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36-40,
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writes:Hey I am looking for some advice on how to play this situation I am in so I can snag this guy in my work before I leave next week. I started a new job like a couple of months ago but something else has come up with better money so i can leaving and my last day is next sat or could be monday!!I was attracted to my manager and over this last week we started flirting, texting and we kissed the other night. But I can so tell he's just a sleezy player type and thats cool cause all i want is one night with him since hes incredibly attractive. He told me to just say when and where and he will be there. So far we have only kissed and i dont wanna do anything else until saturday atleast cause going into work after sleeping with him isn't my idea of fun. But how do i play this? Do I tell him so saturday? me and you and if so when? I dont wanna ask him right know I would rather wait until the middle off the week. When we are in work we act reasonably normal, although some people can tell he fancys me. Apparantly he sits with his mouth hanging open at me. Or so I have been told.Do i suggest a hotel room cause well we both live at home with our parents or do i just say take me a drive in your car somewhere...He last spoke to me last night. He was going out. I sent him a sexy photo to turn him on when hes drunk and he didn't actually say very much other than a wee winky face that reprsented like OMG! I think. I haven't spoken to him today and I dont wanna chase him. So some advice on how or when I say something would be great. I know he is defo into me, hes so told me but alot can happen in a week and I want to make sure I get a good night of fun and then never have to see him again.Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2013): I agree with the male reader who writes that at least the op is honest with herself. I would say most-if not almost all girls- would run a mile to have a night with a player they find attractive. You can see it when there is a really good looking guy out loose in bars, nightclubs, bus stops and other places. Especially in nightlife areas, they stand around him, sometimes five or six of them, doing everything to get his attention, unintentionally on purpose bumping into him and all their other antics. And they really think a guy like this is not a player?? Gimme a break! Girls would accept a one night stand with a player most of the time, if they find him attractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2013): Hey, at least the O.P. is honest about herself.
Some women say they don't like players but they hook up with players all the time. They lie to themselves and pretend they dont see the signs he is a player until after they have had their fun. Then they start complaining about being taken advantage of once he gets bored and starts dogging her.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (1 July 2013):
Hi again. Message No. 2. (Cont'd from last message).
And by that, I mean, that you might want MORE than just a one night stand.
You might then want to see him again, and become his girlfriend.
But at this stage of the game, you only feel that a one night stand is all you want.
After the event though, it might be a whole different ball game.
And then you could feel regret that you followed through on it at all.
I guess it really depends on what you want from sleeping with this guy.
Because there is no doubt about it, the emotions do become involved, once two people have slept together.
And especially, for the woman.
So have a really good think about it, before you decide on if it feels right or not.
Just because you are leaving the job you are in, in a week's time, you will still go on thinking about him - if you DO sleep with him.
So just consider it very carefully, before making up your mind.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (1 July 2013):
Hi there. I understand that you feel this way about your manager, and he obviously feels the same way.
But what if you did get together, and it was fantastic, but then you found you were in love with him?
What then?
I mean, once two people have sex, well then it goes a little beyond just a physical attraction, doesn't it?
And by that, I mean, that you might want MORE
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (1 July 2013):
 He has already told you just say where and when, so book the hotel room (unless you want to have sex in the back seat of his car), order the champers and put write the hotel name, room number and date and time on a piece of card and pop in an envelope, hand it over to him personally and voila, a night of sex without emotion is your for the asking ...... unless he is looking for something a little longer lasting that is.
I'm actually finding your plans a little cold and calculating to be honest!
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