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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi in need of helpI have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 and a half years. 10 days ago I had found out she had been lying to me. She had been going out with another guy and hiding it from me. It started out one day when I logged into Facebook and found her best friend had blocked me. I found this very odd and suss so I asked my girlfriend about it. For a week she told me it was because we had left a condom around the house and I was messy ( her and her best friend live together ) she made an elaborate story as to why I was being blocked and denied any inquires I made.I got a mutual friend to get on her best friends friend list an found the real reason I was being blocked... There were tagged photos of girlfiend at a club with this guy who has always liked her with his arms around her and head close etc.That night she had told me she was at dinner with a girlfriend. A closer look I found out she had gone to the movies with this guy whilst messaging me and telling me she was home. I was hurt by all of this and my trust was shattered as he had lied and gone to great lengths to hide it. 1 year ago we had also almost split up because she was talking to this guy once again behind my back. If she told me what she was doing I would be ok with it but the hiding and lying makes it suss and I know she wouldn't be ok with me hanging one on one with another girl.For a few days she begged me back ad apologised for lying and said she would never lie again and they were just friends.. I decided to be wary but give her another chance... I found out she had seen this guy on another occasion from a mutual friend and decided to ask her to see if she would honest... She wasn't she had lied to me again ...I confronted her about it and she started being smug and Said I'mOver it And said to me in too good for you anyway :) This was by text message.She knew how hurt I was and once confronted about lying again said that, it really Cut deep so I became nasty and said the following ;What makes u think your so good, u only work at store 3 days a week and u talk bad about everyone Your not even hot anywayI said this knowing it would hurt her and she is a lil insecure.She told me it really hurt and she wants to break up. I've apologised but at the same time I'm still so hurt And angryzShe has ignored me for 3 days now. What should I do ?
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reader, DV1  +, writes (21 August 2013):
 She's trash. Move on to someone better.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (26 July 2013):
Why on earth are you trying to seek forgiveness from her? This is exactly what she wants...she wants you to chase her and let you be the one to take the fall for the break up. Let this one go and move on asap because this woman does not love you. Even if she comes back to you, I promise she will cheat on you again...unless that is what you want.
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (25 July 2013):
 unless you want to keep her for sex purposes, i'd suggest you let her go do and be with whomever she wants. There are too many amazing women out there waiting to get to know you. NO SERIOUSLY!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2013): Move on, sorry to be so blunt, but if you are being treated like a doormat and accept it then there is no one else who can help you. She has done it before and is doing it now, your affection for her should be enough, but it is not, you said she is insecure so maybe she needs these men to boost her esteem. You deserve to be treated equally in your relationship. Maybe it says something about how you see yourself and what you think your worth. You think you deserve to be cheated on and then justify yourself? There is no trust, you are soon going to be the go to guy, not the boyfriend. Get a girl who wants to be with you and make you happy, not a girl who wants you on the side, whilst she get her kicks with other guys. Gather together all your pride and do the right thing, you will be happier.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (25 July 2013):
 Run away from the lying cheater while you have the chance, and don't look back! She cheated with him 12 months ago, and has lied and cheated again since you first confronted her, so why on earth are you wanting her back again?
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