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Archived questions from: January, 2017 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

My husband can't see the problems with his ex wife ...

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2847 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - My husband and his ex have not spoken in years because of all the trouble she caused at the beginning of our relationship. She called begging him to come sleep with her, she kept asking to come over claiming she needed closure (she was the one who ...

Will I ever move on, get over everything and meet someone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - Hello everyone, I hope you're all well. So basically I feel and think that I will seriously never meet anyone who I feel a close connection and chemistry with. A few years ago was the worst time of my life. I had no confidence and was very u...

Is it possible to tell him everything and stay friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2853 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - Hi. I'm hurting and would appreciate a third person's opinion. I've had feelings for a friend for last 2.5 years. They kept getting intense with time but he lives in a different city so I never acted upon my feelings. We used to flirt back and fort...

He says he chose to watch porn when he was missing me. Were his actions out of line? how have others handled a similar situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2853 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - Should I be upset by this or not?. My boyfriend and I had an argument last week. He assumed that was seeing someone else, which I wasn't. We made up yesterday, but something bothered me. He said that on the night we argued, he went on to a por...

I don’t want to lose either of them. Please advise what I should do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - I have been in a very serious and committed relationship for 5 years. I wasn't sure of our relationship but i realized that I really love my guy. we have had our share of fights but we are still strong and we have our fair share of restrict...

Ladies what would you suggest? She's caught my eye. But I'm not sure what my next move should be.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2852 days ago

30 January 2017 (M) - This will seem funny for a 34 year old man to be seeking advice on. Basically, I go to the same shop a few times a week. There is a lady works there who has really caught my eye, whenever she is there when I go in, I get butterflies and feel...

What should I do? Is this normal behaviour or is there more to this than she's letting on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2832 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - So, I have loved my best friend of over 5 years basically since I met her. We just had one of those instant connections and became best friends the second we sat next to each other in class. Both of us went back and forth about liking each other but ...

I want a prettier girlfriend who cares about being fit and healthy. What do I need to do?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 2853 days ago

29 January 2017 (M) - I want a prettier girlfriend. I've been with mine for a few years now and it seems wrong to leave. I love her but the lack of effort (exercise counts) is making me less attracted to her. Bringing it up makes me the bad guy. What should I do?...

I'm 39 weeks pregnant and my husband is causing me anxiety as he prefers drinking and socialising with his friends. I feel unsupported. How should I handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2853 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - I'm 39 weeks pregnant and married for less than a year so we are pretty new. We are currently waiting for the D day and I'm extremely anxious as this is our first child. The problem is that he just isn't there for me. He prefers hanging out ...

When a person leaves their job is it OK to still maintain contact, call, and catch up with them for a drink if they are in a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2854 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - When someone you work with leaves is it ok to contact him by text or phone even though they have a girl fiend just to see how they are and to maintain contact. What about going for a drink to catch up. Would it make me look like a bad person? ...

I still have feelings for him. He still feels the attraction too. But now he's living with another girl. How can we go forward with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2857 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - Long story but need advice. In 2013, I dated a guy for a few months. I really, really liked him but he was very keen to make the relationship official (telling everyone), which at the time I wasn't ready for, mostly because I was really poor at t...

How do I proceed with this situation? How do I process feeling unwanted if it doesn't work out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - There is somebody that I like who I am kind of friends with . We get on really well, have lots in common and laugh and joke a lot, as well as chatting when we go to the pub in a group etc. I've been on two holidays with him in a group. I wouldn't...

After 9 years together and 3 children our sex life remains bland. I love her. How can I find ways to interest her in oral sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2853 days ago

29 January 2017 (M) - Hi, I'm 26 years old. I have a fiancé I've been with for 9 years who is also 26 years old. We have 3 beautiful kids together. My question today is, why won't my fiancé suck me off? I have literally tried everything but I cannot convince her to d...

My mother in law walked in on me naked. I put some clothing on. But should I try not to be concerened? My M-in-Law wasn't bothered at all.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1343 days ago

29 January 2017 (M) - My wife and I are currently on vacation and staying at my mother in laws house for a week. Last night my mother in law walked into my bed room as I stepped out of the the bathroom. I was completely naked. She did not seem at all bothered by ...

How can I get the physical affection aspect re-started in our relationship? The cuddles have stopped.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2854 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - Hi everyone. I'm not sure what to do. My husband and I mostly have a great relationship, but for the last few months he seems to touch me only for sex. I like sex, but I'm starting to resent it and not want to have it when it seems to be the only...

