He would make plans with me, then disappear and turn off his cell.
Q. hello I have a guy friend.he met me once. he would always make plans with me. but he wouldnt turn up on the day we make plans. Its always he who makes the plans. but finally when i call him on the day he made the plan his cell is off. goes direct...
A. 22 September 2013: Simple, don't make plans with him, and considering his behaviour I would suggest you have a good long think about why he is even in your life, unless he is adding something positive to it put him in the "mere acquaintance" pile and limit your ... (read in full...)
My ex hates me because I said hi and his girlfriend didn't like it?
Q. Hi all, I just need to get a bit of a rant out of my system. So I dated one guy for about two and a half years and we eventually broke up, nothing harsh really just the fact that we didn't get along as well anymore, and we remained acquaintances ...
A. 19 September 2013: Next time he is somewhere with his girlfriend pretend he isn't there and say hello to her, in a bright and cheery, sing song voice, instead .... and just keep walking.
His behaviour demonstrates clearly you have had a lucky escape, it also sho... (read in full...)
Should I be jealous if my boyfriend commented on one of his FB friend's picture and told her she looked gorgeous?
Q. Should I be jealous if my boyfriend commented on one of his FB friend's picture and told her she looked gorgeous? I happen to see that once because it appeared on my wall and I've seen do that a few times and maybe more that I don't know about. Is ...
A. 19 September 2013: How do you feel if he comments on the negatives about other people, that guy has the biggest nose I ever saw, that girl's torso is too short for her legs, the woman over there has a face that would stop a bus?
You say it makes you feel awkward ... (read in full...)
I feel like this guy somewhat ruined this relationship for me and that she might still be attached to him in some way. Explain this female mind to me!
Q. Ok I really need your guys' insight as to what's going on. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for around a month and a half now, but we've been good friends since freshman year (I'm a senior). Everything's been great, except ever since we ...
A. 13 September 2013: Okay, our answers crossed in the posting, just hang in there for a little longer, it will be worth it!... (read in full...)
I feel like this guy somewhat ruined this relationship for me and that she might still be attached to him in some way. Explain this female mind to me!
Q. Ok I really need your guys' insight as to what's going on. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for around a month and a half now, but we've been good friends since freshman year (I'm a senior). Everything's been great, except ever since we ...
A. 13 September 2013: Okay, you and she have been dating for a month and a half ..... that's only SIX weeks! Give the girl some time willya. This girl has already told you the problem, she feels she has been rushed into sex and doesn't want to have that feeling with you, ... (read in full...)
I feel as if my husband has forgotten his commitment in this marriage and is disregarding the needs and desires that I have.
Q. Hi. Thios os my situation. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and lived together for 1 year before that. We split the bills equally because we earned about the same. (No children) About a year after we married he lost his job. We ...
A. 11 September 2013: I think it is time you both sat down and discussed where you see your marriage going, and discuss goals, both personal goals, and goals as a couple. It does seem as if your husband is focussing on his own goals right now, tell him you feel he has ... (read in full...)
Do I keep a good man even though he's terrible at sex?
Q. Hi:) I need some advice on what I should about my boyfriend because I'm really on the fence... I'm in my mid thirties, divorced( i was with my ex for 13 years)and no children and really want to find the one and settle down and have a family et...
A. 10 September 2013: Go together to a family planning clinic or doctor who specialises in this sort of thing, the fact he is blaming your tightness (yes, usually a desirable thing in a woman's womanly bits) says he knows there is a problem.
See a doctor and find out... (read in full...)
2 guys don't know which one to date and one doesn't seem too interested anymore
Q. So here's my situation. In april, I went home with one of my friend's roommate's (who I was friends with) and we slept together. He's kind of a ladies man, so he'll have the occasional girl over. But anyway, that happened a few times. I didn't ...
A. 10 September 2013: In a nutshell, you are not interested in kid 2 because you are more interested in kid 1 who is not interested in you.
