I feel like my ex is my soul mate -- but I've since gotten married
Q. When I was seventeen, I met a guy and fell very deeply in love with him. Everything about him was ideal and we were together for three years. We broke up because he got a job in another continent and I was going to university and it didn't make ...
A. 15 June 2013: Phht, he always thought you and he would get back together again one day, and he had to take a day off work when he heard you got married.
What the hell did he think you were going to do in between the space where you and he broke up and that mys... (read in full...)
How do I get him to tell his kids that I'm not there to pay their way?
Q. Ok, I have posted about my LDR before and this is kind of a follow up and a question. As I have said before about me not being invited to his house and being the one that is out all the money on dates and weekend trips to visit and I was worried ...
A. 8 June 2013: Well this first class user certainly knew how to get a cheap, fun filled vacation for him and his kids didn't he?
What on earth is there to like about this person? Do yourself a favour and listen to your head, then you will realise your heart wa... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ways are draining me! Is it time to go?
Q. Hi and thx Ive been with my bf for a yr but Im getting tired of his actions and his words. Hes so hypersensitive! He had a recent bday and he was upset because he had only two bday wishes on that site. I reassured him those are ppl he knew from...
A. 8 June 2013: 50 years old and acting like a tantrum throwing two year old?
Why on earth are you putting up with this crap? I would find his birthday behaviour intolerable.
If you really love and care about him tell him to grow up, although I doubt... (read in full...)
I don't want to steal my teacher away from his wife but I do want a kiss from him!
Q. Hello everyone. I am in very difficult situation. When I was in 9 grade I felt something for my science teacher,the problem is that he is more older than me, he is over 50, I was 15 y.o. At first I didn't understand what is happening with me, I ...
A. 8 June 2013: Travelling down this path lies only BIG problems and a lot of hurt. You claim you are not going to hurt his marriage but that you don't want to lose him through a mistake.
Believe me, kissing this man is a big mistake. And how the hell do you k... (read in full...)
Why do people hold onto marriages that they don't want?
Q. Why would two people remain married after being seperated fir 3 and a half years, both be involved in serious relationships for over a year, one party having been involved for the whole three years with another person. They were only married for ...
A. 8 June 2013: Obviously, is somebody is holding on, the DO want it. The reasons for wanting to hold on in these situations are many and varied. If you believe you are close enough to one of those people you would be better off asking them why they are holding ... (read in full...)
So my problem is my husband says I must convince her to move back. Or he is divorcing me!
Q. My problems with my 25 year old step-daughter have once again reared their ugly head. She moved in with us about a year ago and it was very difficult living with her. I wanted to sit down before she moved in and discuss, like 3 grown roommates, how ...
A. 5 June 2013: I agree with the others who have responded so far, YOU see a divorce lawyer and divorce him. His ultimatum for you to accept this adult into your house and take a back seat to her is out of line.
I don't understand all the legalities of the US b... (read in full...)
Does this sound like my boyfriend was molested by his dad?
Q. I think my boyfriend was molested as a child. The even crazier thing is I suspect it was by his own parents. The first time I thought something was weird was because he told me he knew about sexual acts at a very pre mature age. He said when he was ...
A. 3 June 2013: I had a child who would not use a toilet unless it was pristine white .... stainless steel loos found in places where the public might be, such as parks and other attractions were the most scary to her ... it curtailed our weekends a little.
As fo... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting, not getting ANYTHING for mother's day?
Q. I am the mother of two small children, four and two and this year for mother's day I didn't get anything from anyone. No one in my family and my bf of four years, the father of my children, didn't get me anything either. No card, no flowers, ...
A. 2 June 2013: I don't think you are over reacting, while I cant see why your family would be expected to acknowledge the day I certainly think the father of your children, who are too young to recognise the day, could have made some sort of gesture, even if he ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my husband's need for sex when my sex drive is low due to pregnancy. Any advice?
Q. I'm so stressed out at the moment me and my husband split in November last year I had a couple of one night stands and ended up pregnant. Time has gone on and my husband wants to try again I have decided as I am almost 7 months pregnant I want to ...
A. 27 May 2013: Is sex with you a something he has a right to, regardless of your pregnancy and the fact you will not commit to him until after the birth of your baby.
Does he think that because you had a one night stand and are now pregnant that you must ced... (read in full...)
My wife got pregnant by her lover and had a secret abortion!
Q. This is difficult but I will just say it. My wife had an affair with a person I considered my friend and got pregnant. She made arrangements with her lover (also married) and had a secret abortion one year ago. We have been married for 6 years and ...
A. 24 May 2013: First thing to do is contact your former friend and let him know he is no longer welcome in your house or near your children. Also let him know he needs to decide if he is going to tell his wife or if he would prefer you to do it.
