sister for 2 weeks and just r...
A. 8 December 2012: I think your wife is making the right decision when she says "no". Neither of you have demonstrated the capacity for a loving monogamous relationship.
The fact you developed feelings for her sister for two weeks and then told another woman yo... (read in full...)
Is he being too needy or am I just wrong?
Q. Hey all! I always have received amazing advice from this site and I really need some now. There is this guy, let's call him S. S and I have been friends since a few months. We were introduced through common friends. I found him to be nice and dece...
A. 8 December 2012: No, don't settle for S or anybody.
Either he is extremely needy, or has never had a relationship before and is unaware he is suffocating you or he hasn't learnt what boundaries are or he is a little bit nuts.
If you wish to maintain a frien... (read in full...)
How can I stop being hurt by the break-up with my husband when he was never good for me in the first place?
Q. How can I stop being hurt by my husband when he was never good for me and over the idea of getting back together with him for our child's sake? Been married 6 years, currently separated (2nd time) and have a two year old son. Lots of bad stuff hap...
A. 8 December 2012: You are grieving. Not just for the marriage that has ended, but also for the hopes and dreams you had when you married him, and for the future you thought you were going to have, but are now not.
None of us marry expecting we will end up as singl... (read in full...)
How can I stop being hurt by the break-up with my husband when he was never good for me in the first place?
Q. How can I stop being hurt by my husband when he was never good for me and over the idea of getting back together with him for our child's sake? Been married 6 years, currently separated (2nd time) and have a two year old son. Lots of bad stuff hap...
A. 8 December 2012: You are grieving. Not just for the marriage that has ended, but also for the hopes and dreams you had when you married him, and for the future you thought you were going to have, but are now not.
None of us marry expecting we will end up as singl... (read in full...)
I asked my ex girlfriend if she's dating someone else. What does her answer mean?
Q. I asked my ex girlfriend if she is dating someone and her answer was "I'm not going to answer that". I've been told that she means it is none of mine business. But is she still interested in me?...
A. 5 December 2012: Let me get my crystal ball and you can cross my palm with silver.
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My girlfriend wants to reconnect, on a friendship level, with the ex who hurt her. I don't know how to feel about this.
Q. Here's my situation. Just over a year and a half ago, I started dating an incredible girl. We get along great. Our relationship is everything I could ever want in every way. We have made it clear to each other that we want to get married once we're ...
A. 5 December 2012: I would be concerned in your shoes. Why on earth is she wanting to reconnect with somebody who hurt her, what makes her think she cant have a civil conversation with him if she meets up with him again at camp without facebook messaging and being ... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be upset about my husband not wanting to delete pictures of him and his ex together?
Q. my husband and have been married for almost 2 years and he knows that i have a jealous problem, (no bad) but today he was looking at old pics and he went by a pic of him in his ex's room and in back ground there were pics of her and him together, i ...
A. 5 December 2012: Deleting the picture wouldn't be deleting the past, he would still have dated her, she would still be his ex, and you still would be the one he married.
C'mon, its a picture of him, with pictures depicting his past in the background. Whatever... (read in full...)
If I ask someone if they are dating and the response is "I won't answer that." What does it mean?
Q. I ask my ex girlfriend if she is dating someone and her answer was "I'm not going to answer that", what does she mean?...
A. 4 December 2012: She means it is none of your business.
She means she doesnt have to answer your questions.
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My ex contacted me and wants to communicate again. I feel guilty for refusing her request, advice?
Q. My ex has recently contacted me after no contact for six years. We had been together for 18 years and she left me for another man. I have found out that she got married and now has separated from the guy she left me for. The split really hur...
A. 4 December 2012: Don't feel guilty. You have nothing to feel guilty about. From the face of it it would appear your former partner is having some regrets. Those are her problem, I expect it took you a while to get your self together after she left your marriage ... (read in full...)
Alcohol means he does the meanest things. Is this co-dependancy? Do I need a reality check?
Q. Am i crazy? I feel like i am on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I don't know if i should stay or go! I have been married for over 13 years and have 4 children. For so long i did not realize something was wrong. Or maybe it isn't wrong and it...
A. 1 December 2012: Go back to counselling, without him. The reason you husband thought the previous cousellor was siding with you is because he, (your husband) was being shown what a controlling, nasty, mean streaked, debasing individual he is.
