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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
A little humility goes a long way
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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I loaned my friends some money for a film project and I've not heard from them since! What should I do?
Q. I've been financially double crossed by friends and I need advice on what to do now. Some background: in september I was apart in a project for a film festival where you make a short film in 2 days and enter it before the deadline ends. The team w...
A. 16 March 2012: Yeah!!! I am so happy for you OP! It feels like a personal victory! :)
I am really happy you went for it and just goes to show that you should give as good as you get when the situation demands it. Whether or nor she keeps in touch with you is n... (read in full...)
I loaned my friends some money for a film project and I've not heard from them since! What should I do?
Q. I've been financially double crossed by friends and I need advice on what to do now. Some background: in september I was apart in a project for a film festival where you make a short film in 2 days and enter it before the deadline ends. The team w...
A. 15 March 2012: You did the right thing. I know its not something you wanted to do, but you have to take the bull by the horns, if the damn bull doesn't pay up! Just don't budge till the money is paid. Your friends are really insolent and this is the only way to ... (read in full...)
His ex girlfriend is his roomie!
Q. Well, my bf and I have only dated for a week. I have a really good feeling about him and I. But I have a problem. Let me start with some background information about him: He and I met last year, we've been pretty good friends since. We secretly...
A. 6 March 2012: If you dont want to leave your B/f then you will just have to go with the flow. There is really no other option. But keep in mind that this is not normal nor a healthy relationship. You can always talk to him about it, but what are you even going to ... (read in full...)
His ex girlfriend is his roomie!
Q. Well, my bf and I have only dated for a week. I have a really good feeling about him and I. But I have a problem. Let me start with some background information about him: He and I met last year, we've been pretty good friends since. We secretly...
A. 5 March 2012: Definitely not normal by any stretch of imagination. If they were just sex buddies earlier, they've surely taken it up a notch by being husband and "wife" now! The communication skills have improved, the emotional bond, the shopping, living ... (read in full...)
His ex girlfriend is his roomie!
Q. Well, my bf and I have only dated for a week. I have a really good feeling about him and I. But I have a problem. Let me start with some background information about him: He and I met last year, we've been pretty good friends since. We secretly...
A. 5 March 2012: Definitely not normal by any stretch of imagination. If they were just sex buddies earlier, they've surely taken it up a notch by being husband and "wife" now! The communication skills have improved, the emotional bond, the shopping, living ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my friend's dad.
Q. Dear Cupid, Okay so this is kinda tricky.. i'm good friends with this girl, not like my bestie or anything but we still hang out often enough. Started getting to know her through college, been hanging around with her for about a year, we're both...
A. 5 March 2012: Anonymous poster, yes it is the father that has everything to gain and nothing to lose. He's the one getting a 21 year old to sleep with, at his age that's more than he could ever expect. And you are actually asking the OP to "enjoy it", without ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my friend's dad.
Q. Dear Cupid, Okay so this is kinda tricky.. i'm good friends with this girl, not like my bestie or anything but we still hang out often enough. Started getting to know her through college, been hanging around with her for about a year, we're both...
A. 4 March 2012: Anything which needs to be kept a secret, is wrong. That is why you are keeping it a secret in the first place. If you can justify this "relationship" by saying that you are adults, you have a high sex drive, you really like sex, etc., etc., at the ... (read in full...)
She's completely in to me, I'm not in to her -- how to break up gently?
Q. A girl proposed me 7 months ago and told me that she has a crush on me since 2 years. As i dont want to break her heart so i replied YES as my answer to her. So then we started texting each other till late nights. I only have a physical attraction ...
A. 4 March 2012: Sorry OP, you cannot break up with her without hurting her nor is she going to let go of you that easily. Everything was fine till she had sex, and given the cultural context of India, sex in a relationship is still viewed as a huge step by many.
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Our sex life sucks but she's been with dozens of other guys?
Q. When I dated my GF, everyone told me she was a freak and I thought that was cool. I never asked her how many men she slept with. After dating and moving in with her I noticed qualities that a "loose" person would have, mainly my male friends, ...
A. 4 March 2012: What's the problem really? If you are at your breaking point and you cannot stay faithful for long, then break up with her. Why are you complicating things so much? You feel that the relationship isn't going the way you want it to, you have a ... (read in full...)
Has anyone here risked everything to follow their heart? What was the outcome?
Q. Here is my question: aunts, have any of you (male or female) ever taken a major risk in order to follow your heart? If so, what was the outcome? Do you regret the decision? And here is why I ask. My boyfriend's job has given him notice that he m...