As for your... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish? My BF wants me to wait and travel with me - I want to travel next year, with or without him.
Q. Sometimes my boyfriend’s family make me feel swamped. They talk business all the time. My boyfriend and I both attended high school together and University together though he is one year ahead of me. The plan is to finish our studies and do some ...
A. 23 May 2013: IF your boyfriend has put you off before and is now getting angry that you still want to travel suggest to me he isn't really interested in travelling at all.
If he persists in saying "next year" remind him there are some great savings to be ma... (read in full...)
Brothers girlfriend spreading rumours?
Q. My brothers girlfriend has really started to annoy me. She previously went out with my fiancee's best friend, but they were only together for a week and he even said that he barely counts it as a relationship. She has told my brother that he has ...
A. 21 May 2013: OH EXCUSE ME! Whose wedding is it? If your future husband wants his best friend there, well then, the best friend goes. Your brother's girlfriend can then decide if she is adult enough to attend or not.
Make sure your fiance's best friend i... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 8 months is ignoring me after a fight
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is completely ignoring me. It's been 5 days with no contact. We got into a stupid fight about him always wanting to do things on his schedule and him being inconsiderate towards me. I was trying to have a conversation but...
A. 21 May 2013: The five days of silence are his way of manipulating you into behaving how he wants you to behave.
He wants to continue to do things on his schedule without having to consider you and your plans, needs, feelings.
You ask if your ages matter... (read in full...)
Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?
Q. Just feeling a bit naughty I suppose. Soon I will be going out of town to San Diego for a 4 day class and conference. My husband has declined to join me so I am thinking of sharing a hotel room and bed with a very nice attractive young gentleman in ...
A. 20 May 2013: What the hell ..... coming here for permission from a bunch of strangers to have sex outside of your marriage?
Us telling you it would be a good idea doesn't make it so you know.
Tell your husband you want him to join you, tell him you see the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to call me a different name during sex!
Q. Ok so now my Long term boyfriend has asked if he could call me by another girls name during sex. Im very uncomfrotable and seriously am thinking of breaking us up. Is this normal??? And then when I told him no he went soft during sex. Lost his hard ...
A. 19 May 2013: For me, being a rather ordinary sort of person, this request of your boyfriend's has me perplexed. I think not knowing his tone of voice or the circumstances under which he asked this of you makes it difficult to answer.
Don't break up with him... (read in full...)
Should I confront my ex-bestfriend who is now sleeping with my soon to be ex-husband?
Q. My best friend and my husband are now lovers. She left her husband, he left me. She has two kids and we have one. She and he have discussed kicking me out of our family home and them moving in. I suspected something was going on for so long...
A. 19 May 2013: Confronting her will achieve very little. However you will need to let your child know what is going on, how you do this depends very much on how old they are. Keep it factual and non accusatory towards his/her father (difficult I know but better ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend keeps breaking up and then saying she regrets it. What am I supposed to do?
Q. i'm having a bit of a hard time lately. i've been with my girlfriend about a year now and sometimes our ups and downs really effect me. since this is anonymous, i don't feel too bad disclosing this information, seeing as how it's very pertinent. ...
A. 19 May 2013: You are a glutton for punishment. Quite frankly next time she breaks up with you run away, and don't look back.
Until she is prepared to accept some responsibility for her behaviour you are in a lose lose situation. How long are you prepared... (read in full...)
Bullying stories?
Q. i would like to know if anyone has any storys of when theyve challenged someone's behaviour that was bullying, discriminatory or insensitive. Do not use an example where the other person was simply angry or upset. Their behaviour must have been ...
A. 19 May 2013: Why do you want this information?
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What birth defects could have been caused from caffeine, smoking and being fed by bottle?
Q. My mother smoked cigarettes and consumed a lot of Caffeine while she was pregnant with me. I was also always bottle fed, never breast fed. I'm wondering what birth defects (if any) could have been caused by those three factors? ...
A. 19 May 2013: While I agree when it comes to feeding babies breast is best, there are times where it just isn't going to happen, and babies are fed by bottle instead. I have three children, one was breast fed for a few weeks only, and then bottle, he had bad ... (read in full...)
At the moment, I am not ready for a threesome to happen in our relationship. My Bf would like it to happen. How long into a relationship before agreeing to it?
Q. Hi, Ok I would love some fair and informative advice here on my boyfriend wanting to have a FFM threesome. We have been going out with each other for 8 months and moved in together three months ago. At the beginning of the relationship he...
A. 18 May 2013: Bloody hell! Have you considered some relationships last a LIFETIME without threesomes happening.
How about you tell him a threesome is more likely to happen if it is going to be boy, girl, boy first and how much you look forward to him getting ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that she is cheating on me? Or am I just being insecure?
