Why is my husband playing games? I feel like crying when he does these things to me.
Q. My husband is very manipulative. If I'm listening to my music, and I walk out of the room to do something (like the washing). I'll come back in and find my music has been turned off. The lights are off. I ask him, what are you doing? His repl...
A. 3 March 2013: Has he always tried to conserve electricity? Are you bills much higher than usual?
If you don't think this could be the cause, has his behaviour changed in other ways, could it be part of the aging process, how long since he had a thorough chec... (read in full...)
Will my married lover leave his wife? Or just keep me holding on to hopelessness?
Q. I have fallen in love with a married man. He has not divorced her. Our relationship has been 3 yrs. I want to end the relationship but things keep getting better between us. She was in an accident last year and still in recovery. I am unsure i...
A. 3 March 2013: Okay, so since the accident he has been taking care of her, and to leave her now will just make him look like a bigger arsehat than he already is? I get that, but what stopped him leaving her for the two years prior?
How long do you plan waiting ... (read in full...)
My crazy ex claimed she was pregnant the day after we broke up!
Q. Hello, I feel like I'm falling apart and desperately need some help and advice from others to help me piece everything together in my own head. So about 2 months ago I was introduced to a girl through a mutual friend who thought we might be good...
A. 3 March 2013: Wow, all this after only two months.
It does sound to me as if she is trying to bluff you, and for some reason your mutual friend has either been sucked into the story or decided to go along with her ... for whatever reason. I think you should s... (read in full...)
She keeps calling me by her ex's name.
Q. My girlfriend has called me her ex boyfriends name four times now....why??? She was with him for a few years but was cheating with me almost the entire time. She meant me first but i wasnt ready to date yet and she chased me the entire time. SOMEONE ...
A. 3 March 2013: Most people probably have called somebody by the wrong name at some stage or another, I actually did it at a very intimate moment .....
There is no need to run for the hills, unless you have other reasons to suspect your girl is now cheating... (read in full...)
My partner is unable to maintain an erection.
Q. im 30 and got wit a man who is 36 and hes a virgin. everytime we try to have sex he just doesnt get hard enough to do anything and this has happened about 5 times now so need help thankyou....
A. 3 March 2013: You best bet would be to visit your nearest GP, to make sure there is nothing medically wrong causing the problem and go from there.
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Is my husband's honesty admirable or despicable?
Q. My husband told me that he loves me, but he's not attracted to my body, anymore. He said he just wants to be honest with me. He really isn't trying to be mean, and he's not saying it in a demeaning way. Specifically, he wants me to tone my body....
A. 2 March 2013: With the benefit of hindsight I would be telling him there is no way I was going to have the body of a 20 year old ever again, if that is what he wants would he like to sit down and arrange access to the children now, or include it in the divorce ... (read in full...)
How can I be of support to my Bf who is trying to leave his baby Mama?
Q. My boyfriend is going through changes because he is trying to leave his baby mama for me How can I be of support? Because sometimes I feel guilty that I am getting all of him .......
A. 2 March 2013: Trying to leave? What's stopping him, are the floorboard there covered with glue, is there a ring through his nose to which a rope is tied, held very firmly by the mother of his child? What's going on there, does his baby cry for him each time he ... (read in full...)
My married crush says he's divorcing his wife for me. Should I leave my fiance or wait and see what happens?
Q. I have had a crush on this guy since I was 8 years old (I just turned 36) A couple of years ago we reconnected and started conversating early on I admitted to him the crush I still have on him. We started chatting for hours a day sharing everything ...
A. 1 March 2013: Regardless if the cheating two timing husband is going to leave his wife or not, you are not treating your fiance right. If you have no intention of remaining faithful to him you should end it now.
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Should I have my boyfriend over and let him tell my dad we'll be out for 2 days?
Q. For Valentine's, my 33 year-old boyfriend got me a gift voucher, good for a spa day for two, and a night in a hotel, breakfast included. We've gone to the spa (great, by the way), and we will book the night very soon. However, I mentioned this...
