My husband is more interested in the TV than me
Q. I get my feelings hurt because I do not see my husband all day and when he gets home the first thing he does is go to the TV and stays there all night.(when I do talk to him he doesn't hear half of what I say either) I work part time and...
A. 9 May 2013: Yes, you do have a right to feel the feelings you feel.
Because you have children you need to seriously consider what you want, do you want to live like this for the rest of your life? His filthy mouth is a form of abuse, you don't have to accep... (read in full...)
They've been acting odd ever since we came back from our holiday and asked them to move their car from our drive!
Q. I'm in an awkward situation with my neighbours and need advice... My husband and I live in an area whereby none of the houses have a garage and there is only 1 car space in the drives. There is an alternate parking area which is 10 minutes wa...
A. 8 May 2013: You did nothing wrong. They may be embarressed that they had to be asked to move out of YOUR driveway.
If you are going away for another protracted trip just do as you did before, let them know when you are leaving and when you are returnin... (read in full...)
His controlling female friend is damaging our marriage
Q. Hmm...I have thought about this issue for many many months but this is the first time I have written it down to try and talk about it...It's such a mess I almost don't know where to begin. My husband and I have this friend..well..he has this ...
A. 6 May 2013: First, a big hug to you, it sounds as if you need it!
Professional counselling will help, tell your husband you are worried your marriage is heading down a path of no return and you want to stop the rot.
He is besotted and she is a bitch.
Lo... (read in full...)
He texts all day but wont be seen in public with me.
Q. I had a friend who I thought would be more he made me think he liked me and some stuff happened between us. It turned out that the guy is actually gay which is fine I had no issue with that I was happy to be just friends. He would text me all the ...
A. 5 May 2013: You have already made a good decision, in that you don't want to be friends with him anymore, now just block his number.
I would not bother saying anything to him, but he seems a bit thick to not have got the message yet, so if you do feel you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont be nice to me!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf hasnt said once nice word to me in the past 5 months. He is verbally very abusive, always belittles me, never calls me, if i get lucky he might pick up my calls once in 2 days may be and that call might not last more than 10 min...
A. 5 May 2013: First of all you have to recognise he is NOT your boyfriend. What you have with this man is not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
What we have here is a situation where you are harrassing somebody who you KNOW doesn't care about you with pho... (read in full...)
It feels I have hired an escort rather than have a boyfriend
Q. Hi. My boyfriend of a year and a half seems permanently short of money, due to a lot of things including job, child maintenance, grasping ex who gave up her own job etc. I am ok for money but not by any means rich, I can afford the basics on my ...
A. 5 May 2013: He may be trying, but not hard enough.
FIRST here are the DON"TS.
Don't go out for meals with him, don't pay his phone bills. Don't pay for his petrol, don't pay for his anything. Don't feed him at your house either, unless he takes a turn... (read in full...)
Disagreement about parenting styles is threatening to end our relationship. How should I approach this?
Q. I can't even think straight right now. My relationship with my boyfriend of nearly three years, who I love more than anything in the whole world, is on the brink of collapse. This is partially my fault, because I never brought it up before, an...
A. 5 May 2013: If he is as staunch in his belief corporal punishment of a child is okay as you are that it is not, this is not a ridiculous issue. If it is a deal breaker for both of you then guess what. The deal between the two of you is broken.
TBH I share ... (read in full...)
Would being involved with his friend's mother make him uncomfortable?
Q. I fell for a guy who is 34 and i am 45,however he is my son's friend . He has not denied his attraction for me ,at first he thought I was his friend's sister :)I really like him a lot,we spoke and we have so much in common i have never met anyone i...
A. 5 May 2013: No, there is nothing that will get him to change his mind, maybe the thought of bonking his friend's dear old mum doesn't turn him on as much as the thought of bonking your son's friend turns you on.
He isn't interested so leave him be.... (read in full...)
Where can a guy find a no strings attached friend with benefits?