Q. I have been hurt in the past by women and 3 months ago I met this girl who I think is the most amazing girl I've ever met in my entire life, she is as beautiful on the inside as she is on the out. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. s...
A. 18 May 2013: Honestly? Just back off a bit, stop being so intense, she already has the stresses of three kids and going through a divorce which is not going smoothly, as evidenced by her sleeping with the ex AND THEN TELLING HIS GIRLFRIEND! What was that all ... (read in full...)
My coworker gives my butterflies is it morally right to invite I'm to dinner knowing he is spoken for?
Q. Dear Cupid ,I am in Lust with one of my co- workers at my job but he is spoken for we flirt with each other every time we get a chance over the week end I spoke to him on the phone my heart was melting with pleasure I could n't believe I was talking ...
A. 17 May 2013: Aw, c'mon, you know that if you invite him to dinner, without the person he is spoken for, means you are wanting something to develop. Some honestly with yourself is called for, how moral could it be.
It is immoral. Don't do it!
... (read in full...)
Does my child's father have any rights? Hasn't paid support and his name isn't on the birth certificate
Q. Hi i have a son who is nearly 5 his dad has never seen him he told me to have a abortion or he was going to get someone to make me miscarry i had my son and brought him up alone but his dad has tried to get in contact with me he has nit paid a penny ...
A. 17 May 2013: He would need to prove he is the father, via a court order, if he wants contact.
He may decide to apply through the courts, if he is seriously wanting to be acknowledged as the father, but I doubt he will do this, unless he has very strong r... (read in full...)
I'm sick of his ex! Will she ever be out of the picture?
Q. hi all thank you for taking the time to read this. i have fallen in love with a man who is 25 yrs older than me and im having his baby. the problem is, is that his stupid ex wife will not get it through her head that i am with him now. i had to w...
A. 16 May 2013: One minute you say you kept your eye on your prize (another woman's husband) and then you ask why is it your fault their marriage ended.
He tells you he will always love her, well hey, hey, hey, I suppose it depends on what you thought the priz... (read in full...)
Boyfriend vacationing with his Ex-Wife
Q. I've been dating this guy for several months and it's been absolutely fantastic. He is divorced (6 years ago) and has 2 wonderful children. (8 and 11) I've met his ex-wife and she seems nice and genuinely happy for him being with me. Before I...
A. 16 May 2013: Its great that his ex wife is happy for him in his VERY NEW relationship with you of only several months.
Now, stop and think for a moment, he has two, young, impressionable children ..... and this trip was planned before you came on the scene. ... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 14 May 2013: Stop talking to him, whatever he has to say is unimportant. By responding to his stupidity you are only giving him reasons to keep talking to you. Don't waste your breath on him any longer. USe your energy for the more important things in life, ... (read in full...)
The fact that he doesn't take care of himself makes it hard for me to see a future for the relationship
Q. You will think that I am very superficial. (I am not even saying "you may think" I know that it is superficial.) I have just started seeing this guy. He is very smart, sweet and caring. He is a little bit on the heavy side but I do find him ...
A. 14 May 2013: Instigate more active outings, take him hiking or playing a sport, walking rather than driving, getting off the bus or train one stop early, go bowling or ice skating.
Let him know you outlook on life is to be active and healthy, tell him abou... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 13 May 2013: Is your father being supportive to you? If he is put the earrings and his letter in a bag and ask your father to let youe ex know they are available for pickup.
Go get the restraining order anyway, and while you are at it make arrangem... (read in full...)
Is it worth having him as a friend if he can't remember my birthday?
Q. Dear Aunts, I have two best friends, and I always tell them everything, but this problem involves one of them. One of them (I'kll call him A) has been wonderful to me, but I don't want to trouble him about my conflicts with the one who has hurt...
A. 13 May 2013: It really depends how important it is to you that people remember your birthday .... My mother forgot mine one year .... no problem, I forgot hers one year too, but I did remember Mother's Day which is usually around the same time, I still feel ... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 13 May 2013: Tell that arsehat to go for his life, taking you to court for refusing his cheap and tawdry attempt at getting back into your knickers (and life).
Tell him if he persists in his attempts to come and visit you at night, after you have told him he i... (read in full...)
My husband tried to hook up with my sister!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 years. We aslo have to kids. Recently I found out that he has been talking to my sister. He told her that he doesnt love me anymore. He loves her. That he wanted to be with her if she would give him a chance ...
A. 12 May 2013: Are you 100% absolutely sure your sister, providing she is the one who told you, is telling the truth??
Being as young as you are you probably dont have many savings or assets, but first things first, protect what ever you can of any money or... (read in full...)