A. 1 March 2013: No, just say something along the lines of "Dad, I going away for 2 number of days from next Friday. Fred got us a voucher for a night at PoshPlace Hotel for Valentine's Day. Do you want me to write it on the calendar or will you remember?
That ... (read in full...)
Girl flirting with my boyfriend at party, and then friending him on Facebook.
Q. My boyfriend and I were at a birthday party at a house a few weeks ago. We met a mutual friend of one of the birthday girls for the first time, a female about our age. At first she seemed really nice and we were both chatting with her. Then ...
A. 28 February 2013: My response to you could be to copy much of what "You wish" has said.
I agree your issue here isnt with this woman but with your boyfriend. he accepted her friend's request AFTER knowing how you felt AND then he hid his list from you.
So yes,... (read in full...)
We have to sneak around because of my boyfriend's best friend. Do I just drop both of them?
Q. i have a man i have been seeing for a three months ..i would not say we are in a relationship because neither one of us has committed however we talk on the phone everyday and i see him often. To make the story simpler though i will call him my ...
A. 25 February 2013: Sorry, I finished the previous too soon. Once you tell your bf you are not playing any more games of hide and seek, invite him to yours for a meal followed by watching a DVD or playing canasta or whatever.
If he wont come because it will ups... (read in full...)
We have to sneak around because of my boyfriend's best friend. Do I just drop both of them?
Q. i have a man i have been seeing for a three months ..i would not say we are in a relationship because neither one of us has committed however we talk on the phone everyday and i see him often. To make the story simpler though i will call him my ...
A. 25 February 2013: Tell bf you are too old for this school yard behaviour, and the bullying best friend can either suck it up or they are both off your Christmas card list.
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I'm afraid my boyfriend's flirty friend will take him away from me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 3 years. He has a female friend who is constantly flirting with him in front of me, and they have a close friendship. I am trying to keep my mouth shut, because I don't know if I can talk to them both ...
A. 24 February 2013: Hi again,
if you and your boyfriend have been in an established boyfreind/girlfriend relationship for three years, and all three of you in this triangle attend the same school, I don't understand why you and he are not invited to the same par... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to cope when my partner is out of town for work? I get so lonely.
Q. Hi all! I was hoping for some help... I've been used to living with my parents and 2 siblings all my life, so it's always been a busy home. However my partner and I bought our 1st house together last year and I love living with him, jus...
A. 23 February 2013: Volunteer somewhere, and asked to be rostered on only when your partner is away, a crisis line would be a good one to keep you busy nights .... do some night courses, woodwork maybe and build yourself a bookcase, cookery lessons, contact your local ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my boyfriend's flirty friend will take him away from me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 3 years. He has a female friend who is constantly flirting with him in front of me, and they have a close friendship. I am trying to keep my mouth shut, because I don't know if I can talk to them both ...
A. 23 February 2013: I am a little surprised at your concern your boyfriend and his friend went Christmas shopping without parents chaperoning as that behaviour would usually be accepted as quite a normal thing in Australia, where your location apparently is. In fact I ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex's new girlfriend stalking me?
Q. Ok so my child's dad has a new girlfriend I have decided to accept it and move on as long as he takes care of business I just moved to his area staying with my aunt until my place comes through the end of spring and job searching before i move so he ...
A. 20 February 2013: She feels threatened by your moving back. Some women believe if you have the child you have the man (this is not true but hey, some people believe anything).
IF you are feeling threatened take screen shots of her page, in fact take screen s... (read in full...)
Suggestions for activities that cost little to no money?
Q. Any suggestions on fun activities that aren't so costly or cost no money at all? I want to show my boyfriend that we dont have to spend so much or no money at all to have fun. And how can i encourage him to do fun activities?...
A. 17 February 2013: Museums, art galleries, picnics as simply as a sandwich, piece of fruit and bottle of juice, in a park or place where you can sit and people watch, book shops, find a bunch of gamers and try D & D or something similar, walk trails, check out your ... (read in full...)
