A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have been going out with a certain guy for the past few days, kissed him and have found that we have no chemistry. He is incredibly caring, wonderful and protective and I know he genuinly feels for me. However, I don't enjoy kissing him. In fact, I think it'd be more suitable if we merely remained friends.Also, I'm incredibly attracted to another boy I know. He is gregarious, ferociously witty but very sexually charged. He had gone cold and odd as soon as I began to date the other guy, and whenever I was around him he always used to find a way to butt in and get my attention when I was single, watching me a lot, especially when with my BF. He once seemed dissapointed when he asked one of my friends if i liked him and they said they didn't know. I know this guy is attracted to me, but I am cautious that he would only want me for physical love. However, several exceptionally immature (dickheaded) classmates decide it's amusing to poke fun, and he instantly springs to my defense. He asks if I've kissed my BF yet, and then asks if I'm having second thoughts about him. The other guy has also stopped hugging me since I'm no longer single, and seems to be weirdly irresponsive, and actually easily hurt.The BF is incredibly lovely, and although I will not do anything at the moment, I want to carefully let him down. The other guy is probably safest shoved out of the picture for now, but HOW do I let BF down after only a WEEK? Thing is, I don't want to have to wait simply so I do not look cold and heartless. There's somebody beautiful out there for him, but it is certainly not me. There's no chemistry, but with the other guy, however...As for him; what are your thoughts? Is the interest simply because he can't have me?And how do I manage to wriggle out of the situation safely? I refuse to jump from one guy to the next. Thanks.xx
View related questions:
immature, kissing Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 There's no easy way of doing this. Treat it like ripping off a band aid. The more you elongate the process, the more its going to hurt.
Remember OP, you cant please everyone in life and you shouldn't even try to. And you don't have to feel bad, because the purpose of dating is to see whether or not you have chemistry with the other person and if you click or not. If you don't, you wish each other well and move on. Its not the end of the world.
A
female
reader, Deagan +, writes (10 February 2012):
 Wiggle out of it safely? You can't.
No matter what, your boyfriend is going to feel rejected and hurt, and the other guy you're attracted too if going to quickly find out you're back on the radar again, and it's going to look like you broke up with your current guy for that guy, even though you said you're not going to jump from one guy to the next. Your boyfriend won't see it that way.
If you really want to break up with your boyfriend, you're just going to politely say "this isn't working for me" and lay low. I just hope you're not breaking up for him for the wrong reasons i.e. comparing him to the guy you're attracted too. Like you said, this guy would potentially just be interested for physical love.
...............................
|