You need to accept your encounter with kid 1 was simply a one night stand, and for him you were one of many. So let that go,... (read in full...)
Is the guy I like gay?
Q. I think the guy I like is gay. But I don't think he even knows it yet. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing wrong with gay people, but I have this habit it finding/falling for gay guys and I would rather that not be the case with this guy. I have ...
A. 8 September 2013: Asking somebody 'multiple' times about their sexuality shows a lack of .... oh so many things. And considering this is a young man, what 15 years old that you are badgering about being gay or not, have you considered what his feelings might be? Are ... (read in full...)
What is it about me that makes me unapproachable when I'm alone?
Q. I had a comment from a stranger in a bar that I have an aura around me that it's hard for anyone to approach me. He said, despite the fact that you are very pretty, your face is the most unfriendly. That was an eye opening for me. I started to...
A. 8 September 2013: This works, although to be honest I had forgotten about it until I read your question, you will need to practice a little until it becomes natural ..... The SOFTEN approach.
S= Smile
O= open posture (no crossed arms etc)
F= forward lean (le... (read in full...)
Why would you women wear a ring on your wedding ring finger if you aren't married?
Q. Totally confused over here right about now......... I like a woman who I thought was married because she wore what looked like a wedding ring on her wedding ring finger. At first I thought it wasn't, it looked too plain not a band type ring then I...
A. 8 September 2013: Not all married people wear rings on their wedding finger (I know this to my cost), maybe its the finger the ring felt best on, or fitted best, or maybe she is unaware of which finger signifies single ness or not, maybe she thinks wearing a ring to ... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend doesn't like that I had lunch with male colleague and accepted chocolate from him. Am I in the wrong?
Q. Dear cupid, I'm in a LDR with my boyfriend of 4.5 months..at the place I work I have been friends with this guy..we have been given the same assignement so we work together! We go out for lunch together as a group but today everyone was bus...
A. 7 September 2013: To answer your question I need more information. Have you ever met your LDR boyfriend face to face, it has only been 4.5 months, or 18 weeks. That is a very short time.
I don't think it was 'wrong' for you to do as you normally would, have lun... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend? His girlfriend's family don't accept him!
Q. My friend's 19, and he's told me he's started dating this Indian girl who's lovely. I'm happy for him, however, it's the reaction of her parents that worries him (she's Muslim but not by choice). She does not want to be Muslim, she is not at al...
A. 6 September 2013: Firstly you don't say what sort of help your friend needs, also you are only getting one side of the story, and not first hand at that! For example how do you know the girl's father is dissatisfied with his religion, did he tell you so?
The o... (read in full...)
Is it right my boyfriend went out with 4 female friends from uni without me, to a swanky new restaurant?
Q. Is it right that my boyfriend goes to dinner in a swanky new restaurant in town with 4 other girls, who are single, without me? No reason for it, just because. Friends from uni that is. My heart sank when he rang me to tell me, and dropped in, ...
A. 6 September 2013: His going out with four friends from uni, without partners should not cause any concern. The fact these four friends are female should also not give concern.
If it is the swanky restaurant that concerns you, let him know you would also like to ... (read in full...)
Should I accompany my boyfriend, who will leave for another country for 13 months?
Q. Hi, Not sure if you can help me but I need some advice. I was married for 5 years and then divorced (married a bad man) anyway didn't think I would find someone so soon after but I did. I met my current BF 1 year after my divorce was final. Anywa...
A. 2 September 2013: Although you have told us you met your current boyfriend one year after your divorce was final you don't say how long you have been together for. You also don't say if you are currently living together, both these factors would give a clearer ... (read in full...)
I asked him a question and he can't give me an answer. What do I do?
Q. Hello cupid members, there is a guy friend of mine that I recently asked the questions of whether or not he sees us more than friends and if we could ever be more. His response was a plain 'i don't know' and we never finished the conversation to ...