I went on a few dates with a girl, but nothing panned out...however I really hit it off with her friend. Should I pursue this?
Q. A while ago I went on a few dates with a girl but before anything got started we both realized we weren't each other's types and so broke it off. She's now become romantically involved with a friend of mine - which is absolutely fine by me but it ...
A. 11 February 2013: Indications so far look good, the girl you dated is involved with a friend of yours so there shouldn't be any problems from that direction, approach her and apologise for your walking off last night, make a few jokes, buy a drink, and see what ... (read in full...)
I just noticed my exgirlfriend got very thin and I think she looks amazing...is it because she broke up with me?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend just over a month ago and I saw her last night and she's always been a skinny girl, nice weight and her figure in all the time i've known her was just perfect. But last night I saw her out and i noticed she look...
A. 11 February 2013: I doubt it was YOU causing the weight loss, the STRESS caused by the bad breakup could have contributed to the weight loss, to be honest your question sounds like you are prepared to stand up and take the credit for the fact she is looking so good ... (read in full...)
Should I allow him to "brand" me with a tattoo? He's 24. I know he will not take me back if I refuse.
Q. So, me and this guy have just been through a break up, our relationship was a little rough around the edges mainly because he's 24 and I'm 16. I know I know, forget about the age a second. I'm really desperate to get him back and he says I need to ...
A. 10 February 2013: I wouldn't care if you were 66 rather than 16, my answer is the same, no. You are not a piece of livestock to be branded, what the hell are you even considering this for.
Find yourself a decent bloke who will treat you as a person and respect ... (read in full...)
My partner's ex has thrown out her son and he is living with my ex. Its not his son and he doesn't know how to help the situation!
Q. Hope you can help me... I feel so so sorry and helpless for my other half. He split up from his ex around 5 years ago who had a son (not his). Over Xmas, she decided she didn't want him so threw her son out as he was just being a typical teenager...
A. 3 February 2013: Kicking the boy out means what the mother wants no longer has any sway. If the biological dad is safe and able and willing, and the boy is willing, then him going to his fathers would be the ideal situation.
Poor kid! Your boyfriend should f... (read in full...)
Is there hope for us even though we only went on one date a year ago?
Q. I need advise on my love life. There is this guy I really like we went on a date once about a year ago. He hasn't asked me since but he texts me and emails me every few weeks asking how I am and if I am ok. Is there any chance for us or am I chasin...
A. 3 February 2013: One date a year ago .... doesn't sound promising. How about suggesting you meet up for coffee or a movie and see what happens.... (read in full...)
I compromise all the time with him. He becomes verbally abusive all the time. Then is back to normal 5 to 10 minutes later. What should I do?
Q. hey I am from an orthodox middle class family. I met a guy in facebook. He was charming and decent. We fell in love. It was fine then but now he is verbally abusive, calling names argues often. I compromise him every time. Thent he behaves n...
A. 3 February 2013: You are hurting and in pain daily because HE has mental health issues? Is he being treated, is he on medication or is he simply a bastard who acts like that because he can.
This is not good for you, he has no respect for you, try not compromi... (read in full...)
Are relationships that exist with absolutely NO violence towards one another?
Q. Aunts and Uncles... Have any of you (honest answers please) had a physical fight with your current spouse? I just want to know if there are relationships that exist with absolutely NO violence towards one another. Again, please be honest. Th...
A. 3 February 2013: I know many relationships without violence between the partners and without violence towards other family members. I am not saying the people in these relationships don't have arguments and get upset with each other but they are able to resolve ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my three children that I'm going to have another baby?
Q. dear aunts and uncles .. i have found myself in somewhat of a mess , first of all let me tell you a little bit of my story ,, i seperated from my husband about 9 months ago after a long hard marriage and about 8 weeks ago i met a lovely man .. we ...