A. 3 March 2012: You can take a poll here and ask people if they followed their heart and what the consequences were, but in the end its you who has to go through this journey alone. Its not an easy situation to be in and its entirely upon you to decide. What does ... (read in full...)
My FWB keeps pushing me for a threesome and I am just not interested. How do I communicate this?
Q. I have a casual acquaintance that I sleep with. We have been together a couple of years. She sleeps with other people, too, and I am fine with that. The problem I am having is that more and more often she keeps suggesting that we involve the...
A. 2 March 2012: Whats the big deal anyway? Just tell her you are not into the idea but if she likes it, she can go ahead without you. In any case she sleeps with other guys. Just make sure you dont expose yourself to sexually transmitted diseases with so many ... (read in full...)
Why did I have this dream about my ex, where we were laughing and having fun, while in reality I have no positive thoughts about her?
Q. Hello. I just stumbled onto this site, and I need help, with something. I had an awkward dream, involving my ex. I don't know why, but, I was friends with her in this dream. Just friends. And, in the dream, we were playing around (And, we're both...
A. 1 March 2012: It was just a dream and it doesn't mean anything. Your subconscious mind just chose to focus on the happier times that you had and that was that. Don't try too hard to push her out of your mind, it just seems like you still like her(even though ... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend is a total nag! help!
Q. My 55 year old girlfriend,who I live with, is a total bitch. She only wants sex 1 time every ten days where I want it every day. Next for 9 months she continuously nags me follows me and tells me to clean this clean that. It's annoying and it ...
A. 28 February 2012: Your G/f might be a nag but what exactly are you if you call her a "total bitch"? Your carefully chosen words to describe her actually put you in a great light. She isnt your sex toy, and at her age she's probably getting towards menopause which ... (read in full...)
He has a female friend who I feel is inappropriate.
Q. My and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years and have lived together for a year. He is currently in Afghanistan with the military. He has a female friend who I feel is inappropriate. She often sends him pictures to his phone of lit...
A. 28 February 2012: This is right there in your face and I dont know why on earth you are putting up with this. I would have said that *maybe* your B/f is innocent and this girl is just trying to get his attention and step on your relationship with him in the process ... (read in full...)
Do you remember how/why you found Dear Cupid and did it help?
Q. Not a dating/relationship question as such, but just curious...Do you remember why/how you came across Dear Cupid and do you take that into account when answering questions? E.G. When you tell someone to move on/dump their partner, do you ...
A. 28 February 2012: "Do you remember why/how you came across Dear Cupid and do you take that into account when answering questions?" ~
Absolutely! I had a relationship problem and I didn't know whom to ask. I typed a question on google and there were links to vari... (read in full...)
I'm married, and falling to pieces because I had sex with another woman. What do I do now?
Q. Hello. I did something really stupid. I had sex with another woman, therefore cheating on my wife. It only happened once and my wife doesn't know. I have no idea why on earth I did it. There's no chance that I'll ever see the woman I had sex with ...
A. 27 February 2012: OP if you love your wife, you wouldn't have done it. There is absolutely no excuse, if everything was fine, you would NOT have done it. There is something missing in your relationship and you have to ask yourself what it is. This drunk bullshit wont ... (read in full...)
Torn between boyfriend and home
Q. I really dont know what to do!!! I started uni in London 3 years ago and met a lovely boy who is now my boyfriend. We've been together for nearly 3 years and we live in a flat together in London that we rent from my grandmother. London has bee...
A. 25 February 2012: Why cant it work if you go back? Its only 2 hours away and instead of looking at the cup half empty, look at it as half full. 2 hours is not too long and I dont know why your B/f says it cant work.
Its completely your choice, if you don't like Lon... (read in full...)
I want children, just not right now! B/f wants me to forget about education and have them right away
Q. Hi everyone :)...... Just asking for some outside perspectives for the confusing mess iv got going on in my head right now! My partner is 35, I'm 22. He wants kids. Soon. I'm about to graduate in about 15 months. So he wants to start trying so...
A. 24 February 2012: If your B/f breaks up with you over this issue, then I say good riddance. Look OP, wanting to have kids right now is his problem, NOT yours. Fortunately WE have the power to decide if we want to get pregnant or not, exercise that Goddam right, have ... (read in full...)
There is a sex tape of me out there and not just any sex tape a freaking party, public tape!!
Q. A few weeks ago I was at a party and drank alittle to much. There was this girl who was also a little drunk and shamelessly flirting with me and we ended up in one of the bedrooms and she was giving me head when some guy walked in. He laughed called ...