I am over chasing men. But without a man in my life, then how can I be happy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2673 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - It seems since I have been 17 years old I have been chasing men. 13 years later an two bad relatiosnhios and a broken home(my parents are miserable together) I have had enough. A little back story ( since my early twenties I have done everythi...

Should I give up on men? Is there such a thing as a normal guy? I want a relationship with a man.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2673 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - I have have asked for advice before here and wanted to come back a year later to ask maybe what I am doing wrong. I am a woman in my early 30s that has given up on love. I have only been with three men and two had a relationship with. Through t...

My girlfriend is in hospital and her family are keeping me in the dark

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2846 days ago

28 January 2017 (M) - I have no idea what to do to deal with this situation. I have been with my girlfriend since 2011, she was 18 at the time we started. We have had a great relationship, typical ups and downs, but all in all great. Her family has never warmed up ...

When will he tell me he loves me, I don't want to say it first this time?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2858 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - When can I expect my boyfriend to tell me he loves me? What are some signs that will indicate that he feels that way? (even if not saying it) I'm well on my way to falling in love with him, but don't want to say it first this time. I have sai...

I don't know how to relax and be content in the moment.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2854 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - I've been dating a great guy for a few months now. In the first few weeks, we had 2 minor communication mishaps, but it's generally been smooth sailing. My friends and family like him, and his like me. It's the first healthy relationship I'v...

Could my bf's avoidance of my compliments suggest he is cheating?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2846 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - I have been suspecting my bf has been unfaithful recently. Just sense a change. When having a text conversation this evening, I went on about how lucky I am to have him. What a good guy he is and how I am glad he is not like other men. I sai...

Our marriage is totally devoid of all physical contact!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

27 January 2017 (M) - I am writing to you because I feel I have no one to tell. I have been married for 20 years to a woman who is the mother of my three children (19, 17 1nd 12). We haven't had sex since before the birth of our youngest child and its killing me. In f...

Could her actions in bathroom indicate that she cheated?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

27 January 2017 (M) - My wife got really drunk last night and started a fight then went and douched her vag and left the bottle on the counter on accident. Now swears up and down she didn't cheat and says I'm in the wrong for accusing here. Any thoughts?...

Is my boyfriend pathetic? Or just stuck in his life at the moment?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - Ok, so...my boyfriend's truck broke down this past summer and I got a car about two or three months after. He could have got another by now had he saved better but idk. He spends his money on weed mostly and his phone bill and car insurance bill ...

Suffering a workplace bully ringleader. How should I deal with this situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - Hi, this is just a work related question but it's been bugging me for a while. I feel can't speak to anyone. I have been in my role nearly a year, I love my job, get on well with all my colleagues and I am learning so much. When I started I g...

We're already close. Do you think he is ready to move on and try something with me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2624 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - Hi! Maybe this will be pretty obvious to you but I'm terrible when it comes to relationships and understanding men. I like this friend of mine (we were friends first) and he knows I like him, and we've kissed before but we were always drunk and st...

Do cheating married men usually have more than one mistress?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - Do married men who cheat, cheat with more than one mistress at a time? Or do some men stay with just one? I am interested in everybody weighing in with their opinions. ...

I feel I have lost my future ....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2856 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - Last week i split with my boyfriend of 2 years . Yesterday my friend shocked me with some news , she joined a dating site for single parents as she is one, i helped her set up her account and started looking at profiles and thats when i saw my now ...

I hid a recorder and heard breathing, is he cheating or watching porn?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

27 January 2017 (?) - Hello Everyone, I have a unique issue. I don't trust my husband. For varies reasons. Alot of people thought I should hire a Detective. I really don't have the money for that. A friend of mine suggested I get a voice recorder and set it in the m...

Is my mother just hurting and taking it out on me? How do I accept that nobody loves me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2858 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - I'm not sure whether any of you have exactly gone through the same thing, but I feel alone in this, even though I may be irrational in thinking this and just overwhelmed by my feelings. Recently, my sibling (I'm not sure which gender specific...

Should I assume that he is with me, and willing to date me, despite the fact that I do not look like the women he prefers?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2859 days ago

26 January 2017 (F) - None of the women in the porn he looks at are anything close to me physically , and I do mean literally not one out of thousands , so it's no coincidence. Does this mean he is with me despite my appearance and I'm not what he prefers physical...

I like him and enjoy his flirting. But what should I do? Because I think he has a Gf already

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

26 January 2017 (F) - There's this guy I'm talking too. The problem is, I think he has a girlfriend.. We've been speaking a while and a few months ago, he told me that he can't take things forward with me because he has someone. I respected that and we remained to j...

