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writes: Please help. I have been noticing this man around a lot the last 3 weeks and we've been flirting (staring mostly by him and lots of smiles) we have not had chance to speak but have feeling that we would have got along, just didn't have chance to get to know him. Sometimes you get this feeling about someone. Middle of this week he went red because I smiled, this time I did first and he was smiling to himself that made me fall for him. Now found out he's moving on (not his choice) and never got to say goodbye. He's not on Facebookand hahave no contact for him now feel broken. Was planning to leave my disastrous relationship for him if he stayed and we got close. Seems like ive fallen hard for him. What should I do?
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reader, mummy76  +, writes (14 July 2013):
Sometimes men flirt without it meaning a lot unlike us and when feeling low and vulnerable it can mean a big deal to us. Should think that him moving on has saved you a deal of tears could he be also seeking validation from you because his relationship also is unhappy? Sense from your question you are both shy so thats why there were no talking other than maybe the occasional hi. Think it runs deeper than even your relationship. Do you feel like you need someone to make you complete? And how did you know him? Saw him around? Through his job? Looks like you don't want him identified for some reason and I understand, that means that you actually did care. Pick yourself up cherish those memories and move on. Goodcluck I really do empathise x
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reader, R1 +, writes (14 July 2013):
 We all understand how you feel, having a good cry can make you feel better, pick yourself up and move on :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAll answers are saying the same thing and know something was there but nowhere near enough. Thanks to all who answered. Men can sometimes flirt without meaning anything and put it into perspective and stopped me getting hurt yet again. I will put this behind me by concentrating on making myself strong again and everyone who replied made total sense which can fly out the window when you develop feelings for someone the crying has stopped earlier today which means I am now on the way to mocing 8n. Thanks yet again
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAll answers are saying the same thing and know something was there but nowhere near enough. Thanks yet again
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, although this wasn't the answer I wanted it has put it into perspective for me . Will have to put it all behind me and try to move on. Most of today the crying has totally stopped so feel more hopeful about myself now and try to pick myself up again
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reader, mel1234 +, writes (13 July 2013):
you've got to accept that hes moving on you cant make someone like you and you need to bee talking and going out on dates to make it official
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (13 July 2013):
 HELLO! Earth calling!
You have seen him during the past three weeks, not even a month, you have never spoken, how the hell do you think you know why he is moving, c'mon, stop the lovely day dream because that is all it was, there was nothing there at all for you to pin such hope on. And what's this crap about not getting to say goodbye? You didn't even say hello for heaven's sake. Reality check required!
If you are in a bad relationship then get out of it for you own sake and not for some fantasy you have built up in your head.
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reader, R1 +, writes (13 July 2013):
I don't think staring is flirting!!! People stare out of curiosity so it can be good or bad.
You don't know this man, you have fallen for a fantasy! If you do want to leave your relationship then that is something you should do, but then maybe be single and get to know people first before you fall for them.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (13 July 2013):
 What should you do???...Get over it is ALL you can do.
I don't know what is is with some womwn that they just have to get a look or a kind word off of a man and they start tripping into the realms of romantic fantasy!!
You didn't even speak to the bloke, you know absolutely nothing about him and now you are all sad ans depressed because you had a feeling about him?...Come on!! He could be married or in a relationship already and you got yourself leaving your relationship for him???
I think this has more to do with being unhappy in your current relationship and wishful thinking that a 'look' is enough to get some random guy to come and save you!!!
If you arn't happy being with the person you are with now, put an end to it and be single for a while. It will give you time to be yourself and branch out a little without waiting for the 'next best thing' to come along!!
Sorry to be so harsh on you but your post is quite enigmatic and fanciful so it's hard to make a judgement without all the facts but thats not my fault...you posted and asked for opinions and that is mine!!
Not every encounter is meant to work out, not every look means something, if you live like that you are going to be bitterly disappointed in life. Make yourself happy with you and then you will be ready to find someone else.
Good luck x
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