So resume counsell... (read in full...)
What's best? My friends say "give him the shove" but I have a major crush on him.
Q. A lad and I who i work with having been seeing each other for a few weeks, just sex nothing serious. I fancied him from the second i met him ( 7 months ago ) but he was with his ex. We flirted a lot till i found out he had a girlfriend f...
A. 1 December 2012: He has already said he doesn't want a relationship with you. He doesn't want to find somebody else to have sex with, you are handy and willing so why should he.
If you don't have a problem with being on call for a quick roll in the hay with out... (read in full...)
Is my behavior my fault, or the fault of the person who caused me to behave this way?
Q. SIMPLE QUESTION: if i tell someone (in this case a family member) not to do or say a certain thing b/c it'll get me really angry, and then they go ahead and say or do what gets me angry anyways, and i blow up and get mad, am i at fault, or ...
A. 29 November 2012: If you are the one getting upset and angry then yes, you are the person with the problem.
Your so called fair warnings might have carried some weight when you were 9 or 10 but what ever words they are that you claim provoke you should be like wat... (read in full...)
My husband cheated, the marriage is over but I'm afraid to end it
Q. Dear cupid My husband had cheated on me in the past a few times i for gave him and we have tried to put it behind us. His affairs went on all though our marriage until he got caught,(20 yrs) no doubt he would still be cheating if he had not been...
A. 28 November 2012: Contact a woman's group or a refuge or women;s health centre, or a crisis telephone counselling service who should be able to direct you to somewhere to help you sort this out.
You need to leave, or get him to leave, this man can't be trusted,... (read in full...)
I fear I've been used by a man I met on a dating site.
Q. I have been such a fool. I joined a dating site and met what seemed like a man in a million. He was a good listener, polite and we clicked. He took me for a meal and we ended up at my home, we talked and he listened to my problems and then we slept ...
A. 27 November 2012: This scenario is not unusual, sadly there are some men who do this over and over again.
Don't beat yourself up over this, yes, admit you were silly and allowed yourself to fall for a dream which was weaved by a liar and a user, but the true bla... (read in full...)
I hate my boyfriend's mother.
Q. Okay so I've been with my boyfriend for about a year, I am 15 and he is 17. The major problem for us is that I absolutely can not stand his mother. I don't want to say hate, because that is a powerful word, but it is definitely getting there. I ...
A. 27 November 2012: If your boyfriend wants money for Christmas what's to stop him earning it?
And hey you! If a single mother wants to use HER income to buy seasons tickets and remodel her basement and have a thanksgiving dinner catered for well that's her freaking... (read in full...)
Does this relationship have any kind of future?
Q. I have been dating an older man exclusively for a little over 3 months now. We have been going slowly on the emotional aspect, which I understand b/c we were both still healing from previous relationships. But there are a few things that have...
A. 26 November 2012: To summarise your question, this man, who is older, has no intention of having any sort of future with you, but requires you to reassure him often that you will not leave for another man.
He has told you he still has feelings for his ex, and when... (read in full...)
I don't know how to fix the problems with my Gf since she cheated. WHAT should I do?
Q. I need help. I have a girlfriend who, like me had a rough childhood, which has ultimately made us both kinda crazy. When we are happy, it is obvious we are in love, but when we are mad, you would think we have been married for 45 years. She...
A. 26 November 2012: This reminds me of the woman who cheated because she was on the pill. The chemicals made her do it!!
The excuse above and the excuse your girlfriend are giving are the same, both full of crap and codswallop, but if you want to accept that exc... (read in full...)
How do I show more respect to my boyfriend?
Q. Hello there, I need help, I'm 21 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for over three years now and we've our ups and downs. To cut a long story short he has been telling me he's lacking respect from me and that I don't treat him as the man he ...
A. 26 November 2012: You list your age as 21, he is two years younger, that makes him 19 .... you have been with him for over three years, that means since he was about 16. Pubity for boys usually spans from age 9 to around 17.
His problem (he says) is that you don'... (read in full...)
I have an interview for a job. Any hint, tips or suggestions to help me succeed this time?