Q. I'm a separated guy who wants a friend for a sexual relationship without the relationship. I'm having a very hard time finding a decent woman who like me wants a friend for sex but not a relationship. Sadly I've had offers from a few married friends ...
A. 4 May 2013: Mosst single women of your age are looking for a committed relationship.
If all you are wanting is sexual relief you might have to consider paying for it.
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Why would my girlfriend tell a friend that she's not interested in me and we're dating?
Q. i am really, really confused... i've been going out with my g/f for over 2 years. we've had our moments like any couple does but we've always pulled through and lately i've felt like we're doing better than ever together. we spend plenty of time t...
A. 4 May 2013: You are getting all upset and bothered over something she said, that she said that she said.
Who is to say the original girl who said your girlfriend isn't interested doesn't know what she is talking about?
Who is to say somewhere along ... (read in full...)
I feel I missed out, I've only ever been with my wife!
Q. I married 20 yrs I know all my wife's sex partners. We went to high school I've even know what they did because she told me year 20yrs ago. I have seen her have sex with one at a party. I cant get it out of my head its driving me crazy . I have ...
A. 1 May 2013: So, before you and your wife married 20 years ago and before you both promised to love and honour, she had sex elsewhere ..... now it seems to me your marriage has hit that spot where it all seems to be slipping your by and you are looking for ways ... (read in full...)
My ex guy friends are not responding on phone. Do they feel threatened that they don't have control over my life now?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a question I like to keep in contact with male friends of mine from time to time. We laugh and talk on the phone sometimes but when I started talking from my heart and saying things that I have been saying for years finally ...
A. 29 April 2013: I think they find they no longer have anything in common with you and don't want to talk. They have moved on with their lives, and there is probably no room for old girlfriends who believe they are now in control.
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My ex guy friends are not responding on phone. Do they feel threatened that they don't have control over my life now?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a question I like to keep in contact with male friends of mine from time to time. We laugh and talk on the phone sometimes but when I started talking from my heart and saying things that I have been saying for years finally ...
A. 28 April 2013: Maybe it is more that these guys have moved on with their lives, have different interests to when you and they were friends, I don't understand what you mean by saying they have no control over you any more.
It is also possible if you have sta... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave? She issued me with an ultimatum: The bachelor party or her
Q. My girlfriend(who I live with) and I have been at odds everyday for the last week. My friend has a wedding coming this weekend, and their bachelor party on Friday night. So she has made an effort to fight with me everyday. But to cut to the chase...
A. 25 April 2013: My advise would be for you both to sit down at your kitchen table, (neutral territory) and ask her if there is any way the two of you can work this out because if you have to cancel going you will feel cheated and angry.
See what she says. Pe... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to experiment with a woman?
Q. I've been in a relationship for seven months and it's been great for the most part. He recently told me that he thinks every woman should have a sexual experience with another woman, especially if they're in college like myself. He doesn't want to ...
A. 25 April 2013: If you fee it will compromise your morals then don't do it. The fact he doesn't seem to give a flying fig for how you feel about this, but went wah wah wah his widdle feelings were hurt because you said no just indicates to me he has no respect for ... (read in full...)
Betrayed my BF, but I want him back?
Q. I betrayed my boyfriends trust. I lied to him and hurt him..i was selfish.i made a big mistake.. And we broke up forever..i feel like a horrible person..in a way i feel like i deserve it. Maybe i do? Cause of how i treat others. Maybe its a ...
A. 23 April 2013: You cope by taking it one day at a time, whilst doing your best to become a person who doesn't treat people the way you treated your boyfriend. Counselling or therapy would probably help, as would volunteering your time to work with people who are ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I set myself up for failure. Are men just not interested in pregnant woman?
Q. So I am 3 months pregnant but I am not now with the father because things weren't working out. I did things I shouldn't have done when I was mad. I didn’t Like the person I was when I was with him. But anyway, we aren’t together, and I’m not lo...
