Is my Gf cheating on me with my mate? Or am I being paranoid?
Q. Okay so it all started when my mate first stayed round my Girlfriend's house and she said he could stay in the bed with us. I didn't think anything at this time I just didn't like it and in the end I just made him sleep on the floor. Then he st...
A. 8 January 2013: Hi OP, how do you feel about his answer, do you think that is all there was too it? If he is speaking the truth how do you feel about her texting him that she fancies him?
Do you feel the text was okay where having sex wasn't? Is it cheating... (read in full...)
Is my Gf cheating on me with my mate? Or am I being paranoid?
Q. Okay so it all started when my mate first stayed round my Girlfriend's house and she said he could stay in the bed with us. I didn't think anything at this time I just didn't like it and in the end I just made him sleep on the floor. Then he st...
A. 5 January 2013: Sweetheart, she cheated. And he is no longer your best mate.
Your decision now is who is to move out, you; or her and him. Make sure base your decision on facts and reality and not your emotions, if you are going to be financially better o... (read in full...)
He is special to me. What can I do to make my husband feel like he is really special to me?
Q. im a stay at home mom with three children aged 2 to 7 years. Last night my husband said i don't do half of what he does. i feel bad. i take care of house hold and kids no break. i keep a clean house. He takes care of us to the max. always buyi...
A. 5 January 2013: I don't know what your husband does for a living, but taking care of three kids between the ages of 2 and 7 whilst still maintaing a clean, comfortable house and making sure the laundry is done, the meals cooked, and all the other little chores that ... (read in full...)
I married to a gay man and I'm confused. He didn't tell me he was gay until I got him his visa. Will our marriage last?
Q. Hi I am 48 years old and believe that sometimes my perspective on things can be considered strange. Anyway I am married and my husband is younger then me. We meant in line 4 years ago so our relationship wasn't about sex, I had this feeling ...
A. 5 January 2013: My gut tells me this man has used you to get a visa. Are you able to talke to your gay child, as they are an adult they may be able to help you see things from a different perspective.
Your marriage might last, but I believe it will be a marriage... (read in full...)
He's asked me to sign a Pre-nup! It made me Soooo Mad. Should I just sign the thing?
Q. So my boyfriend of 3 years is in the US Army and on Skype one night he told me to go to my front door. He had someone go write on my front porch step "will you marry me?" And the ring box sitting there with a vase of flowers. When I went ba...
A. 4 January 2013: Don't sign it until you can get a lawyer to check it for you, if you can't afford a lawyer don't sign it and don't agree to marry (or wear the ring) until you CAN afford your own lawyer. If you boyfriend wants to know why you wont get engaged tell ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend arranged for his 4 year old daughter to live with us without talking to me first
Q. I am a 24 year old dating a wonderful 32 year old man. I've known from the beginning that he has a 4 year old daughter from an ex- girlfriend. We live in Colorado, and the daughter lives with her mother in Florida. My borfriend visits his daughter ...
A. 4 January 2013: Wow, what an inconsiderate unthinking father, and inconsiderate and unthinking boyfriend as well. I just don't understand the girl's mother either, what's going on in here life that she is prepared to do this to her child?
Don't move in with him... (read in full...)
My ex husband is constantly fighting my current partner!
Q. Im a mother of twin girls aged 6 from my ex husband. We divorced offically in August last year and he has a great relationship with the twins. We were 18 and 20 when i became pregnant and we married when the twins were aged 8 months. We were far too ...
A. 4 January 2013: Okay, here we go, as one single mother to another these are my views:
Your partner had no right to attend parent's evening at school, especially when your children's father appears to be wanting to be hands on and involved. He, your partner, shou... (read in full...)
I'm interested in hearing from aunts with counseling, psychology, social work studies or careers.
Q. Howdy aunts and uncles, love your work by the way :) So basically I've lost my job a couple of weeks ago, wasn't an enjoyable job, just something to pay the bills and now I'm ready to pursue a career in something I'm interested in. Which has l...