A. 1 February 2013: Oh my goodness, only 8 weeks and he has moved in already with your children AND impregnated you!
Love after 8 weeks is difficult to accept, there hasnt even been time for the first glow to fade away.
There is really no way to say this gently,... (read in full...)
I feel as if I go out of my way for everyone and no-one can be bothered when it comes to me.
Q. Its' my birthday today. A milestone. A special one. I've had a tear in my eye most of the day – not because I have reached 40 but because I feel so let down and now I'm feeling that maybe I'm being unreasonable, selfish and ungrateful. Situat...
A. 1 February 2013: Your boyfriend is a pill for promising a trip to Paris for the past three years and then coming up with a bunch of flowers after he was unable to deliver the alternative. Tell him firmly (but without getting upset) it was very wrong of him to be ... (read in full...)
I went through a divorce and want to change my surname but don't want to go back to my family name either!
Q. I have a really difficult decision to make pretty soon regarding changing my surname and I need some help!! I am now 40 (got divorced last year) after 19 years of marriage. I don't have children. When I married I took my husbands surname. So f...
A. 28 January 2013: What about your mother's maiden name or even your father's mother's.
And then just change it by deed poll.... (read in full...)
Does anyone else have to pay board to their parents?
Q. Hi, just a quick question! I am 20 years old, and have just moved back home. My parents have asked me to contribute $100 a week, for rent/bills/food. I work full-time, making about $600 (aus) a week. I also have my phone bill to pay, as well as ...
A. 27 January 2013: I always paid board, and my kids. Daughter was with me recently for 2 years, studying, paid $100 per week and bought her own toileries .... shared cooking and other household chores.
A friend rents out a room in her house, her lodger pays $17... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend controlling or normal?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just 4 months now but we have been seeing eachother since last July. He is honestly, the most caring, loving, gentle man I have ever come across ( and I am not saying that because he is my boyfriend ). I have just ...
A. 25 January 2013: Your boyfriend is aged 20, two years ago (when he was 18) he broke up with his girlfriend of three years, (he was 15 when he started dating her). To be honest your story sounds like a windup, a falsehood, or fabrication.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's children are not invited to my family's events. How can I handle this?
Q. I have a small predicament that I could do with some help with. Myself and my fella have been together over 18 months. He has 2 kids and we all love each other to bits. My parents took a long time to accept it but they have now. The only prob...
A. 17 January 2013: Do the kids live with him full time or does he have weekend access? Or do you and he and the children all live together?
If the kids live with him full time you need to tell your mum he is your boyfriend and his kids are part of the package.... (read in full...)
Her marriage has ended but husband won't leave!
Q. I've been involed in a relationship with a married woman and we have fallen in love with each other. Her marriage has ended but he won't leave. They were only married for just about 2 yrs. been bad from the beginning. I've never felt love like we ...
A. 10 January 2013: Well hello, unless she is chained to the floor, or has her feet nailed to the floor, or is totally immobile there is no reason why she cannot do the leaving. Is there?
If the marriage is over, and they are divorced (are they) we can assume a... (read in full...)
Housework and chore trouble with my boyfriend, do I move out?
Q. My boyfriend and I have lived for a few years now and the housework situation is getting out of control. He grew up with maids and is totally incompetent. Which would be OK I guess, but he won't listen to me or try to learn. I'll try to explain to ...
A. 9 January 2013: Move out. Grown men know not to make a mess when doing dishes, that mess he makes is a deliberate ploy used by children as a means to get out of doing something.
Chucking a sad and stomping off to play video games rather than helping with chores i... (read in full...)
Just found out my boyfriend's ex is pregnant by him. Do I stay? Or go?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months goin on six...and just the other night he found out from a girl he dated before me she is pregnant...he told that he don't want the baby momma and loves me. An sees us with a future he don't want me to go ...
A. 8 January 2013: If you have been with him for nearly six months and she was five months pregnant that means he was either cheating on her with you or cheating on you with her.