A. 25 August 2013: He doesn't want to discuss it, and there is your answer, he doesn't see you and he being more than you are now.
You cant force another person to answer such questions, pushing these sorts of questions can sometimes result in answers we don't wa... (read in full...)
I fear I am being used and lied to!
Q. I need to know if my boyfriend is lying and using me. The thing is my boyfriend used my computer to go on to Facebook and forgot to log out. I noticed this and automatically went to do so when I saw my name in a concerning way so I read it. I felt ...
A. 25 August 2013: Dump him, use the excuse you feel somebody a little more mature would suit you better, and that in order to save him financial loss on the lease and stress of parting when you transfer school you would prefer it to happen sooner, like now, rather ... (read in full...)
The house will be "ours" but he is making the rules!
Q. Both in our 50's and only been married 10. months. We lived together happily for a year before but now bicker all the time. He feels that he has fitted into my lifestyle whilst at my house and we are now moving to his. I never wanted this but ...
A. 25 August 2013: I suggest if not too late you remind him he has always known you are a smoker, and that based on his 'new rules' YOU have decided your rights to enjoy your home outweigh his rights to lay down the law and as a result of his forcing you into a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is either the eternal batchelor or has cold feet!
Q. How soon is too soon to have a conversation about moving in, or the next step? (marriage) My boyfriend and I have known each other for 3 years and been dating for 9 months. We are both in our late 30s. I have to move (lease is up) - so I men...
A. 24 August 2013: Nine months dating is too soon to be moving in together, and WOW at your friend moving in after a mere four months.
I think the wise thing to do would be to renew your lease, give him some breathing space, and when the pressure to move, or renew... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to feel jealous if my on-and off bf sleep with another girl?
Q. Hello, So technically my boyfriend broke up with me a year and half ago (in Jan 2012) but he still keeps me around. He said long distance isn't for him but I still love him and have a hard time letting him go. So, every break when I get a chance, ...
A. 24 August 2013: Nope, he is not your on off boyfriend, he was your boyfriend in the past, now he is your ex boyfriend, current sex partner.
I would just not have anything to do with him quite frankly and let him get on with it, it sounds like you are the one doin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is trying to stir up drama when all I want to do is talk to him!
Q. My boyfriend is on a lads holiday at the moment and last night he dropped me a message that he had to be honest and on his first night he had kissed another girl but it didn't mean anything. I told him I was glad he told me but I wasn't going to ...
A. 24 August 2013: Sound to me he is either trying to get you to break m or trying to be the big man with a little woman in front of his mates.
Either way he is being juvenile. I would suggest you leave him and his mates to get on with their lads vacation, don't ca... (read in full...)
I once let a guy film us having sex, which he then showed to his friends. I'm dating someone new and I'm not sure whether I should tell him about this incident.
Q. Once in my past, I let a guy that I trusted briefly film us having sex. He then showed it to a few of his friends, and for some reason I didn't stop him. I told him no, that I didn't want him to, but he did anyways and I just didn't know what to do ...
A. 22 August 2013: If you feel this relationship might be long term I think you should tell him, for the simple reason it would be better for him to hear about it from you, now, rather than in 15 years time when some random stranger say to him,
'hey, your wife look... (read in full...)
Anyone else ever not been invited to a baby shower? I'm engaged to her father.
Q. I've been in my current relationship for 5 years and we are engaged. I know his children, etc. The daughter is married (27 years old) and is now pregnant for the first time. She is having her baby shower in a couple of months. I only found this ...
A. 21 August 2013: The family dynamics might simply be to leave Dad out of these things, and unless the level of contact between the daughter and your partner has changed since you came on the scene try not (hard I know) to take it to heart.
I agree, put together... (read in full...)
Is being tan really considered to be more beautiful?
Q. So lately, everyone has been commenting on how pale I am. I mean its the summer time and I work as a lifeguard so you'd think I'd be super tan but nope, I have to wear a lot of sunscreen and when I don't, I get badly burned very easily and the burn ...