I found out I'm the other girl and I'm pregnant!
Q. I went on three dates with a guy(who said he was single)I had just met. We hooked up twice, and now I'm pregnant. We tried to make things work as a couple, but he ended that after less than a day, because he said it felt forced. We both decided to ...
A. 12 May 2013: Just like being a couple cant be forced neither can friendship. I think what you and he should be aiming for is an amicable relationship where the primary focus of you both is the impending child.
An appointment with your doctore or mid wife tog... (read in full...)
I found out I'm the other girl and I'm pregnant!
Q. I went on three dates with a guy(who said he was single)I had just met. We hooked up twice, and now I'm pregnant. We tried to make things work as a couple, but he ended that after less than a day, because he said it felt forced. We both decided to ...
A. 12 May 2013: Just like being a couple cant be forced neither can friendship. I think what you and he should be aiming for is an amicable relationship where the primary focus of you both is the impending child.
An appointment with your doctore or mid wife tog... (read in full...)
She had sex with the boy I like. How do I act around her now?
Q. i like this boy but he had sex with a girl i know she talks to me but she knew i liked him when she had sex with him they arent together but me and him talk secretly and he asked me to prom and also we are going to revise for exams together what...
A. 12 May 2013: I would also like to know why you and he talk secretly, especially if he is promising to take you to your school prom.
Are you sure he isn't stringing you along with his secret talks, while having sex where ever and when ever he can?
I think... (read in full...)
I turned her down in the past after she told me she liked me and since then she won't open up around me
Q. Was wondering if you could give advise on a girl I've liked for a long time. We've know each other for about 4 years , we've been on holiday together a couple of times and used to meet up to go to the cinema and out to restaurants, it's always been ...
A. 12 May 2013: Yes, she had the guts to tell you how she felt, how about you having the guts to tell her you regret pushing her away and would appreciate her giving you a second chance.
It might take her a while to get back onto a footing of being comforta... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 12 May 2013: Tell him if he has arranged a mother's day gift for your son to give you, the most appropriate thing to do would be to come when your son is awake, give whatever it is to your son, and then your son can give it to you.
He probably wont do this, th... (read in full...)
Is he all talk and no action? Just stringing me along?
Q. I've engaged in a texting relationship with a business associate whom I've known for many years now. He has swept me off my "feet" with talks of foot rubs and beyond. He is an Aries man of a certain age and very married a successful business which ...
A. 11 May 2013: Ring-a-ling-a-ling! Does the fact he is married not ring the warning bells for you?
What are you expecting from this man who you describe as 'very married". An affair, a quick roll in the hay when ever he is passing through? Will you be happy wi... (read in full...)
I hate my boyfriend being friends with her!
Q. Hi everyone. I have been with my boyfriend for the past 3 years. I have a major problem and I hope I won't be judged or get hurtful comments about what I am going to say. My boyfriend is friends with a girl who lets say...sleeps around..a ...
A. 11 May 2013: Your male friends discussing who they have sex with and telling you stuff about another woman that blows you away, yech! Whatever happened to conversations about the latest movie or TV show, or sporting match ..... these men who are so quick to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's drink was spiked and the woman he woke up with now says she is pregnant!
Q. Help me, please. My boyfriend of a year just told me that about a month ago, he went to this girl's house to help her with her abusive ex. He didn't have a way home, so he sat down and she asked him if he wanted anything to drink. I guess it was ...
A. 11 May 2013: *slap! slap! slap!* WAKE UP GIRL!
If it was only 'about a month ago' how can this girl know for certain she is pregnant? And how does she know it is your boyfriend's baby? It would appear from your question that he accepts it is his.
When he w... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this selfish man?
Q. Hi guys! Really need some relationship advice :( so I have been with my fiance for 2.5 years. I have always supported him, he wanted to go into the army - I stuck around, he wanted to do a degree from home - I stuck around, he now wants to stick in ...
A. 9 May 2013: Why would any of us suggest you leave this paragon, he sure sounds like an ideal catch, and the fact he puts his dear old mum first just goes to show where his priorities are.
I am surprised you have posted here, afterall doormats don't usually ... (read in full...)
My husband is more interested in the TV than me
Q. I get my feelings hurt because I do not see my husband all day and when he gets home the first thing he does is go to the TV and stays there all night.(when I do talk to him he doesn't hear half of what I say either) I work part time and...
A. 9 May 2013: Yes, you do have a right to feel the feelings you feel.
Because you have children you need to seriously consider what you want, do you want to live like this for the rest of your life? His filthy mouth is a form of abuse, you don't have to accep... (read in full...)
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