I told her I was socially awkward and she laughed it off.
Q. I spent a day with a girl I like and her friend. I'm kinda socially awkward and didn't say much to them at all. It was really ridiculous on my behalf. She did say that she wanted to see me again so I don't think I came off too weird or creepy. So ...
A. 28 December 2013: I wasn't there, so I don't know what she meant by her laugh, but have you considered she laughed at your confession to being socially awkward because it was obvious to her? However, based on what you have written, and the words you have chosen I ... (read in full...)
He keeps throwing my past relationships in my face!
Q. Hello everyone ! I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I love my boyfriend but lately things have been going downhill. He can't let go of my past. I don't know how he found out I hooked up with a guy before him and he keeps th...
A. 28 December 2013: You cant make him let go of your past, he doesn't want to let go of your past, being able to throw your past in your face gives him power and control over you.
From the age you have given us I am assuming your boyfriend is too immature to recognis... (read in full...)
My married man loves me but can't be with me
Q. Please bear with this long story. I am unmarried and in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I recently moved to a different country and there I met a guy friend. We both are aware of our situation from the very beginning when we first ...
A. 27 December 2013: When your married man's wife found the old condom wrapper she discovered her husband, a man who had entered into a legally binding contract with her, was not only a liar and a cheater, but he has so little respect for her and that contract of ... (read in full...)
What if I don't actually like my inlaws?
Q. Hi Everyone :) I was just curious…do most people get along well with their in-laws/parents of their SO? I'm in a relationship with a guy a really like, but my relationship with his family (parents and two older siblings) is just so-so. They're...
A. 26 December 2013: We often have to deal with people in our everyday lives who we don't actually like. Bosses and co workers, extended family members, and in laws alike.
As long as all involved are willing to act in a civil manner there will be no problems... (read in full...)
Overbearing in-laws since day one! Do I walk away?
Q. I have married for almost seven years, I am not a young person and this is my second marriage. But I have been having with over bearing inlaws since day one. At first it was just little comments from my father In law about things I might do around ...
A. 26 December 2013: What is your wife's feeling on this, is she happy to have her father and brother interfering in your lives as they are, or is she with you and not happy with their interference?
Is she is aware you are considering walking away from this marriage... (read in full...)
I don't want to be alone anymore.
Q. If I'm trying to find my first g/f, or in general first date, etc... What places should I go, library, book store, when I'm at the park on a walk? I'm feeling out of options here, I just don't really want to be alone anymore. If anyone has anything ...
A. 25 December 2013: Do stuff you enjoy, do workshops and classes, join clubs and associations, make friends, your future girlfriend might not be amongst them but her brother, aunt, cousin, friend might be. Build relationships, be open to other people, if you are into ... (read in full...)
She kept looking, but didn't return my smile. Was she was interested and should I try to find her again?
Q. I have noticed this very good looking girl on the underground a few times. So the last time I managed to sit almost opposite her on a full train. She definitely kept looking at me every few minutes, looking away a few seconds after I caught her g...
A. 24 December 2013: If you somehow 'managed' to sit almost opposite her she might have been looking at you to memorise your face when she reported the guy that has been stalking her on the underground.
Next time, instead of just sitting there waiting to see if she w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend informed me he'll be spending New Year's Eve with his friends and their wives
Q. We have been dating for ten months, we had a fight last week that I was mad at him for not doing much with me. So we make up and have a great weekend together and I ask him what we are doing for new years and he said he is going out with his frie...
A. 23 December 2013: Without knowing why they don't like you this situation does not look good for the future of your relationship. If you are expected to be on your own for significant holidays and events because he prefers to spend them with people who don't like ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend asked me to marry him in 4 or 5 years
Q. I am so broken hearted! My boyfriend asked me to marry him last night and I was so excited But tonight wanted to go look at rings and he don't want to buy me one cause it will cut into his beer money and he says I just asked you to marry me but I d...
A. 23 December 2013: Tell him you are not prepared to wait four or five years or maybe longer, and rather than impinge on his beer money, or drinking time, you will leave him to it!
