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writes:My girlfriend does allot of modeling and yesterday she told me that she might be in a photo shoot where she will have to kiss another guy model. I'll be honest and say I am very protective of her and I don't even like the idea of a guy touching her much less kissing her.She says that i'll just have to be okay with it because she needs the money and it's not like they are tonguing, but I am still not okay with it at all.Should I just be okay with it since I guess there won't be any feeling behind the kiss or should I stand my ground and tell her she is not to kiss anyone regardless of the reason?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 June 2013):
 I do a lot of modeling and acting meaning I have to kiss and touch and do semi-intimate things with other guys so I can provide some insight perhaps.
Kissing someone for a shoot or on set does not really feel like kissing. There is just so much awkward. There are a bunch of people standing around watching your every move very closely and instructing you on exactly how to do it "can you lean the other way? Can you open your mouth more, less, etc..." It doesn't feel like kissing, it just kind of feels like posing uncomfortably close to someone. It's about as sexual as an appointment at a gynocolegist's office and about as comfortable.
I can absolutely see why initially it would make you uncomfortable. My boyfriend certainly did. But you have to realize it's just part of the job, and it's one of the super uncomfortable parts. It's bad enough having to mash faces with a relative stranger, it makes it worse to have to constantly reassure your partner. You just have to trust her that this is just work. Besides, most models I know assume all other models are stuck up jerks and don't want to date them.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 June 2013):
 I can't see how you as a BF can even consider to DICTATE what she can and can not do for work. You do not own her.
IF you can't handle her kissing in a photo-shoot you need to find yourself another GF.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 June 2013):
 "honey I have to do a breast lift today so my hands will be all over another woman's naked body today"
would that bother you if she was a reconstructive plastic surgeon?
no? because it's her job?
right.
so is kissing a man in a photo shoot.
if her job bothers you that much you should find a girlfriend who has a job that does not bother you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 June 2013):
 I'm with Aunty BimBim. If you want to make sure your gf naver has to kiss another guy, then chose one with a different job, not a model or an actress.
It's her job, you can't tell her what to do at work . ( ( And it's a fake " stage " kiss anyway ! ).
You are free to feel uncomfortable with what her job entails- but if it is so, date a bank clerk or a school teacher etc.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (24 June 2013):
 Its business. If u trust her have no fear it wont mean anything.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 June 2013):
 It is her job, you want her to give up her job, it's no different to actors kissing each other on stage and then going home to wives and husbands .... I don't understand why you think you have the right to tell her she can or cannot kiss another model during a photo shoot .... get over yourself!
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