Caught my Girlfriend answering ad on craigslist.
Q. I know it was deceitful but I created a fake ad on craigslist to see if my girlfriend would answer and she did. I did this once before and she answered and this was the second time. I replied back and pretended to this other guy and she flirted and ...
A. 15 January 2014: I also fail to see what is confusing here ....... no confusion for me, you caught your girlfriend acting in a very unsavoury way .......... FOR THE SECOND TIME!
So what now then, will you just let this fade away until you create your THIRD fa... (read in full...)
S going NC out of the blue considered childish?
Q. A girl I was dating, and that was very into me about two months ago seems to have lost interest in me. She never said so explicitly, but it's obvious. She no longer initiates conversation, takes a lot longer to reply to my texts and is way more dry ...
A. 15 January 2014: One week and no contact from her it sounds to me your gut was correct when it told you she had lost interest.
It sounds as if most of your contacting each other was via text ... am I getting that right? I think a relationship based on texts an... (read in full...)
She's always got excuses not to spend time with me
Q. So I met a girl after ending a 10 year relationship. The new girl is much younger than me and she started the flirting and all that sweet stuff. So I really thought she was into me. We've been seeing each other for 8 weeks now. We live far apart but ...
A. 15 January 2014: Her response to your anonymous call was quite telling, and you should listen, really listen to the answer she gave you ---
1. she can't be in a relationship
2. she has too much going on at the moment
So there it is from the horse's mouth so... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't add me as a friend on facebook!
Q. Hello. I am trying to find advice regarding facebook. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, we live together and I am pregnant. It took him a year to change his relationship status from single to in a relationship, and thats only ...
A. 12 January 2014: If you life together and you are pregnant, why isn't he telling his friends and family .... I think your concerns are valid.
Ask him when he is going to announce your pregnancy to his friends and family, and ask him what he is hiding from you on f... (read in full...)
What do you expect from your husband and his side of the family when getting married?
Q. This question isn't just directed at women, men feel free to give your thoughts and experiences. What do you expect from your husband and his side of the family when getting married? -- Whilst growing up my parents spoiled me, I would put th...
A. 12 January 2014: See if you can get her to vocalise what it is about the situation that is actually making her angry. She must understand things are different in the UK .... and that your culture says you are doing okay.
If you feel your girlfriend might be havin... (read in full...)
Big fight with my boyfriend, don't know what to do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about a year and we don't fight often so I'm very sad and confused about this. Yesterday, my friend (who is also my boyfriend's best friend, and he has a crush on me) texted me and said "Your boyfriend is so ...
A. 11 January 2014: The first thing you need to do is call your boyfriend, why are you waiting for him to call you?
Call him, tell him you just wanted to hear his voice or something like that, ask him if you are going to hang out, just make the first move.
Secondl... (read in full...)
What do you expect from your husband and his side of the family when getting married?
Q. This question isn't just directed at women, men feel free to give your thoughts and experiences. What do you expect from your husband and his side of the family when getting married? -- Whilst growing up my parents spoiled me, I would put th...
A. 11 January 2014: This have changed considerably in Australia, although some marriages do follow traditional lines most don't, and the vast majority of couples now pay for their own weddings and only the mega rich would expect a house or apartment.
Tradi... (read in full...)
I don't wish to lose my wife nor my friend!
Q. Hey everyone, I know this is going to sound bad but I really need some help. I have been married for 4 years with two lovely children, and although I love my wife and kids to bits I can't stop thinking about a friend of mine. We get on really well ...
A. 10 January 2014: Maybe you should consider finding a new local.... (read in full...)
I don't wish to lose my wife nor my friend!
Q. Hey everyone, I know this is going to sound bad but I really need some help. I have been married for 4 years with two lovely children, and although I love my wife and kids to bits I can't stop thinking about a friend of mine. We get on really well ...
A. 10 January 2014: Ask your wife to help you with this problem of yours, I am sure she will be only too happy to help.
Believe me, if you continue down the path I believe you are on you will lose your lovely wife and your lovely children.
Is your 'friend' wo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is bringing me down, what should I do?
Q. I am on the verge of leaving my boyfriend of 9 months. It's been a rocky road as he is going through a divorce. There is no love lost but he can't seem to get things sorted out even though his ex has a new family. He is very up and down and was...
A. 8 January 2014: Your questions rang bells with me, it all sounded very familiar. Sing your heart out, singing is so good for our health and well being, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Write down what you would like to say to him and then, instead ... (read in full...)
Doesn't a guy usually try to grab a girl's boob while kissing if he likes her?