Q. Can anyone give me some advice on this ? . I have an interview for a Sales Suppport position with an Estate Agency on Wednesday. It's only part time, but i don't mind about that. I have been unemployed for three years, and i don't have much wor...
A. 26 November 2012: Dress appropriately for the postition you are applying for, but not in clothes that make you feel uncomfortable. If you have facial piercings remove them for the moment until you work out what their stance is and then perhaps just introduce them ... (read in full...)
She won't break up with me but isn't talking to me. What should I do?
Q. I've hurt my girlfriend really, really badly and she has given me the silent treatment ever since (2 months now). The first 3 weeks she was extremely angry and now she is depressed and avoiding me. I know she doesn't want to end this but she doesn't ...
A. 24 November 2012: The silent treatment is never better than some good old fashioned communication.
If it has been two months since she even spoke you need to consider this relationship is not going anywhere fast.
It sounds as if you have done all you can for ... (read in full...)
Suggestion for toys that can be worn for an extended period of time?
Q. What are some good toys to be worn for long periods of time (few hours). I really like bullets but was looking to expand horizons beyond a tiny bullet. Any suggestions under 60$? P.S can be worn secretly while shopping ect....
A. 24 November 2012: Karlos, did you not understand the questions :)
The asker wants us to do rssearch for her for items she can shove (I hate to be crude but sometimes its the only way to go) up her clacker so that she can do her shopping with a knowing smile on... (read in full...)
My family are putting pressure on me to get married
Q. Please help? My grandma is very old (in her seventies) and called me an "old maid" (I am 25!) In her day girls were married by 17 or 18....and she said if I don't get married soon her blood pressure is already high and she may have a heart att...
A. 24 November 2012: Sorry, I laughed at your question. Families huh, you have ta love 'em.
Ask Grandma if she really wants you to rush into marriage and a parcel of kids just to let her die happy. Ask her if there is an end date you should be working towards.... (read in full...)
He takes days to reply is he into me
Q. I met this guy online we swapped numbers and started texting each other. The first day of texting was really intresting. I looked him up facebook and read aall his wall post and he seemed like the most sweetest guy in the world. he suggested we meet ...
A. 24 November 2012: I am soooo sorry you are not interested in hearing me "say u have not known him long" because I am going to ignore your request "dont" because you are "not I'm not interested in hearing that"
how far do you think you are going to get in life if ... (read in full...)
How can we make this temporary LDR work? He says he hates texting and hardly ever has his phone on, and hardly ever calls
Q. Hello everyone, Due to financial reasons me and my partner are currently living at home with our families, we have been together for three years. Its quite a distance apart, and with work its hard to see each other. This is why i am confused...
A. 23 November 2012: Relationships take two, when one person does all the work and all the running around it creates an imbalance .... let him know you are concerned because it feels you are the only one in this relationship and then pull back a bit, if he makes an ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this? He's blocked me off all his social networking sites because apparently I "moan" too much
Q. I am 19 years old and have been in love with the same guy since I was 13. I've never been with another man and we have never been friends always more but on/off as he often goes with other women. I'm so close to him and his family and for a strang...
A. 23 November 2012: Not being there and not knowing either of you in real life, so while my sympathies are with you all the way, I want to take an opposite view and be devil's advocate here: has he asked you to clean his house, does he ask you to be with his mum, ... (read in full...)
I Don't want sexy undies for Christmas again!
Q. Im dreading my Christmas present from my partner, it will be 'sexy underwear' i dont know why he keeps wasting his money because ive told him time and time again that i dont like it and it makes me feel cheap. I dont feel comfortable wearing it at ...
A. 22 November 2012: Sit him down at the kitchen table, you sit beside him. You say "Fred" and make sure he is looking into your eyes and aware you are talking to him, if he looks away call his attention back by saying his name.
"Fred, I have something important to t... (read in full...)
What would you do if your significant other said their ex's name during sex?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 3 years. The other night we were in the middle of sex and she said another man's name. More importantly it was her ex's name. She tried to play it off like it didn't happen. Has anyone been in this situation ...
A. 20 November 2012: I've done that, it meant nothing, my partner laughed and to be honest, it did't kill the mood.... (read in full...)
Why did he break up with me? No one can figure it out!