A. 4 January 2013: While you are considering your options think about volunteering for several organisations who 'help' the community, food banks and crisis lines would be a good start depending on where you are located.
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What do you think this message means?
Q. What do you think this message means ?. It's from a guy that i know. He said "i want us to be close but you never reply much and yes we got on great and i ruined it as i didnt want a relationship and now your with your boyfriend i am just wanting ...
A. 3 January 2013: Could somebody have got hold of his phone to send that?
If yes, make sure its not a friend of his stirring things up, if no, he sounds very childish, he is saying he wants to be friends but he doesnt want your boyfriend to know, or be there wh... (read in full...)
How do I maintain the balance in this relationship? Being a gentleman but not a doormat, sensitive guy but not a wimp?
Q. I am in a relationship with a 28yr old woman and the chemistry seems amazing.)dating nearly 2 months, yes we are exlclusive) This past weekend we discussed who pays for what on dates and she told me it is important for her that the guy pays, th...
A. 3 January 2013: Oh dear ...
I started out writing a response which was very snipey towards women who seem to think men are the only ones who should be financially contributing to a relationship, but deleted it and re read the question.
Noted you have only be... (read in full...)
She refused sex. Is this a red flag in our LDR? Or am I just being paranoid?
Q. I’m in a LDR with my girlfriend; we see each other every two months because we are in different countries. I’m currently visiting her, our sex life is good but I believe I have a higher sex drive than her. We don’t see each other that often so I b...
A. 3 January 2013: Based on the small amount of information given, I would suggest that she may be feeling that all you are interested in is sex.
Sure, sex is a very important part of relationships, but if that is your focus she could be reading it as if the only... (read in full...)
PNOK? What does that mean? He's in the army and wants me to be his PNOK? Is he being genuine?
Q. I met an army man in the dating site and now he's and Afghanistan and now we're talking for more then 2-1/2 months I like him so much and love him, and this's my first time a date someone from the Army, and also he told me that will be returned...
A. 3 January 2013: PNOK means primary (or first) next of kin. I think 2 and 1/2 months after meeting him is too early to agree to be next of kin. What of his parents or siblings, maybe a grandparent should be listed as PNOK.
I don't understand why you are needing ... (read in full...)
I'm trying one last time with my ex but I really miss the man I gave up! Help?
Q. I recently go back with my ex to give our relationship one last try . We were together 10 years and 8 months ago I walked out and met someone else. I decided to give it another go with my ex as I felt like If i didnt give it one last try then I ...
A. 1 January 2013: I am not surprised the man you claim to love is now telling you a relationship is not possible, I can certainly see his point of view, what if you got back with him and decided again your ex needed another chance.
Your ex, who is now your current,... (read in full...)
My ex is convinced we are meant to be and won't leave me alone!
Q. My ex is convinced we are meant to be and won't leave me alone.I've blocked his numbers on my phone as he was ringing 30 times a day, and he's been blocked on facebook for ages but always keeps asking to be unblocked. He let himself into my flat ...
A. 1 January 2013: This man should not be letting himself into your flat. Contact your local police station and start proceedings to have a restraining order placed on him.... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time? She's smart, cute and a professor. She's over me, but I'm still interested. Shall I ask her out?
Q. Hey folks, For some reason I can't stop thinking about a girl I used to date. She's a professor, intelligent, gorgeous, sweet, funny, creative. The whole package. We met at a weird time in our lives as we had both semi recently gotten out ...
A. 1 January 2013: Short answer, yes, its over, you would be wasting your time.
Accept its over and move on.... (read in full...)
My Cheating Boyfriend won't end his "affair" but I can't find the strength to leave him? How do I find the strength? What can I do?
Q. I am 22 years old and have been dealing with a major issue in my relationship with my son's father. I have been with him for 6 years and our son is 2 years old. A little over a month ago I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me. He is 29 and ha...
A. 1 January 2013: Look here, there are a number of help lines, and although most deal with domestic violence, find the one closest to you and call them. If they cannot help they should be able to refer you to people who can.