Q. this new guy ive been hanging out, is really nice to me, and comes to see me everytime i ask.. and helps me out with anything i need. He also said he likes me, but everytime were together he wont reallly iniciate the first move even tho we kissed ...
A. 7 January 2014: No, the grabbing of boobs and private parts during kissing is not a sign of somebody liking you .... grabbing at anything is not good manners, its indicative of how the grabber thinks of you
now this new guy, he kisses, he gently touches, he treat... (read in full...)
Is he potentially an abuser?
Q. dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that h...
A. 7 January 2014: He is not a POTENTIAL abuser, he IS AN ABUSER, he hits his sister, that is abuse.
What sort of man hits his sister? Actually, what sort of man hits ANYBODY?
He is an abuser, and it would seem from what you have said, a cheater as well.
So t... (read in full...)
What would you consider cheating?
Q. I have a question for everyone. Would do you consider as cheating? I am divorced and single and have started dating again. I am talking to a new guy mostly texting and he is very interested in me but is uneasy about me talking to other guys he consi...
A. 6 January 2014: If you are in an exclusive relationship talking/texting sexy with other men is not on, and if the reason for these other men talking/texting sexy is based on the way you look that suggests to me their motives are of a sexual nature and not ... (read in full...)
Invited out for a drink, but what to drink when I have to drive!
Q. I'm going on a first date with a guy I met at a party and we're going to get a drink. I'm not a big drinker and we're both driving there separately. I've maybe drank 5 times in my life. I really don't drink a lot. I already agreed to get a drink so ...
A. 6 January 2014: If you do opt for a glass of wine or something else alcoholic keep to the one glass and drink a few glasses of water afterwards. Good luck and have fun!... (read in full...)
Should I just delete him from my life or keep hoping for something that might or might not happen?
Q. We have been dating for a semester. He was an exchange student from France and now he went back (he is not in Paris). I'm going to France in a week as an exchange student but in a city quite far from his. And he will begin an internship. We have ...
A. 6 January 2014: He has already let you know that he doesn't want a relationship, he has told you he wants to concentrate on building his future, and he has told you he cannot give a relationship 100%.
Stop making excuses for him, and stop building your hopes an... (read in full...)
What did she mean?? "My heels are higher than your standards"??
Q. My girl said to me my heels higher then your standerd. Can anybody tell me wat does it means pplss...
A. 5 January 2014: She meant you have very low standards, your girl is not impressed with some aspect of your personality or character. You need to think about whatever it was you said or did to cause her to make that remark.
If you are unsure, ask her!... (read in full...)
I was put on hold for his friends!
Q. Should I end my relationship with my boyfriend?. He said that he would be with me on new years eve. He said we would have a meal together at his place. He also said that we would spend the whole day together. He contacted me at 11.00am that day, ...
A. 5 January 2014: Ciar's advise is totally spot on, he doesn't even deserve a text or message from you, just tell yourself quite firmly it is now over and done with.
If he does try to contact you he deserves no explanation, no conversation, nothing, as Ciar say... (read in full...)
He has been sleeping with my best friend but wants another chance!
Q. My boyfriend who is18 slept with my best friend during our entire one year relationship . He says that he is sorry and doesn't know why he did it bit wants me to give him another chance...
A. 5 January 2014: Firstly I hope that so called 'best friend' is now your former best friend, because she ain't no friend of yours!
Why on earth would your boyfriend expect you to give him another chance, phooey to that and phooey to him.
You don't need peopl... (read in full...)
He turns up on my doorstep, yet in 10 years has never invited me into his home. Should I get back with him?
Q. I have know a guy for 30 years. I have two children from someone else and that did not work, so Id re-linked with this guy. We continued from where we left off, it was very natural. He has other children too. I now have a 10 year old fathered...
A. 4 January 2014: Sure, my suggestion would be to ask him if he and his wife would like to come for dinner. ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he mention his girlfriend ?
Q. Hey :) I met a guy a year ago, we "dated" briefly a month but nothing happened between us. Indeed, I want to build friendship with a guy before dating him. The consequence is that he thought I was disinterested so he faded away. Two weeks late...
A. 3 January 2014: Maybe she is not his girlfriend, maybe she is one of those girls who tells everybody she loves them, maybe she would like to be his girlfriend, but you are making assumptions based on facebook?
Why don't you ask him who she is?
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I've just had a baby and I am stressed, stressed, stressed!
Q. Where to begin! Just gave birth to my baby who I am very protective of due to losing a baby in the past. My in laws can't seem to understand why I will only leave my baby with my mum if/ when I go out. When I go their to visit with my partner his ...
A. 3 January 2014: Wow, lots of separate issues there, remember your hormones will still be all over the place having just given birth, and this will be affecting you.