He is stringing you a line, don't fall for it. Leave his sorry sad self and go get y... (read in full...)
I like a coworker but she is taken and her boyfriend could be abusive. What's my next step?
Q. to cut a long story short, shes Polish came over here with her boyfriend 4 years ago 3 years ago she started at my work not long after she started we got on really well spending time together etc, it came to the point were we had to do something ...
A. 23 December 2013: Its got nothing to do with nice guys finishing last, a saying which, in my opinion, is a crock anyway.
It has to do with the fact you have been sitting around for three years waiting for something that isn't going to happen. If she wanted t... (read in full...)
Flakey girls and the men who fall for them!
Q. Just got back from going out, and my situation off that bat is I'm 27/m, never had a g/f, date, kissed, held hands, had sex, etc... And I don't want to be left out. So I'm approached by a girl who seemed at the time to be into me, got her something ...
A. 22 December 2013: why on earth would you chose to ignore any advise from men on this forum, I would have thought their take on the issue from a male perspective would be valuable.
There are women who think its funny, or a game, to chat guys up, get free drinks, ... (read in full...)
We agree to meet ..... and then he cancels!
Q. So, I've been talking to this guy online for almost a couple of months and he first asked me out about a month ago but then cancelled because he realised he had plans that evening. We exchanged numbers after this and he called to ask me out the ...
A. 22 December 2013: At first I was going to suggest leaving it until he called or contacted you, and then I thought, but what if ....
What if his reasons for breaking both arrangements were genuine, and now he is too embarrassed, or feels he probably screwed his chan... (read in full...)
Its make or break time for our relationship.
Q. i need help desperatley!! my 2 yr relationship is on rocks.....2 kids involved 1 is his. constantli arguing, he starts them, i get blamed. his attitude has changed, so has mine because of all the crap im getting. the kids get it to. my 5yr old is b...
A. 22 December 2013: The fact he is hitting your son around the head and yelling at the baby when she wakes during the night really should be a deal breaker.
Don't raise your kids around this violent, nasty man. Tell him to leave and not come back. Your children... (read in full...)
His ex wife wants him back!
Q. Well hello I really need some help... I been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he has two kids with his ex wife... Things have been great with us and he has been there for me through everything... I love his children too... The day w...
A. 22 December 2013: At the moment he IS treating you like second best, he is also cheating on you with his ex wife, whether they are having sex or not.
Tell him you want him to make up his mind NOW what he is going to do because you have no interest in waiting ... (read in full...)
She didn't seem like a virgin when we had sex!
Q. I have not too much experience with girls, Ive been dating this girl for a while. We dated and we had oral but not nothing further. then after a few dates later she finally decided to have sex with me. Not long ago she told me she bought online a ...
A. 20 December 2013: Is this you as well?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/did-she-lost-her-virginity-to-a-dildo.html
What do you mean 'she didn't seem like a virgin at the time we had sex"
You have already said you don't have much experience with girls so maybe ... (read in full...)
I feel so used -- he dropped me as soon as we slept together
Q. Hello, I understand this is probably a trivial and common question, but it is really getting me down as this has never happened to me before. I met this guy and we got talking, we had a in depth conversation and he was really sweet. We changed ...
A. 18 December 2013: I'm older, although this is more common when you sleep with somebody TOO SOON, it can also happen after a relationship has started, a few dates, talking, getting to know each other, all that stuff and then pow! You sleep with him and then he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Marriage being damaged by wife's male friend who has now stayed for more than 2 months
Q. I have been married for 2 years, I am 41 and my wife is 30. We have always been amazing together, and I thought we were happy. We recently started trying for kids, which was her idea, as I was never going to push her until she was ready. She has ...
A. 17 December 2013: If he hasn't already got your wife interested in him, he is certainly white anting your marriage.
Go home now and ell him it is time for him to stop being a bludger, and to hump his bluey!
If your wife complains tell her to leave as well.
... (read in full...)