A. 24 February 2012: If it was a mutual, consenting act, then that doesn't make you a jerk.
A wonder lasts nine days, sure you will be the topic of discussion for a while and then someone new will replace you. You cant do anything anyway, the damage is done, you cant... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom still buys his underware!
Q. I know some of you may find this question a bit ridiculous, but it's been driving me mad! My 27 year old boyfriend has never bought his own underwear. His mother buys them. She sends him boxers for every holiday. He has Halloween boxers, Christma...
A. 24 February 2012: There's nothing weird about it.
I think there is a fairly large percentage of men whose underwear is still bought by their mothers or wives, they've probably never bought it themselves. My brother's underwear is still almost always bought b... (read in full...)
An argument over opening doors has led me to question my feelings for him, am I being crazy or over-sensitive?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for just over a year. He's 46, I'm 43. I will admit, I have ignored some small "yellow flags", but there are many, many good qualities about him and I also know that there is no "perfect", that I, myself, am not ...
A. 23 February 2012: Always remember:
You command respect, you don't demand it. ... (read in full...)
I cant go to senior prom with my G/f because of the age limit and so her ex is taking her but I know he still has feelings for her. I don't trust this guy and I don't know what to do
Q. hi agony aunts, i am in a relationship with an 18 year old girl. I am 22. the problem is that her senior prom is coming up, and we can't go together because her school has a stupid age limit, you can't go if you're over 21. so anyway, a gu...
A. 23 February 2012: Please do not get into the fake ID thing, don't ever do anything that could get you into trouble. Is it really worth it to fake an ID just because you don't trust a guy? What about your G/f? Do you not trust her too? Sure you do, right? Then how ... (read in full...)
I don't want to die without trying anal sex, so is it cheating if I hire a prostitute as my wife refuses to do this?
Q. Just something that I've been thinking about: My wife and I have been together for years. Like any other couple, we have boundaries and red flags in sex. Anal sex is a red flag for her. But I can't get it off of my mind! I don't want to die wit...
A. 22 February 2012: Are you really that naive? A 35 year old man is actually asking if having sex with a prostitute, while being married himself, is cheating!! What did you think we would say? "Oh no go ahead, its totally cool, you poor thing denied of anal sex, anyone ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend will ruin my life if I leave her. How do I get out of this?
Q. My girlfriend is completely obsessed with me. If I leave her she will ruin my life. I think the only way to make her fall out of love with me is to tell her that im convinced that im seriousely gay even though im not. What can I do that will make ...
A. 22 February 2012: How long have you been with her? Why do you say she is obsessed with you? How can she ruin your life? You cant go through life pretending you're gay, what would happen if she sees you with some other girl? Wont she react then?
Look, you cant lie... (read in full...)
My rich, famous and good looking husband is deceiving everyone! Its obvious that he's cheating on me, then why this show that everything's fine?
Q. On my birthday we left for Hawaii and my hubby announced this trip as 'Family vacation' on twitter(11th Jan) but didn't mention that we are going on my birthday,instead he wrote happy birthday to me on twitter when we live together! whats this non...
A. 21 February 2012: Why are you waiting for the inevitable to happen? Its like walking on eggshells all the time, every day. If you are so sure that the marriage is about to end, then why dont you snap it yourself rather than waiting for HIM to throw it in your face? ... (read in full...)
I need to tactfully deal with this situation
Q. Hi, I have known this woman for a few years as our kids attend the same pre-school and school. During pre-school this woman would never give me the time of day or even acknowledge me ( I didnt really care ) Then 2 years later our children start...
A. 21 February 2012: Whatever you do, do not ever scream at her because that will just amount to giving her too much importance. She doesn't sound like someone you would really want to be friends with so how do you even care? I dont even think she's going to confront ... (read in full...)
I'm 16, pregnant, and I don't know if I should be with the father of the baby
Q. im 16 and pregnant, yes i know your thinking im crazy. But, what im here for is to ask for advice.So im living with my boyfriend and this following month we have two years of relationship. Alright, so during does two years we've broken up plenty of ...
A. 20 February 2012: OP you have to become responsible now because you are going to become a mother and having a baby is no child's play. The pregnancy isn't even the hard part, the difficult part is raising the baby and giving it the best life possible. The child ... (read in full...)
My rich, famous and good looking husband is deceiving everyone! Its obvious that he's cheating on me, then why this show that everything's fine?
Q. On my birthday we left for Hawaii and my hubby announced this trip as 'Family vacation' on twitter(11th Jan) but didn't mention that we are going on my birthday,instead he wrote happy birthday to me on twitter when we live together! whats this non...