Your in laws are also the baby's grandparents, just as much as your parents are, they may be feeli... (read in full...)
Our sexual interests are completely opposite. Can I satisfy my needs elsewhere?
Q. I am happily engaged to an amazing man; we are getting married this coming October. He is my best friend, and an incredible person. I love him so much, and the thought of him being hurt is just too much for me to bear. However, when it comes to...
A. 3 January 2014: Although my intention is not to be judgmental, you might find my answer so, but this is a risk you have decided to take by posting your question in a public forum.
It is a bit like cheating on a partner you profess to love enough to marry, a... (read in full...)
I'm trapped in a bad marriage and I have feelings for a married man who's in a similar situation like me. Have any of you been in this situation before and did anything ever come of it especially when both of you had children?
Q. Could this man be my soul mate? I have been married for almost 10 years, and I am an extremely faithful and understanding wife. Although people get married with the intention of loving in good times and in bad, I feel like I have been through ...
A. 3 January 2014: You have built up a fantasy in your mind about a man you barely know being your soul mate to escape the reality of your abusive marriage.
It would be best to forget the man for whom you have woven dream castles in the sky where you can both liv... (read in full...)
It seems the longer I stay, the harder I am finding it to break free.
Q. Hi everyone I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years. We don't live together but I was planning to move in after his brother moved out (its a small apartment and wasn't enough room for me and my belongings etc). However, his brother...
A. 3 January 2014: My advise would be to tell your parents about the abortion, yes, they will be upset, and to also tell them about the blackmailing.
Then collect any items you have left at his place and get them home. And then tell him its over and he has to start... (read in full...)
What problems could happen if we did become older parents
Q. Me and my husband both want children; we're young professionals, aged 29 and 32, and we've been married for 2 years now. We're middle-class, own a Citroen and a Lexus, and our own house, and are fairly wealthy by local standards. I'm Italian-English ...
A. 3 January 2014: Sageoldguy!
YOU ARE NORTY!... (read in full...)
I cheated on him with my ex, what should I do?
Q. I am 17 years old about 7 moths ago I slept with a guy for the first time I left him . And now there is a new guy I slept with him, Because he said it was the right thing to do we have been together for 1moth and 2 days ago I cheated when he left me ...
A. 3 January 2014: What do YOU think you should do?
Your ex is not your best friend, best friends do not encourage, nor participate, in getting their best friends to cheat on boyfriends, because best friends know that is not in their friends best interest... (read in full...)
I love a woman who is 8 years older than me but I don't know if I want to marry her and she's pushing for it
Q. Hello. I am a 39 year old man from Ireland. 4 years ago I started seeing a single mum who has three kids. The lady is 8 years older than me and had just come out of a bad relationship. Things were fine in the beginning and we managed to open up to...
A. 3 January 2014: If you would like to see somebody younger and maybe have children you need to end your relationship with this lady NOW. Time is on your side if you want to have a younger wife and babies, but it is not on her side.
Stop being an arse and hedging ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my brother's ex
Q. i have developed feelings for my brother's ex they split over a year ago and were together for bout 2 months my brother left her because she was already pregnant with someone else`s baby wen they got together now having stayed friends n now i have ...
A. 2 January 2014: This is a situation ripe for trouble on so many levels, especially as you have no idea if your feelings are reciprocated by the young lady in question.
It does sound as if the relationship between her and your brother didn't have time to get too ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me a month before he moved away
Q. He's twelve years older than me, I'm 18. When we started dating we were both concerned about other peoples reactions due to the age and so because he was moving away at the end of last month we decided to try stay secret given nothing long term ...
A. 2 January 2014: Any relationship that is kept secret from family and friends is suspect. He is suspect, he is keeping you dangling with his maybe when you are older BS. Just what is that all about? It is not as if you are underage or anything, at 18 you are old ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend secretly recorded one of our arguments
Q. Dear Cupid, My (ex)boyfriend just admitted that he secretly recorded an audio file of an argument that occured three weeks ago and was resolved. Today, he was angry with me and told me that he found my reaction on that audio file unbelievably ...
A. 2 January 2014: First up I would have thought secretly recording somebody was illegal. You could verify this with the relevant authorities and then if necessary remind him of the fact, and advise what could happen if he shares the recording.
If you have anger is... (read in full...)
I am ready to end this relationship! I'm tired of being alone!
Q. I am sitting here in tears as I type this.... my so called 'partner' has given me no time at all this Christmas and the final blow...he has just told me he is apparently going round to his mums tonight instead of spending it with me the way he usual...