Do I reply to his lovely response?
Q. Hello aunties and uncles I was friends with a man for over 5 years, he's 3 years younger than me.. During the first 6 months we had a fling, and then we became just friends. I fell in love with him and all the way through our friendship I yea...
A. 16 December 2013: No, don't respond to his response, there was no invitation there for the friendship to be rekindled, just a gracious thanks for a nice surprise.
He cannot or will not give more than he gave before, let it drop, you are already on the way to getti... (read in full...)
Do I reply to his lovely response?
Q. Hello aunties and uncles I was friends with a man for over 5 years, he's 3 years younger than me.. During the first 6 months we had a fling, and then we became just friends. I fell in love with him and all the way through our friendship I yea...
A. 16 December 2013: No, don't respond to his response, there was no invitation there for the friendship to be rekindled, just a gracious thanks for a nice surprise.
He cannot or will not give more than he gave before, let it drop, you are already on the way to getti... (read in full...)
He wants to split EVERY expense we incur as a couple and it's causing problems in our relationship
Q. Help needed!! My boyfriend of 6 months ls all for equality to the point that it makes me miserable. Before anyone says that I probably like when guys pay for me, let me give you a little background. We both young professionals , I am 5 y...
A. 16 December 2013: Your boyfriend of six months is the financial abuser, expecting you to subsidise his big steaks and many beers diet.
Your relationship IS only six months old, can you imagine this situation going on for a further six months, or even six years ..... (read in full...)
My best friend has changed for the worse since meeting her boyfriend
Q. Hi, I could really do with some advice right now. Please can you read the whole thing as I know sometimes people just answer the question that comes up as the title, regardless of what is said in the actual written part? I’m also so sorry for the ...
A. 15 December 2013: The friendship is done, over, finished, your former friend has called it quits, and wished you well for the future.
Your suggestion that you could be suffering depression is very valid, and I think you should go talk to somebody about that, if... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he's forgotten my birthday..
Q. My birthday is today. I've been dating a man for 7 months. He knows when my birthday is and we've already celebrated his birthday in August. He has a VERY demanding job and is currently out of the country working. He emailed me last night and ...
A. 12 December 2013: A few years ago my son rang and asked if I had forgotten anything ..... I thought for a moment and said "no, I am pretty sure I remembered to pay the car registration" .... it was his birthday.
Is forgetting a birthday a crime? I hope not!... (read in full...)
I am feeling suffocated!
Q. I have been seeing a guy for just over a year and, by and large, am very happy. I have a young son (single parent), and he is now in full-time education which is great. I am a single parent and get one weekend off a month, when my son spends ti...
A. 12 December 2013: woops, to continue
either you stick to your original plans or he accepts your compromise of you having Christmas to yourself and New Year with him, or he has nothing. His choice. Don't let him railroad you into something you don't want.... (read in full...)
I am feeling suffocated!
Q. I have been seeing a guy for just over a year and, by and large, am very happy. I have a young son (single parent), and he is now in full-time education which is great. I am a single parent and get one weekend off a month, when my son spends ti...
A. 12 December 2013: This guy is in it for the sex only, if he was seeing a long term relationship he would also be seeing you when you are in the role of mother ...... as you are a packaged pair.
Wowee for the guy, a whole week of unfettered sex with no kid around .... (read in full...)
I need help with my monster in laws!
Q. Sorry this may be a long one! But I need help! Potential monster in laws. Hi I need some help with my in laws, my boyfriend of 3 years is their only child and I feel like they resent me for taking him away, because he's very busy with work and ch...
A. 12 December 2013: I feel a little sad for your boyfriend's parents, it seems his life has been overtaken by his girlfriend and her family.
Do they ever get the chance for some family fun with just him or are you always there, attached to his hip?
Did they ask ... (read in full...)
He lost his friend. Now he's yelling at me, about how it's my fault. Is it?
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago, but he says that we're on break. But we're still intimate. I have a jealousy of girls because all my boyfriends (except this one) has cheated on me. Naturally, I don't like girls now. So, my ex ...
