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writes:My girlfriend is completely obsessed with me. If I leave her she will ruin my life. I think the only way to make her fall out of love with me is to tell her that im convinced that im seriousely gay even though im not. What can I do that will make sure she doesent retaliate heartlessly. Reply to this Question
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reader, bronzed adonis  +, writes (22 February 2012):
 If you are living under such pretence then your life is ruined already. She will only ruin it if you allow her. You could take out a court restriction order or stoop to her level and ruin her life too. Does she know something that could land you in jail? If that is the kind of person you are with you need to get out now.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 February 2012):
 Please elaborate on how this woman will ruin your life if you leave her?
I think you are being a bit dramatic…
And LIES are never a good thing.
You need to be a man and tell the truth not make up some stupid lie. You’re not 16.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 February 2012):
 How can she ruin your life any more then she is now? You are WITH her and miserable!
Grow a set and end it!
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reader, Myau  +, writes (22 February 2012):
 Tell her straight and dont back down when she cries.
It will be unpleasant and ugly, but it will be over
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2012): You sound like a desperate man.
As the others have said - more details required. Do you live together? Do you have children? Have you cheated or want to leave for somebody else?
Obsessed Exs are always bad news but the Law can protect the innocent
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (22 February 2012):
 HI
Im taking a wild guess here, but is she always by your side? over excited when with you? and wanting to know your every single movement? if so this is going to be a tricky situation to get out of, simply saying your gay will definately not work. But most women dont act like this unless they have been made to feel the same way first, have you been leading her to believe your totally inlove with her? going along with it just to save your own stresses will only add to this. you need to just be honest with her, and tell her you dont feel the same way, and this is not working. But if this is a case of you have gotten what you want from her now and just want to dump her and have an easy life..you made your bed you must now lay in it. But this is all guessing work, unless you elaborate on your question there really aint much else one can say on the matter.
Mandy
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (22 February 2012):
 We need more information. How will she ruin your life? What exactly will she be able to do? Why do you think claiming you are gay is going to make her fall out of love with you (it wont in my opinion)? Why do you want to leave her? How long have you been together? How old is she? What has gone wrong in the relationship? Do you live together? Do you work together?
I cant really help without knowing more information, you have given very little and it doesnt explain anything about the relationship.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 February 2012):
 How long have you been with her? Why do you say she is obsessed with you? How can she ruin your life? You cant go through life pretending you're gay, what would happen if she sees you with some other girl? Wont she react then?
Look, you cant lie and hide this way, give us some more details to work on.
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