Q. Background:keep in mind during this that my boyfriend is 22, a county cop, and raised really well off( his mom is seriously loaded). PRIOR to me he dated a girl for 3 yrs, they were having problems so he ended up getting engaged still had ...
A. 19 November 2012: This young man is only 22, already been married and divorced, personally I don't think he is mature enough for a long term committment.
he was dating his ex wife for three years prior to being married to her for 8 months, he was only 18, and then... (read in full...)
Should I try to contact this model? I don't know him but I'd like to get to know him, maybe have a relationship.
Q. I'm a 25 yr old woman, I'm attracted to a male model, He's gorgeous! The guy isn't a well known model, so it's not like he might have a massive ego. The pictures of him are 2 years old and it doesn't seem like he has had any new work as a model. I...
A. 18 November 2012: You've fallen in love with a picture of a guy in a controlled shoot, he has been dressed by somebody else, had a little make up applied, hair brushed by a hair sylist, air brushed and had any of the little imperfections we all have, photo shopped ... (read in full...)
How can I make him commit to me?
Q. I am emotionally drained. I love someone who I have a child with. We have a 27year old on and off love affair. He always says his life is to complicated to commite to anyone. But continues to want to spend time with me. I'm not fulfill with ...
A. 18 November 2012: You can't make another person do anything. However, you can change what you do and how his actions affect you.
If you don't want you relationship to be a secret, hey, stop hiding it. If he still visits but you want committment, then close th... (read in full...)
Child's father's wife is trying to raise my child!
Q. Hello, My problem is with my child's father's wife. I don't mind her being a part of my child's life because that is his child. The problem is that when it comes to communicating with him about our daughter, she speaks as though she is the father. I ...
A. 17 November 2012: Your boyfriend is taking the wife's side because she is married to him? Am I reading this right and the baby's father and the boyfriend referred to are the same person and you meant to write "ex boyfriend"?
Either way it doesn't matter. Child su... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to stop playing with my hair? He's caused a lot of it to fall out!
Q. Ok this is a stupid question but I need as many suggestions as possible. My boyfriend always plays with my hair and I need him to stop. He does it without thinking, in the car, in his sleep, laying in his arms watching tv, at the cinema, sitting ...
A. 15 November 2012: If he wont take any notice of your requests for him to stop start a shower cap when you are near him .... or, whenever he starts yell "STOP" if he wont stop then move away from him, you need to retrain him from this bad habit, it should only take ... (read in full...)
My ex owes me money! Is it worth trying to get it back?
Q. Grrrrr, i can't believe I am yet again posting about my ex... He owes me money for a car that i sold back to him before the summer (at his request might i add) I have sent him a couple of reminder emails, but just get fobbed off each time, last ...
A. 15 November 2012: Actually I like Maverick's idea of contacting him on his facebook wall, where everybody can see it.... (read in full...)
My ex owes me money! Is it worth trying to get it back?
Q. Grrrrr, i can't believe I am yet again posting about my ex... He owes me money for a car that i sold back to him before the summer (at his request might i add) I have sent him a couple of reminder emails, but just get fobbed off each time, last ...
A. 15 November 2012: Forget the email, phone him, tell him you are aware he has bought a new car and you would like him to repay the $750 he owes you. Then ask him when it would be convenient for you to drop by and pick it up.
But to be honest, I think you have don... (read in full...)
Dreams about not being able to walk....what does this mean?
Q. Hey everyone, I don't know if this happens to you guys,but every night I get a dream about not being able to walk..like I don't meet with an accident or anything,neither am I paralysed or handicapped or anything in the dream,I'm fine,like yesterda...
A. 15 November 2012: My dream book suggests you are not on the path you should be on, something is either holding you back from moving forward or blocking your path.
If you can't work out what the blockage is when you are awake try and take more notice when you are ... (read in full...)
How can my husband and I handle the drama with his ex-partners and his children? It's becoming a problem
Q. I married to the most wonderful man I've ever known. We both in our 30's and are both Born Again Christians. He has fathered three boys before we met. I gave birth to one son during my first marriage. We got married in February this year a...
A. 15 November 2012: Okay, first of all you need to leave any negotiation about his children to him, and their mother. don't involve yourself with their mother.
Secondly let her take your husband to court every three months, surely after a few times in court the judg... (read in full...)
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