A. 11 December 2013: Firstly, why are you sleeping with him when he is not your boyfriend.
Secondly, if you and he are broken up, regardless of if you are having sex or not, you have no right to say who he can, or cannot, be friends with.
It all sounds like a great... (read in full...)
How do we mend our relationship once the trust has been broken?
Q. I met this guy a year ago, We dated but he cheated on me with this girl who hated me( his ex). I know he cared for her but I also know she did it to break us up. I didn't want to give her the satisfaction so I tried to work it out with him, but she ...
A. 10 December 2013: Counselling, you cant start over while the past is sitting ther like a big pink elephant. So you need to deal with what went before, work through it, determine the whys and wherefores and then once it has been dealt with you will be able to move on ... (read in full...)
Broke up with bf... do men actually have feelings?
Q. Okay, I broke up with my boyfriend, of 3 years, a few days ago. I changed all numbers and blocked/deleted him from everything and went NC to the best of my ability. We broke up like this 10 months ago and after 3 weeks he found a way back in and we ...
A. 10 December 2013: Yes, men are human and they feel feelings the same as the rest of us, its just that sometimes they have been conditioned to not show those feelings in public, from very, very young. If a male toddler falls over and starts to cry the very likely ... (read in full...)
Do some people never move on?
Q. Hi everyone, just wantedd to know is it possible to never move on from a relationship or does everyone move on eventually? What are your thoughts and experiences?...
A. 9 December 2013: A lot of people never move on, they remain stuck firm, and when you ask how long they are prepared to wait, a month, 6 months, a year, 10 years, they turn deaf.
Fear also holds some people back, fear of being hurt again, or fear that they may inve... (read in full...)
We really connected and now he wants me to visit for New Year
Q. Having a little dilemma here... I meet guy at a sports training event about 2 months ago - we didn't talk but made eye contact with each other. A few days later, I saw him at the gym. We started talking - and evenually exchanged numbers. The next ...
A. 7 December 2013: If it had been longer that two weeks since you met him I would be saying go for it! But two weeks is such a short time and it is only a matter of months since he broke up with his girlfriend I think you should wait just a little bit longer and give ... (read in full...)
He tried to stick me with the bill on our first meeting ...
Q. I met this guy who I thought really likes me. We exchanged phone numbers, and few days later he offered to meet. So we go for a walk in one of the cool areas of the city, and we walk and walk, walk and walk, talk and around 2 p.m. I felt naut...
A. 7 December 2013: When I read your question I was horrified because through miscommunication and misunderstanding any of us could have been in that poor guy's situation. We don't know what words were exchanged between you that led him to come to the understanding he ... (read in full...)
I just found out my boyfriend has a baby but he denies it
Q. Hi, im 16yrz and i've been dating my b.f for 7months. I just find out that this b.f of mine who is 18 years has a baby. I was shocked when i 1st heard it.. When i asked him last week he denied everything.. I know that he is lying to me. i just don...
A. 7 December 2013: Ask yourself, if he can lie about something as important as a baby what else will he lie about?
Do you want a liar for a boyfriend or would you prefer somebody who can admit their errors and tells the truth.
At your age I think you would be bet... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty that I broke up with my boyfriend so close to Christmas!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, of 3 years, yesterday. He'd been emotionally abandoning me for quite some time and we'd been having problems the last few months that we couldn't get past. I told him time and time again that I wouldn't keep "waiting" ...
A. 7 December 2013: Christmas, New Year, anniversary of his grandpa's demise, close to his birthday, his mother's birthday the dog's birthday ..... no matter what, it's possible no date would seem a suitable day to break up with somebody, but if your relationship was ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me for not supporting him in an argument with my mum
Q. Hello everyone. Ive recently split up with my boyfriend of 4 years, we met at university and practically lived together since, as relationships go we've had out ups and downs. I'm very close to my mum, my dad died when i was 4 so i have just gro...