You need to work out a plan to get him ... (read in full...)
Is it time? Should I Tell My Friend I Want To Be With Him?
Q. Aunts can you guys help me!! I’m a 21 year old young lady and I want to be with this guy. He's been my friend since high school ( 4 years ) we get alone great! We are very attracted to each other. We've had sex before, when we first met we were ...
A. 1 January 2013: You missed your chance, too bad so sad. Now that he is in a relationship the decent thing to do would be to back right off.
If they never break up it means they were meant to be. The fact that you and he broke up means that you and he were not... (read in full...)
I don't think my wife loves me anymore, but another woman has taken an interest in me
Q. Me and my wife have been together for 5 yrs and married for four. we have a child together, she is 2. I have two teenagers that live with us. she does the world for them and me even when I wasn't working, but even when I was working she has been...
A. 31 December 2012: I think, before you throw this wife and this marriage and this family in the trash can that you should get your eyes off the other woman and work on your marriage.
You need to talk to your wife, honestly talk to her. Listen to what she is sayin... (read in full...)
Why do these women feel the need to be secretive?
Q. Why do some women save a guy's number under a females name...
A. 31 December 2012: It could be for many reasons, if you could give more information about your situation we might be able to discuss possible answers.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend that a guy tried to kiss his fiancee in a nightclub?
Q. I was in a nightclub the other night when a guy i know tried to kiss my friends fiancee. She moved her face so that he kissed her on the cheek rather than the lips he was aiming for. They then just continued to chat. I am now in a dilemma as to wh...
A. 28 December 2012: What are you hoping to achieve by telling your friend, as you say, his fiance didn't do anything wrong, I would let it go in this instance.... (read in full...)
LDR help needed please? How do I break up with my LDR?
Q. Our relationship became a LDR since 4 months... Growing apart from my bf of 2 years: we are at a point where we barely talk now and my feelings for him are not the same anymore. In the beginning I was writing to him every day and we would sky...
A. 28 December 2012: Have you got family or friends who could collect your stuff from his place? Somebody he likes or respects and who likes or respects him in return.
I agree, returning home just to break up seems excessive, and in light of the fact your communic... (read in full...)
How do I get my friend back? At least to talk to me?
Q. I'm scared, lost and feel really down. This is basically one of those "how do I get my friend back" questions, however this is a little more complicated. My friend (male) wont speak to me. He cut me out his life with no explanation. We ...
A. 28 December 2012: I've read your question, you wanted your ex boyfriend to forgoe his girlfriend for one night and go to the pub with you, he said no (good man that) so you got snarky and, called his girlfriend a slut .... you have tried to excuse this by saying ... (read in full...)
Despicable actions by him in the past. So do I try to forget that? And see him again? Or say NO to him?
Q. My ex constantly said he slept with my sister whenever we would argue. He would do this because he knew that would destroy me and knew that my sister and I were very close. I confronted my sister she denied it and no longer speaks to me. As...
A. 28 December 2012: Your ex is a dispicable, lying, poor excuse for a man. Why you are even talking to him is a mystery.
Sure 'things' do happen but the important bit is how you react to them.
The only part of you this man should be seeing are your heels, as y... (read in full...)
Do I waste my time on my crush who doesn't seem to have any interest in me?
Q. Seven years ago ( I was a freshman in high school) I met this guy who I liked (he didnt know I liked him at the time) and became really good friends with. We did everything together eventhough he had a gf and he knew his gf did not like me. We used ...
A. 27 December 2012: Hello again,
with regard to facebook you need to decide if having him there adds to your life or detracts from it. Personally I would be tempted to remove him, make a clean break, view his removal as part of the preparations for your new life in t... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with trust and honesty!
Q. I have caught my boyfriend on dating sites 5 times this year. He has promised to stop doing it from now on. He said that all the other times too. I find all i do lately is look for evidence of him doing it again. Just like i have done in the past ...
A. 27 December 2012: Five times he has promised to not do it again. Five times he has lied through his back teeth. What makes you think he will not lie a sixth, seventh, twentieth time?