A. 20 August 2013: You know the old saying; "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and you have already answered your question when you say you get compliments on your white skin.
As for tanning through exposure to the sun ....... danger, danger. While skin cancer m... (read in full...)
I'm married, he's married. Do I tell him that I have a crush?
Q. I am married and I have a crush on a married teacher I met only briefly. Should I tell him? ...
A. 20 August 2013: Why on earth would you do that? What would you be hoping to achieve?... (read in full...)
Why do conversations with my friend always wind up being steered towards sex?
Q. I really don't know what's going on with my friend. We're pretty close and I guess he's kind of like a brother to me. He might not see it that way, but I see it. I met him almost a year ago. We've exchanged crushes and personal secrets, and the...
A. 20 August 2013: His hormones are raging, his testosterone production has increased ten fold, and on his mind is sex, sex, sex.
Oh yeah, he has feelings for you, lots and lots of sexual feelings. However, sexual feelings are a lot different to emotional or roman... (read in full...)
My curvy LDR gets advice from her friends to lose weight. I like her just the way she is. Should she listen to her friends or me?
Q. I have been in LDR with an American girl for two years. We met once in South East Asia and spent two weeks together. I'm 32 and she is 34. She is curvy and always asks me whether, "should I lose weight or not?" Also, if she loses weight, he...
A. 19 August 2013: It really depends on how you define curvy and if there are any health risks associated with her extra weight.
Her friends may be concerned for her, and her health, where your opinion expresses a concern for your selfish preferences. ... (read in full...)
Why do low-income families tend to have more kids per family unit?
Q. Just curious, as I see tons of family's that have sometimes 3 or more children, yet have an extremely small income. You'd think it'd be the opposite, because the low-income families have neither the time nor the money to properly care for these ...
A. 18 August 2013: There are many reasons why people may have large families, including cultural reasons. There are also nations where birth control is not readily available, maybe for religious reasons or due to a very high cost for birth control.
In some countrie... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 11 August 2013: Who says Enrico being better is the truth? Not your wife but you!
It doesn't matter what your wife says, she is in the wrong!
You have a mental problem, your wife is the victim here.
If I was talk to her I would advise her to pack her bags... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 10 August 2013: Persisting to call your wife a liar is not going to help your marriage.
Continuing to discount your wife's right to have an opinion different to the opinion you want her to havr will only harm your marriage.
Here is the bottom line, you are ment... (read in full...)
B/f was bombarding me with drunken phone calls so I turned my phone off and he couldn't contact me when his gran died. He now hates me for not being there for him. How do I handle this?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend had a lot of financial stress and he started drinking heavily, then he would phone me for these stupid drunken conversations. I tried to help with money, emotional support, trying to arrange nice things to do that he din't have to ...
A. 10 August 2013: Your selfish drunk of a boyfriend could possibly be feeling guilty about being out and getting drunk while his granny was dying and so he is shifting the blame onto you.
Don't accept that blame.
If he is incapable of accepting you need to get ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 10 August 2013: Like Derrr. Please indulge me while I ask YOU a few questions ....
Why are you insisting your wife is lying?
How do you know you are not your wife's best lover?
Did somebody tell you so?
Did that person know because your wife told them so?
... (read in full...)
Flirty work colleague refuses to acknowledge my marriage.
Q. Dear all, I request your advice on my situation. In a way it is silly. I am married and very happy about family life. I have this female friend at work whom I like very much. she is 10 year younger than me and is at the age to get married. We are g...
A. 8 August 2013: This woman is a danger to your marriage. She is not your friend, so forget about having a smooth loving friendship with her, because as long as she refuses to talk with, meet or even acknowledge your wife she is disrespecting you, your life and who ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a person to be so involved in their work that intimacy is lacking in relationships?