A. 21 April 2013: Only three months out of the last relationship, and three months pregnant and wondering why some guy isn't interested.
I am sure there are some men out there interested in pregnant woman, but to be honest, most of those men would have been the... (read in full...)
Anyone else with experience of Psoriasis?
Q. Hi everyone i am 26 and just found out i have psoriasis does anyone else have this problem and do you know any natural treatments didn't know where else to ask thank you...
A. 21 April 2013: Hi there,
a friend who has it mainly on the legs finds exposing it so sunlight when she can (at home gardening, sits out read a book etc) helps keep hers under control, plus lots of moisturiser.
My brother has had it for years, sometimes it... (read in full...)
I feel we should be communicating more. What can I do to change that?
Q. I am 22. My boyfriend is 39. We've been dating for almost four months. He is my first sexual partner. It's all so new to me so I just want sex almost all the time. He doesn't mind...most of the time. ;) But I feel like we're not talking enough. ...
A. 20 April 2013: Learning about each other in a relationship is a gradual thing which happens over time. Unless you believe your boyfriend is keeping secrets from you, don't try and force it, and let the sharing and learning be a natural process.... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to think the man I"m dating is secretly having an affair with a married woman?
Q. I started dating a man 53 whom is newly divorced few days back in Feb 2013. Yet he is always talking about this woman whom helps him with his dad. My guy's Dad lives with him. The woman who helps is also married and is a co-worker of his. This ...
A. 20 April 2013: You ask what is wrong with the picture, how long have you been in a relationship? From you question it seems to have been only a short time.
What are you wanting to happen here, do you want 'your guy' to stop accepting dinner invitations to this ... (read in full...)
A 22 year old marriage over due to my disabilies?
Q. Please help, Iam a 45 year old man , I have had type1 diabetes since age 3 this plays a huge part in what I need advice with , I have been married to the same super beautiful wife for 22+years . I met my wife when I was 22 and she was 17 at the time...
A. 19 April 2013: I need you to clarify something, did your wife, after you had been married 8 months tell you about a boyfriend who had a larger penis than you, and did you then spend the next 17 years arguing with her about it, until your wife finally said she it ... (read in full...)
How do you leave a step child that is 5, but the relationship is a dead end
Q. How do I leave my stepchild, who is just 5 years old and adores me? I just can't take any more. My relationship and life are terrible. Partner isn't violent or drunk or anything, it's just all the controlling and weirdness. His brother hates me. ...
A. 18 April 2013: So here we are, April 2013 and you are still locked into the same unhealthy relationship and situation you were in 2008.
18 November 2008
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-new-partners-ex-is-trying-to-break.html
18 March 2010
http://w... (read in full...)
Disturbed Husband sleep with the alarm to drop of my Brother at work and I got sworn at!
Q. My brother totaled his car recently, occasionally i would give him a ride to work as he have be at work for 6:00am. This morning my husband was obviously annoyed when my clock alarm at 5:am, when i returned home he starting yelling at me and ...
A. 18 April 2013: My gut feeling is that the alarm waking your husband is not the problem, is there something else he is not happy about.
If he is calmer when he gets home, sit down and try to talk to him about his reaction, find out what's bothering and then wor... (read in full...)
The Cheating young Husband and an older wife?
Q. I have been with my husband for four and a half years he has cheated 3 times and treats me like crap, will his cheating ever stop, is it my fault? He is 25 and I am 50....
A. 18 April 2013: It's not your fault, 4 and a half years ago when you got together with him he was around 20 years old .... now I know people are going to say there are mature young men around of that age but in my experience the light doesn't come on for young men ... (read in full...)
Husband cheating, left me. How do you go on after this?
Q. im soooo hurt. i dont know what to do with myself, or how to get over this betrayal. my husband of 15 years was caught red handed with a 23 year old. and now he has packed his stuff and told me he does not love me anymore.... i dont understa...