As long as you keep accepting his promises he will continue to break them.
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I packed my bags and left after he hid me from his mother.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2years going into our 3rd. We have been living together for 2years straight. Last year he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend and i forgave him. Earlier this year we went for an HIV test and discovered he was HIV+...
A. 27 December 2012: Personally I don't think you were harsh at all. Two years in a live in relationship, less than that since he CHEATED on you and he hides you away like a dirty secret?
Oh excuse me!
Make a list of conditions he needs to comply with before you ... (read in full...)
Has my Gf broken up with me? Due to my phone re-set I can't call her. No a word since last friday? What am I supposed to make of this?
Q. So i been on christmas Break for a couple days now, and i havent heard from my Gf Once. :/ The last time we talked was on Friday because i went over her house so we could spend some time Together. I been waiting for her to text me, call me and it's...
A. 27 December 2012: If you can't go over to her house, email, or message her via fb, even consider posting a snail mail card. She may be waiting for you to contact her, she might also be stressing over not hearing from you, she may be tied up with family stuff .... ... (read in full...)
Do I waste my time on my crush who doesn't seem to have any interest in me?
Q. Seven years ago ( I was a freshman in high school) I met this guy who I liked (he didnt know I liked him at the time) and became really good friends with. We did everything together eventhough he had a gf and he knew his gf did not like me. We used ...
A. 27 December 2012: You are the only person making overtures and trying to keep the friendship alive here .... and you yourself use the term "waste". From reading your question every second you spend thinking about him is a waste, its been too long, how much more of ... (read in full...)
I want to get back with my wife. I know deep inside she wants to give me another chance!
Q. Hello, I am looking for advice to help me get back together with my wife. We were married for 8 years, knew each other for 15 probably, we have two boys 8 and 11. As people know that have kids, the intimacy in a relationship goes out the the door...
A. 27 December 2012: Oh FFS! she doesn't want your freaking flowers, she doesn't want you making goo goo eyes at her, she doesn't want you giving her movies, she doesn't want any of those meaningless bloody soppy bullshit bloody crappy overtures.
She wants you to g... (read in full...)
I want to get back with my wife. I know deep inside she wants to give me another chance!
Q. Hello, I am looking for advice to help me get back together with my wife. We were married for 8 years, knew each other for 15 probably, we have two boys 8 and 11. As people know that have kids, the intimacy in a relationship goes out the the door...
A. 26 December 2012: I need to ask what you have been doing in the three months since you contacted us to change your life around, to find work and be more of a parent to your children rather than just another person for your wife to take care of.
http:... (read in full...)
Does he really not have any feelings for me anymore?
Q. Hi my name is angel and im 18. Well i just moved to my home state an my mom hand picked a guy out that i should date. Well to get to the point i fell head over heels for him. Well we moved in with his dad becase we both don't have the finances to ...
A. 23 December 2012: First thing move out. Move back to your mother's or back to where you were living before.
He has told you he doesn't have feelings for you, and that you are not his girlfriend, but as long as you are willing to hang around he will USE you for ... (read in full...)
What you do if your BF and ex wanted both wanted to marry you?
Q. If you were a gal and you had a child and both your baby's father and your ex boyfriend wanted to marry you, and you loved both of them, then,what would you do?...
A. 22 December 2012: Your question raises many more questions.
Why is your ex, your ex?
How long have you been with your boyfriend?
What makes you think you love them both?... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my brother in law's wife.
Q. Dear Cupid! Sorry to bother you. My problem still sustains there and now i need your help very desperately please. In my previous questions i asked you about a lady but almost all answers were very good and i tried my best to control myself b...
A. 17 December 2012: Ask your wife to talk to her brother who might put in a good word for you to the lady concerned.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant after a one-night-stand. How do I tell him?
Q. 4 weeks ago I had a one-night-stand with this guy. A couple of days ago I took a test. I'm definitely pregnant. I want to tell him but I don't know how to. The major problem is he is in a relationship and his girlfriend doesn't know we had ...