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? My first serious girlfriend has since come out as a lesbian.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2859 days ago

26 January 2017 (M) - I was a little bit of a late bloomer but in college I finally met a really amazing girl who became my first serious girlfriend and by that I mean that she was all my firsts: first kiss, first love, first sexual encounter. She had been with one...

Why would my husband delete his porn history, when it upsets me even more than the actual porn usage?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2861 days ago

26 January 2017 (F) - My husband deletes porn from his internet history so that it doesn't upset me. It's not that it upsets me a lot, I understand his reason for watching it is for quick release, usually his stress. And it's not ALL the time so... But I do sometimes g...

8 years ago my birth brother wasn't interested, now I've found him on facebook and want to contact him.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2857 days ago

26 January 2017 (M) - I accidentally found my birth brother on facebook a few days ago and I don't know if I should contact him or what I would even say to not freak him out. My mother gave him up for adoption 30 years ago and though we did get in touch with him 8 years ...

I found out my brother has been having an affair. Should I tell his wife or keep quiet?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2860 days ago

26 January 2017 (F) - My brother has been having an affair with a single woman who is 15 years his junior. It has been ongoing for more than 3 years. I am very close to his wife and kids and accidentally found out about it last week when he sent me a text meant for h...

Do you think she is too young to get married ? we live together.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2860 days ago

25 January 2017 (M) - My gf and I will be having our second anniversary in march. I'm know that she is he girl for me and she has told me that she wants to marry me. She's only 23. We live together in a rented apartment, we pay bills and both work. Do you think she ...

Having problems with my Aunt. Should I tell my dad about this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2858 days ago

25 January 2017 (F) - i've been posting several questions and for some reason i've been having endless number of dilemmas... At first i didnt know how to ask my parents for permission for a day out to celebrate my birthday and chinese new year (CNY). Eventually i a...

Is this an emotional affair? ?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2860 days ago

25 January 2017 (F) - Is this an emotional affair? ? ? Last March- my husband of 27 years (M) was working at a customer's house (he's a contractor), and one day a woman (T) who lived across the street came over to bum a cigarette from one of M's workers. She a...

Really nervous about trying a strap-on for the first time. Do I bring up the topic before or during sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2861 days ago

25 January 2017 (F) - Hey dear community! I've a girlfriend (she's 25) for a while now (about 1.5 years) and all in all its pretty awsome. The sex is really amazing, far better than anything I ever had and she is feeling the same. We really care for each other, even...

Did my words really crush his wish to marry me? Or was he looking for an excuse to break up, and blame me, for his own reasons?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2859 days ago

25 January 2017 (F) - I met a guy on dating site he is from Europe and I'm from Africa. We met in person 3 times, he met my family twice and its been 19 months since we are in a relationship. Before 4 months he gave me an engagement ring and I accept we have differe...

Should we talk things over or let him go ? His lies and his baby Mama have helped drive us apart.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2862 days ago

24 January 2017 (F) - MODNOTE: two near identical questions combined with additional material from the second question combined below with the first question . . . . . . . . . Dear Cupid Am a 40 year old female with two children from my previous marriage. When I los...

What's the purpose of relationships when all it does is give someone power to hurt you?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2862 days ago

24 January 2017 (M) - Three years ago I was dating someone and it ended very horribly. She left me for another guy and it left me distressed beyond anything I had ever felt. I treated her with respect, listened to her when she spoke, and did what I thought was love her...

She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2840 days ago

23 January 2017 (M) - I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...

Just found out that my LDR is happily married. Do I confront him?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2860 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. We are in a LDR, but he's very caring, sweet and romantic...keeps in touch. But one thing that continually bothers me is that he never calls me at night! Two days back, I was viewing his profile on s...

Are my friends wrong? Is this a sugar daddy relationship? Or do I tell him how I really feel?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2862 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - I moved to a different province for school. I ended up meeting an older guy , he's 41. We decided to not focus on labels and to just have fun , we both agreed that because of our age difference changes are our relationship wouldn't probably last ...

Should I stop holding back? I'm scared to get hurt

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2862 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - Hey all Till now, I've had very hurtful experiences with the guys I've been involved with/liked. I always feel like I've been abandoned or left to myself. And that the other person doesn't feel any remorse in doing so. I know I'm probably wrong ...

Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2861 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...

Should I fight for this relationship? And if I do how do I show him that I really care?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2862 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - 3 months ago I met someone and for first time in a very long time, I started having feelings for a guy. I fell in love very hard. But feels like I keep doing stuff to mess it up. He says he loves me so much and I am his world but also feels like ...

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2862 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...