A. 7 December 2013: He is trying to manipulate you into choosing him over your mum.
It does take two to make an argument, and let me tell you this comment:
"My boyfriend can be quite pushy which for my mum is quite hard to deal with as she brought me up by... (read in full...)
I'm dreading my mother-in-law's visit!
Q. Dreading my mother in law coming from out of state to visit. I've been with husband for six years now and I'm still having issues with his mother. She's never got the chance to know me and has been very judge mental from the start always throwing ...
A. 6 December 2013: Smile .... start practicing, smile and then say "well, fancy that" whenever she tries to stick the boot in, you could alternate the phrase with the occasional "oh, how lovely" .... when she says something extra snide.
As wise owl has said, we... (read in full...)
He's going on a holiday without me after I've been asking him for a year!
Q. I need some advice regarding my boyfriend going on a snowboarding holiday. For a full year I have asked him if he wants to go on holiday with me, he says he does, but whenever I speak about holidays or point any out he always finds something ...
A. 6 December 2013: Well there you go, he isn't interested in going on holidays with you, and considering the cost he is putting out for THIS holiday, it seems his talk about doing it cheaper was just a bunch of meaningless words as well.
And they are all joking a... (read in full...)
He expects me to be ready at a moment's notice?
Q. I'm starting to get a bit annoyed at my boyfriend but I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or not. He has a habit of calling me and expecting me to be ready to see him at a moment's notice, and if I say I can't he doesn't seem to understand why not. For ...
A. 5 December 2013: So you are at home, doing your nails, cleaning the over, writing emails, even playing a computer game, and he phones you and you are supposed to just stop what you are doing, drop everything, and rush on over?
Excuse me!
When does he rush to ... (read in full...)
Can you forgive a cheating husband?
Q. Hey all, im devastated , found my husband of 6 years cheating, he had changed for a while and i suspected something. I took his mobile while asleep and found love msgs.. I was soo shocked, im young and we hav two adorable girls... He then started ...
A. 2 December 2013: It IS possible to forgive a cheating husband, and at odd times even forget. But it takes a lot of work, especially on the part of the husband.
He needs to be aware he must be SEEN to be trying to atone for his behaviour, counselling might he... (read in full...)
I found a lipstick in my partner's car and my gut feeling is telling me there's more to this. What do I do?
Q. I don't know what to make of this situation so hoping someone can give me some advice. My partner and I have been together for 3 years. We've had a great relationship and friendship. This morning I found a lipstick in his car. I have no r...
A. 2 December 2013: Interestingly enough, I was oblivious to other signs of cheating and found a lipstick in my husband's suitcase .... put there deliberately
The lipstick planter had got the husband she was cheating on to break up with his first wife by leaving ... (read in full...)
Made out with a coworker and he told people about it. Do I forgive him, avoid him, or resign?
Q. I don't know if I should forgive this guy named J. We sort of both liked each other, nothing official came from it and he ended up telling people we made out. That's not a lie but he promised he wouldn't kiss and tell considering we both voluntee...
A. 2 December 2013: Why would you even consider somebody who falsely accused you of damaging their vehicle and discusses you with everybody he has ever interacted with, even the gas man, and posts long, long questions about you on this site?... (read in full...)
Should I still visit my boyfriend every weekend when he's busier than I am?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a few months. He is currently studying for his LSAT everyday, while I am busy with just school. I sleep over his place every weekend; I come late at night, and then leave the next afternoon. Although, I am c...
A. 1 December 2013: No, you should not be expecting less from him, quite the contrary, you should be expecting more, much more!... (read in full...)
Should I still visit my boyfriend every weekend when he's busier than I am?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a few months. He is currently studying for his LSAT everyday, while I am busy with just school. I sleep over his place every weekend; I come late at night, and then leave the next afternoon. Although, I am c...
A. 1 December 2013: Your relationship seems very one sided, you are the one doing all the travelling, and all the visiting, also the one organising when you meet and get together.
Seems to me he isn't putting any effort at all into this relationship, but he is getti... (read in full...)
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