A. 15 December 2012: See you doctor first for confirmation and then consider your options.
It is highly unlikely your best friend's boyfriend will leave her for you, and if he does the chances of any long term relationship are slim, there is no love on his part, he... (read in full...)
Now I'm being punished for what goes on in her mind only!
Q. For the past two years or so, my girlfriends insecurity has got worse and worse. I am constantly told who I am looking at, who I find attractive and told I am flirting with everyone she believes I find attractive. I have put up with a lot. I now ...
A. 13 December 2012: throw your hands in the air, and then walk. Life was not meant to be that difficult, she is unlikely to change anytime soon, think very carefully about who she is and what she says and what she does. Work out what it was in you that found this ... (read in full...)
Why did he change his relationship status and then go back and change it again the same day?
Q. Why would my friend change his FB status to engaged and then change it back to in a relationship two hours later??? Haven't asked him yet but curious about what you guys think. Doesn't this strike you as being very strange? How can you make that ...
A. 13 December 2012: Maybe he was just playing with the buttons, and to be honest I can't see why you need to know.... (read in full...)
The only way he'll let me break up with him is if I tell him the truth!
Q. So im kind of stuck in a pickle. what do you do when you dont want to hurt someones feelings, break them by telling them the truth ? That after 4 years of dating you went away alone for acouple months and in just 3 months felt happier with someone ...
A. 13 December 2012: If YOU want to break up with somebody you don't have to have their permission to do so.
Whatever words you use after a 4 year relationship he is going to be hurt. And whether you tell him you are leaving him for somebody else or not, he is going... (read in full...)
Am I responsible for my B/f sleeping around? Did I drive him to do it?
Q. I am 24 and my boyfriend is also 24. We have been together for four years on and off after meeting while working in the same bar. I was at uni at the time and after i became pregnant, i left my final year with the hope of going back to university ...
A. 10 December 2012: No sweetie, his cheating and being a total prat is not your fault. Nothing you did caused him to be the way he is.
He says he gave up a lot to settle down, well that's an outright lie, what has he given up, he is still rooting around and not comm... (read in full...)
She accused me of cheating, but she's on a dating site?
Q. I have had to constantly re-assure my girlfriend since day one. I have put up with allegations that I am cheating or will end up cheating on her. I am often accused of finding others attractive when we are out. Despite this, I have tried to ...
A. 10 December 2012: This woman is not worth worrying over. She has double standards and refuses to acknowledge her own bad behaviour.
If she wont discuss this issue with you, just walk away. You don't have to accept this at all.... (read in full...)
He plans to leave me and our son.
Q. I don't know what to do, my boyfriend has come home from work today and told me that he is moving back to his home city without me and his son Fastforward we have been through a lot he cheated I took him back and we had our son he moved here to be...
A. 10 December 2012: Sweetheart, don't wait for the new year, pack his stuff up and tell him if he has no time nor inclination to discuss the issue, and if he is determined to go, the sooner he goes the better. Close the door firmly behind him.
Find somebody who you ... (read in full...)
Weed seems more important to him than our relationship
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years has started smoking weed regularly and I hate it. He has become secretive, lazy and snappy with me since he started, and only seems interested in getting stoned these days. I have told him I don't like it (I have my own ...
A. 10 December 2012: You ask if your only choice is to leave, the answer is not really, you could choose to stay ....
You cannot change him, you can't make him stop smoking weed, he has already made his choice, either accept his habit, because he will not change f... (read in full...)
Why is she like this? What is wrong with my sister?
Q. Hi all well I have something on my mind and heart it's my sister we are always at each other's throats . But it's not me I don't argue with her I just let her talk to a certain extent. The problem is my mom is sick and she made me her Power of Att...
A. 9 December 2012: You sister feels as though you have been chosen over her (and you have, but that was your mother's choice to make and I am sure she had very good reasons for doing so).
If you are caring for your mother in your home, or you live in hers, there is... (read in full...)
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