A. 20 February 2012: Your husband uses you and the "happy family" facade to his advantage because he is a public figure and it goes well with his image that is on display for the public. He lives for the camera, for the shutterbugs and for publicity, he's treating his ... (read in full...)
My b/f says I will tempt him to cheat because I won't have sex before marriage
Q. hello, i have aboyfriend i intend to get married to,am 25 years and want to settle.we slated adate in actober this year to get married.he wants to have sex with me but i want to have sex after legalised marriage.whenever we go out i came back lat...
A. 20 February 2012: This B/f of yours needs a kick on his backside and needs to be shown the door. If a man cannot respect your wishes, he's not the man for you. Plain and simple.
You say you're getting married in October and if he cannot wait even that long to get l... (read in full...)
Should I tell my g/f about my fetish
Q. Hi there. I'm a 30 year old male and have been going out with my g/f for nearly 4 year's now, we both love each other dearly, we are having our 1st child soon and I think she could be the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. The problem ...
A. 20 February 2012: Hi OP, good for you!! I'm so glad you told her and that everything worked out fine! Trust me, this will bring you guys even closer.
All the best! :)... (read in full...)
If my gf is pregnant, she says she does not want to keep the baby but is afraid of the guilt of an abortion. What can we do?
Q. I've got a real dilemma here. Me and my girlfriend have been together for less than 2 months. About 3 weeks into our relationship we started having sex. We used protection each time. Anyway, her period was supposed to begin at one point during the...
A. 20 February 2012: You might be jumping to conclusions but treat this as a reality check. Only abstinence is 100% safe but if you must have sex then use some other form of birth control as well. Its unlikely that she's pregnant so dont fret too much. ... (read in full...)
I cant believe my B/f has been talking to this girl behind my back, even though he promised he would have nothing to do with her
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and at the start of our relationship, he was receiving texts from a girl he used to fancy before we got together (the same girl that actually delayed us getting together). Igot upset when I found ...
A. 20 February 2012: This guy has lied to you, cried crocodile tears, lied some more, then begged and managed to drag thing back to normal. Do you think he's sincere? If he knows that talking to that girl makes you mad, then he shouldnt do it, its that simple. He is in ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my g/f about my fetish
Q. Hi there. I'm a 30 year old male and have been going out with my g/f for nearly 4 year's now, we both love each other dearly, we are having our 1st child soon and I think she could be the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. The problem ...
A. 18 February 2012: You should tell her and trust me, you will feel much better once you do. Just show her this post that you've written, its as simple as that. Or tell her the same way that you've told us. Trust me, its not creepy or anything, its not like it hurts ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has had several threesomes and hook ups in her past: liberal open-minded girl or just a slut?
Q. Well, I know this topic comes up a lot but here I go anyways: I'm dating this girl for the last 5 months. She has been always open about her attitude about sex, and admitted to me that she has had a lot of threesomes, hook ups and ongoing on and o...
A. 17 February 2012: Shrodingerscat has already spoken about the Madonna-whore complex so I wont get into the details of it. But that's pretty much what its all about. Women are seen either as saints or as prostitutes. Period. There is no middle ground and the question ... (read in full...)
Why are you on DearCupid?
Q. Someone asked me via PM "well you are here to help people" And someone else and I got to talking in message about that and I wonder... WHY do YOU post to DC? Are you here to help yourself? (or did you come to help yourself and stayed to help...
A. 17 February 2012: I came here for help, found this site to be really fascinating, safe, the advice given is solid, good and sound....and I stayed. Its been more than a couple of years now, I think and DC has become a part of my life. Why? Because its helped me grow ... (read in full...)
I loaned my friends some money for a film project and I've not heard from them since! What should I do?
Q. I've been financially double crossed by friends and I need advice on what to do now. Some background: in september I was apart in a project for a film festival where you make a short film in 2 days and enter it before the deadline ends. The team w...
A. 17 February 2012: Good for you OP!! I'm so glad you didn't give in! Never, ever let such people get the better of you and always give as good as you get.
Now keep pursuing her, remind her that you have already given her the receipts and she should not act funny an... (read in full...)
My mother is conservative and against ANYTHING before marriage. I'm 18, but I still have to deal with her!
Q. To make a long story short, recently I've come to find out a lot more about political parties, and what exactly my mom believes in, now that I'm older. We are almost completely opposite, she's ultra conservative, and I guess you could call me a ...
A. 14 February 2012: As a legal adult you do have rights to your opinions but as long as you're living with your mom, you have to live by her rules. You cant live in her house and disrespect her and go against her because that's not done. Everyone's entitled to their ... (read in full...)
Wishing everyone on Dear Cupid a very Happy Valentines Day!!