A. 1 January 2014: Be happy he spent time with his children over the Christmas period, kids need to know their parents care about them and want to spend time with them.
As for Christmas Day ..... well Christmas is for families, next time ask him if you can acco... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not take down sports illustrated calendar that his mom bought him!
Q. This question is really weighing me down. This Christmas, my boyfriend of about a years mother bought him a sports illustrated swimsuit calendar. Now, before you roll your eyes and dub me insecure, know that my irritation and issue with this has ...
A. 1 January 2014: Okayyyy
probably not a calendar I would buy for my kids, but then an elderly Aunt did buy me one of those with the firefighters posing with hoses in strategic places and chests all rippled and bare .....
Different people have different vi... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 31 December 2013: Why the hell would you be expected to pay the rent and what sort of mature, self sufficient adult would expect you too?
As for being 'showered with jewellry' well we all like to get presents, but lets be realistic, what does it say about the rela... (read in full...)
While he is planning our future, I am just not feeling 'it'!
Q. Hey all, just hoping for some advice. I've been meeting a guy for about 6 weeks. At first, we met up and I didn't feel it but we agreed to be friends. However, I knew he kind of would have liked more, but he said he was happy as friends was better ...
A. 31 December 2013: The longer you leave it the more intense will his feelings become and the harder it will be for you to leave without feeling guilty for hurting him.
You know deep in your guts that he is not accepting this as 'just friends,' he is trying to push ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend spends no time with me!
Q. Hi there iv bin seeing this boy for bout 3wks know and he has said we are girlfriend n boyfriend but every time I ask him to spend time with me he says yes then when it come to it he doesn't answer any off my phone calls or text! He said he needs ...
A. 30 December 2013: Sounds like it might be three weeks too many. Don't text, do dump him and yell NEXT!... (read in full...)
My ex's friend said he fancies me more than my ex does!
Q. I got a text from my ex a couple of days ago saying "I want you. I love you. ", and he said it was him texting me, and he was using his friend's phone. He has used his friends phone to text me before when he has no credit on his phone. I also got a ...
A. 29 December 2013: Why is he your ex? Why are you trying so hard to talk with him, he must be an ex for a reason, and how do you know his text was not just the booze talking.
And while you are running around in circles about an ex who keeps you hooked with a random... (read in full...)
He lied to me about being married!
Q. I met this guy at a friend's party a little over 2 months ago; he was really sweet and funny and about 2 days after the party, my friend told me that her friend told her that he was asking for my number, because he was not a direct acquaintance of ...
A. 28 December 2013: Telling the wife is not a good idea, however, if all your communication, ie asking about wife and child, and then telling him to get lost, and him not getting that message was via text you could tell you have kept copies of all texts, and tell him ... (read in full...)
Could my ex-boyfriend want more, or just friends?
Q. My exboyfriend broke up with me almost a month ago. He told people different things about why he broke up with me but he told me it was because we didn't connect. Obviously i still have some feelings for him but im trying to get over him. We both ...
A. 28 December 2013: Maybe he just wants sex and you are nice and handy until he finds a new girlfriend, one he connects with.
Stop giving him the time of day, he broke up with you once and could do it again.
Its difficult to ignore people when you share the same s... (read in full...)
Wait for the ex, or be with the new guy?
Q. I broke up with my ex of almost two years way back in February. Things started off well in the relationship, but gradually things went downhill. He only had a job for the first two months of our entire relationship, and I was the one that had to pay ...
A. 28 December 2013: February, almost 12 months and the ex still hasn't made a start on getting it together. How long do you intend waiting for him to magically turn into somebody else? Another year, two years, five years, your whole life?
Sister, the choice i... (read in full...)
Ex-wife running my down to our kids and they're treating me disrespectfully
Q. I have been going through a tough time as of late I am married for a second time and my ex wife is married as well. Recently she started running me down to my two oldest kids my oldest daughter lives out of state and I talk to her as often as I can ...
A. 28 December 2013: Cut off the phone your son is using now. If he needs a phone at age 26 then he can pay for it himself.
As for his ultimatums, you did the right thing in ignoring him. I doubt very much sticking up for yourself is going to make things worse wi... (read in full...)
I told her I was socially awkward and she laughed it off.
Q. I spent a day with a girl I like and her friend. I'm kinda socially awkward and didn't say much to them at all. It was really ridiculous on my behalf. She did say that she wanted to see me again so I don't think I came off too weird or creepy. So ...
A. 28 December 2013: I wasn't there, so I don't know what she meant by her laugh, but have you considered she laughed at your confession to being socially awkward because it was obvious to her? However, based on what you have written, and the words you have chosen I ... (read in full...)
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