A. 16 April 2013: First you must make sure you are going to be okay financially, if you have a joint account REMOVE everything and put it in your name only. Your husband has just shown you he is not to be trusted, so DONT TRUST HIM! Cancel any credit cards that both ... (read in full...)
I want to call her so bad but it's been 2 weeks :( What if she's fallen out of love with me?
Q. Hi everyone, I’m in really hard situation. My girlfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago, and it’s hard to say who really ended it; it was as mutual as it gets but it was over text messaging. We have been fighting a lot and I think at that time we had...
A. 14 April 2013: Okayyyy, I was going to say run away while you have the chance, but it seems as if you want to give this another chance.
Before you contact here do some research on available counselling, maybe Relationships Australia could help, or contact ... (read in full...)
He's still with his girlfriend, so why is he still seeing me? Does he like me?
Q. I was seeing a guy about 3 years ago and we never broke it off In bad terms we just fell apart .. So he ended up with someone and i was really happy for him so last year i messaged him and we spoke about the past and he asked if he could come ove...
A. 14 April 2013: He likes you enough to have sex with you. That is all. You contacted him, he came over to your place, you had sex, and have had sex since. That's all you are, a convenient place for him to stick his penis.
If you are happy with this seemingl... (read in full...)
My BF will not pop the question and I want the whole nine yards!
Q. Is there a reason why a man doesn't marry his long term girlfriend/mother of his children? My boyfriend is 23 and I'm 23 in a few months. I've been with my boyfriend over 4 years and we have a toddler together. I got pregnant 9 months into the...
A. 11 April 2013: You have answered your question, "why should he get married to me, I do everything for him anyway and he's already had a child with me".
Only you can change the situation. In the meantime if you are still trying for a second child, when it is bo... (read in full...)
My BF is not pursuing marriage any more he decided to find himself?
Q. I have been living with this guy close to one year now.everything has been ok and had plans to visit each others parents and our parents know about it.our plan was marriage but he suddenly changed. Like he says he is not sure of what he wants and ...
A. 11 April 2013: If marriage was promised, and now it is not, and yet he wants to keep living with you, with all the benefits of marriage, you need to decide if that is enough for you.
If I were in your shoes I would feel tricked and cheated.
Tell him to m... (read in full...)
I'm a struggling army girlfriend who feels like I'm giving 80 percent and he's giving 20!
Q. My boyfriend of 2and a half years is in his advance infantry training in the army right now it's been 4 months since he left and i have only got to see him 2 days out of all of that and I still have 4 months to go. This is the hardest thing I have ...
A. 5 April 2013: Hang in there for another four months, and then if it still seems like he isnt interested in talking to you or putting in an almost equal effort reconsider your options.
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Is it hopeless or could he ever truly love me?
Q. I am absolutely heartbroken because I've found the person who I know is meant for me, and I know in my heart that I love him more than I'll ever love anyone. He's divorced (I know this for a fact) and has a little boy with his ex wife. I underst...
A. 1 April 2013: Calling the mother of his child a whore is not going to help your cause.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-be-taken-seriously-as-a.html
Deciding people who you are not even dating is your soul mate and then fixating on them, bad mou... (read in full...)
He makes me feel uptight. Should I stay with him? I can't relax with him as he gives me "grades" on basic domestic skills
Q. So this is probably going to seem like a really bizarre question but I want an outside opinion on whether this is weird or I'm just being uptight or something. So I find that my boyfriend makes quite a few corrections about my messy habits aro...
A. 30 March 2013: Rule a line on a piece of paper, on one side list the positive attributes you would like in a boyfriend, on the other the attributes you would prefer not to have in a boyfriend and then grade him against them.
If he ends up with a higher p... (read in full...)
Do you think the man I'm cheating on my husband is in love with me?
Q. I've been having sex with him for three months. I'm married, he's single.I fell hard for him and he knows it. Despite knowing my feelings, he still wanted to meet me and have contact with me. He told me he'll never become attached to a married ...