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Just found out my boyfriend's ex is pregnant by him. Do I stay? Or go?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months goin on six...and just the other night he found out from a girl he dated before me she is pregnant...he told that he don't want the baby momma and loves me. An sees us with a future he don't want me to go ...
A. 8 January 2013: so you have been with your boyfriend for nearly six months, that would mean the baby is almost due, because he didn't go straight from one girl to another did he?
Whatever you decide is best for you the baby momma is going to be part of your boy... (read in full...)
Is my Gf cheating on me with my mate? Or am I being paranoid?
Q. Okay so it all started when my mate first stayed round my Girlfriend's house and she said he could stay in the bed with us. I didn't think anything at this time I just didn't like it and in the end I just made him sleep on the floor. Then he st...
A. 8 January 2013: Hi OP, how do you feel about his answer, do you think that is all there was too it? If he is speaking the truth how do you feel about her texting him that she fancies him?
Do you feel the text was okay where having sex wasn't? Is it cheating... (read in full...)
I know hes married, but is he attracted to me?
Q. Ok soo, i really like this married man. i think he may like me. He's always lingering around when he picks his child up(i work at a daycare) and he introduced himself to me. After our brief chat he says, "its nice to meet you, finally!" So i know ...
A. 7 January 2013: Maybe, and here is a novel thought, maybe he said it was nice to finally meet you because he likes to know the people in whose care he places his child. Maybe he took a second look when you walk past because he wasn't sure if it was you or not, ... (read in full...)
I went 'no contact' and he found somebody else!
Q. ok cutting a long story short as possible!!..the guy who i was chasing and then i decided to go no contact with..i recently heard from his 'friends' that he had met somebody else and that he was serious about her!!..(bearing in mind that he told me ...
A. 6 January 2013: You chased him, he wasn't interested, I am not sure what you thought going no contact would achieve.
You know he is a jerk, a rotten parent, a committment phobe, a playa, and whatever else you named him, he told you he didn't want a relation... (read in full...)
My jealous girlfriend is making my life miserable
Q. Hi everyone. Hope you can give me some advice. My girlfriend of one year is very jealous and insecure. She is pressuring me to ask me to marry her lately. She is a fun girl to be with and I like her a lot. But I am not ready for marriage. My ...
A. 6 January 2013: Yes, unfriending somebody on facebook is, unfriending them. If she is a friend off facebook she should be a friend ON facebook.
Your girlfriend sounds like a nightmare to me, but she must be doing something right for you to be allowing her to c... (read in full...)
Seventeen year gap in communication with an ex... is it too late to try again?
Q. Hello All, I am back again, so I am 41 years old, apparently for my age I am in good shape and do't look my age. But my issue is this, I am longing to settle down and be married but living in London and seeing Societies Women generally either...
A. 6 January 2013: Are you sure you want my viewpoint?
You dumped her for something/somebody hotter who was better for your image at the time .... effectively stamping her with "REJECT" across her forehead
And then when the hot thing didn't work out, you got bac... (read in full...)
Please help a young marriage before it becomes another divorce statistic
Q. I'm only 19 and my husband and I just got married when we got married I was 8 months pregnant with our twins. Our twins are now 6 weeks old and he does even seem like he loves me. I don't want us to get a divorce my parents were and so is his. I ...
A. 5 January 2013: Your husband could be shell shocked at the changes in his life, one minute there he was with you, doing the things young men do, and wham next thing he knows he is an old married man with a wife and a couple of kids, and the girl who he used to play ... (read in full...)
Is my Gf cheating on me with my mate? Or am I being paranoid?
Q. Okay so it all started when my mate first stayed round my Girlfriend's house and she said he could stay in the bed with us. I didn't think anything at this time I just didn't like it and in the end I just made him sleep on the floor. Then he st...
A. 5 January 2013: Sweetheart, she cheated. And he is no longer your best mate.
Your decision now is who is to move out, you; or her and him. Make sure base your decision on facts and reality and not your emotions, if you are going to be financially better o... (read in full...)
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