Q. Happy Valentines Day 2012 I don't have a question... with the time difference I wanted to be the 1st to wish everyone on this site, whether you are a one time visitor or a regular, a very HAPPY VALENTINES DAY this year. If you are married, ...
A. 13 February 2012: What a lovely post!
A very Happy valentine's Day to you too! With all the negativity in the world, there's finally a day for declaring love! I wish there were more such days and every day was treated like Valentine's day, and I hope that tomorrow... (read in full...)
Am I being scammed?
Q. I need some advice or guidance with this problem.. I will explain the situation and why I feel worried now I met a Turkish man on Facebook (he is 37 and I am 35)and we have been talking for about 1 year 2 months. The conversations is...
A. 13 February 2012: It sounds very suspicious and scam or not, I think you should stay out of it.
For one thing, a shadow of doubt will always be there in your mind, you can never let your guard down (and shouldn't too!) and there's no point in being in such a relati... (read in full...)
My best friend/room mate found my vibrator and won't stop teasing me about it!
Q. I've been single for a couple years now and I've been living with my best friend (who happens to be a guy) for four years. We've known each other since we were 16, though, so it's not a huge thing and he's also been single for longer than I have. ...
A. 12 February 2012: Just ignore him. The more you react, the more he'll keep at it. I'm sure he doesnt know that you're feeling this way, just dont reply when he says anything related to this and if he persists, tell him you're all adults and its none of his business ... (read in full...)
How can he so easily forget what we have? I'm blonde. His blonde jokes offended me
Q. Hello aunts. This guy and I met 4 months ago and things have been moving really smoothly infact, better than I had predicted. He checks on me a lot, calls me often and its the first time I've been in a relationship where the guy is so into me. We...
A. 11 February 2012: He doesnt love you and you should really ask him to strap on a pair. This guy's an ass, he cracks silly jokes and if he's fine with cracking such jokes, then he should deal with your reactions in the right spirit too. He should be the one calling ... (read in full...)
Instead of being concerned when I was stuck on the road with a flat tire, my B/f messaged "lmao" and asked if I could hang out on Friday night! I'm so mad at him!!
Q. Dear cupid, me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and we just got back together after a breakup. He promised me he would change anyway, yesterday i was on the freeway and got a flat tire and was stranded. When it happened my boyfriend ...
A. 11 February 2012: I understand your frustration OP. Given the fact that this is a second chance for him, you expected him to jump up and respond, at least show some sympathy, concern and care for you. Probably these were things that were lacking from the beginning ... (read in full...)
I tested positive for HIV. I very obviously got it from my boyfriend but he's turning around and blaming me for everything!
Q. Hello all I have a very sad story to tell and I need some advice as I am at breaking point. I have been tested HIV positive recently, and that was already really hard to deal with...I had a boyfriend and on the day I found it out, I cound't br...
A. 11 February 2012: This is actually a horror story and I am so sorry for you OP. But now that the damage is done, please focus on the bigger picture. Your health is of the greatest importance from now on. This asshole is NOT a part of your life anymore and what he ... (read in full...)
Instead of being concerned when I was stuck on the road with a flat tire, my B/f messaged "lmao" and asked if I could hang out on Friday night! I'm so mad at him!!
Q. Dear cupid, me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and we just got back together after a breakup. He promised me he would change anyway, yesterday i was on the freeway and got a flat tire and was stranded. When it happened my boyfriend ...
A. 11 February 2012: You're mad at him not just because he didnt help but more so because of the history and the fact that you feel he hasn't changed. But you know what OP, this isn't that big a deal really. Sure its pissing off, I too would be hopping mad if this ... (read in full...)
How can I wriggle out of this dating situation safely?
Q. I have been going out with a certain guy for the past few days, kissed him and have found that we have no chemistry. He is incredibly caring, wonderful and protective and I know he genuinly feels for me. However, I don't enjoy kissing him. In ...
A. 10 February 2012: There's no easy way of doing this. Treat it like ripping off a band aid. The more you elongate the process, the more its going to hurt.
Remember OP, you cant please everyone in life and you shouldn't even try to. And you don't have to feel bad... (read in full...)
I loaned my friends some money for a film project and I've not heard from them since! What should I do?
Q. I've been financially double crossed by friends and I need advice on what to do now. Some background: in september I was apart in a project for a film festival where you make a short film in 2 days and enter it before the deadline ends. The team w...
A. 7 February 2012: You shouldnt just let this go. These cheapskates do not have an iota of decency left in them, and when you do get your money back, make sure that's the last you see of them.
Your silence has been taken as your weakness and they feel that since yo... (read in full...)
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