A. 22 March 2013: This is wishfull thinking on your part, he has already told you he is not interested in becoming attached to a married woman.
I very much doubt he has been terrorised with feelings of love for you, if he loved you he would be begging you to s... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and just found out my boyfriend cheated. What should I do now? I'm lost and just need to talk.
Q. Today has been a bad day for me. I found out that my boyfriend is in jail again. I looked up his record because I was wondering why I have not heard from him in 2 days and that's how I found out. Its not like him to not talk to me for two days.Then ...
A. 22 March 2013: Don't visit him with his other girlfriend, she has her own agenda, don't become part of that, it has all the hallmarks of an ugly scene in the making.
You know, deep in your guts, that he is not going to commit himself to you only, he is in jail,... (read in full...)
Why should my boyfriend's awful mother expect me to pay to fix the roof of the house we are moving into?
Q. My son father and I, been together off and on for four years. During this we didn't always get along. He slashed my tires, you name it we did it. After I'll last fight I got po against him. We been on a real good streak, going to church, doing ...
A. 19 March 2013: He sure sounds like 'catch of the day' NOT!
Are you sure this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with? He knew his mother didn't like you and went and made that worse by telling lies.
He accepts the fact you and your son are... (read in full...)
Does my girl friend love me?
Q. My girll friend does'nt come anywhere close to me..she does'nt even tell me that she loves me not even a text..but she obeys my words and commands but she's never told me that she loves me both face to face and in text...my real problem is that she ...
A. 18 March 2013: She obeys your words and commands? What. Like 'SIT' and 'FETCH'?
She's your girlfriend, not your slave or chattel. Treat her with some respect and as an equal and you might be surprised at the difference in her behaviour toward you.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being upset my girlfriend didn't prepare ahead of time to make time to see me before she goes away?
Q. general question. would you guys be frustrated if your girlfriend/boyfriend was going out of town for a week and you had planned in advance to spend the night before together, but it took them FOREVER to finally come over? my girlfriend has k...
A. 18 March 2013: Its only a week, she is only going for a week, what's the problem, you are going to see her when you drive her to the airport, what's the problem??
Regardless how well prepared some people can be to pack and get ready to go away, even for a week, ... (read in full...)
Resentment getting the better of me- silent treatment from husband
Q. Hi every love guru My husband and I fight alot. And while I am usually the one to hold my temper, last night got the better of me. I said some sad stuff- like would he be open to me seeing other people and I wished he were dead. Awful, I know, but ...
A. 17 March 2013: What a bloody great sook he is to run home to his mummy whenever you two have an argument!
There seems to be a major communication problem here, neither of you are getting your message through to the other .... leading to the fights. Have you... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend about my mother judging him based on his Facebook posts?
Q. Hi there I am really heartbroken by my mothers comments. I have been with a lovely guy now for the last 5 months he is four years younger than me. My mother does not approve of this but I am 31 it's not like we are teenagers. She has not even ...
A. 16 March 2013: Tell him about it, and then ask him to block her. ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like my personal trainer doesn't care?
Q. Why do I feel like my personal trainer doesn't care? Is been a month now with my personal trainer and he's not given me my dietary plan or how much weight I meant to be losing each month. I texted him my email and he said he'd send it but i...
A. 9 March 2013: The reason you feel he doesn't care is because you paid for a service you are not receiving. A persolal trainer is supposed to be just that - personal. He should have presented you with you diet plan, exercise regime and anything else he offered ... (read in full...)
Why is my husband playing games? I feel like crying when he does these things to me.
Q. My husband is very manipulative. If I'm listening to my music, and I walk out of the room to do something (like the washing). I'll come back in and find my music has been turned off. The lights are off. I ask him, what are you doing? His repl...
A. 3 March 2013: Has he always tried to conserve electricity? Are you bills much higher than usual?
If you don't think this could be the cause, has his behaviour changed in other ways, could it be part of the aging process, how long since he had a thorough chec... (read in full...)
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