Q. Normally you hear about men being obsessed with porn online, but in my case, it's a little bit different. I am 32 and have been with my partner, who's 34, for 4 years now. I am of Anglo-Dutch descent; English mother from Atherton, near Wigan, G...
A. 8 August 2013: As a female, at your age, you are in your sexual prime, and part of life is having sex. It's good for your emotional and physical well being.
Tell him one of the things that he needs to ensure there are enough hours in the day is you, your nee... (read in full...)
He won't let me near his stuff but expects to be allowed to go through mine. Help me!
Q. I am having problems trusting my boyfriend,but he says im crazy my boyfriend used to be very open with his email,his phone,his friends.He would not care if I was on his laptop and his email was open,and would share all his pics with me He wa...
A. 4 August 2013: You need to decide what sort of relationship you want ....
I would not share my passwords with him if I were you, you should not be sharing your passwords with anybody. If you don't mind him looking at your stuff you can say, "sure, let me log i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets upset if I have any contact with males without telling him!
Q. Please help me... It's a long story but I'll try to make it short, my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years, and he is extremely jealous, he says he wasn't like this before and I destroyed his trust in me and made him a paranoid...
A. 4 August 2013: SLAP, SLAP, SLAP! Now listen here!
You were a naïve, dumb, unaware girl on the brink of womanhood when you were totally oblivious to an older guy hitting on you. So, you boyfriend tried to point it out, and you either ignored his advice or pooh... (read in full...)
My ex will not allow his children to see me and I know how much it is hurting them
Q. Hi... Just a question I wanted to ask as I am so so angry and need clarity! I have broke up with my fella of 2 years, he took me for granted, used me as a money bank etc etc. I was unhappy for months and told him but he never tried... He ...
A. 3 August 2013: What an absolute failure of a father!
His children are not yours, and it seems he will have no compunction hurting them in order to hurt you. The best thing you can do for these kids is to withdraw completely from their lives.
Block him fro... (read in full...)
My family picks on me and it never stops!
Q. my problem is that my family picks on me and it doesnt matter how many years go by or miles are between us they seem to pick up where they left off, one sister says i always have a attitude and makes the remark i hope you dont treat people that way. ...
A. 2 August 2013: I see you have chosen the nickname "leftout" top post on this site, that's quite sad and heart wrenching!
Its true that old behaviours, impressions and opinions can last a lifetime. These people have had 50 years to paint you as the one with the... (read in full...)
Could he still be in love with his ex g/f?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend on, off for almost a year. I have a problem with his ex who he is very best friends with. I looked at messages on his phone and he tries to horny chat with her, he even told her he was just with me to pass the time, ...
A. 2 August 2013: You know, if somebody told their ex they were with me just to pass the time I would be giving them the old heave ho!
Have you asked him why he said such a dreadful thing, not that there would be any answer acceptable to me?
Are you sure your li... (read in full...)
I've tried to move on with other girls but I still love my ex!
Q. To make a long story short, I cant seem to clear my head about my ex when we broke up 2 years ago, Shes gorgeous and so attractive but its been my biggest mistake of my life, My problem is that i keep trying to make her my girlfriend again, She ...
A. 1 August 2013: Well then, you are a pair of slow learners aren't you, if you are a junior and she a sophomore and you are aged between 36 and 40 as indicated in your profile .....
However, lets assume your age has been entered incorrectly, and that this is a gen... (read in full...)
Do I believe my current guy, who used to be a player, or my ex, who is a compulsve liar?
Q. Me and this guy have been friends for some time but we recently decided to take things a little further. We aren't officially dating or anything but we "talk". Anyway, He has a past of a cheater, but he has been 100% faithful to me. He gives me...
A. 1 August 2013: There is no rule in this life that you have to believe either. Why not show both of them your back as you walk away.
Until you let yourself be attracted to men who are not cheats, or players, or liars, or moochers or whatever other sort of men t... (read in full...)
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