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writes:My husband deletes porn from his internet history so that it doesn't upset me. It's not that it upsets me a lot, I understand his reason for watching it is for quick release, usually his stress. And it's not ALL the time so...But I do sometimes get upset because our sex life can dwindle a bit and I am curious as to how much porn he is watching so I look (on MY computer) at his internet history, he sometimes deny masturbating too much to affect our sex life so I feel I have to check. Anyway he deletes alot of it (carelessly I might add, which is how I know he deletes it!). But it upsets me even more that he would delete it because it makes it look like he's trying to hide something worse! I know he's not so.... And he knows this upsets me more than the watching porn - so why does he delete it?!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2017): You can see the history including incognito if you display dns.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (26 January 2017):
 He deletes it for the same reason why you throw toilet paper in the toilet and flush it when you're done using it, or you wash and put away the dishes after cooking and eating off of them. Porn/masturbating fulfills a bodily function just as elimination fulfills one. He deletes because he tidies up after himself.
If your sex life is dwindling, you should talk to him about that, rather than study the toilet paper or the dirty dishes.
Also, keep in mind that his porn watching might not even be creating a history, since it *is* possible that he's watching incognito, or SHOULD, if he's smart. I'm actually really glad that my husband deletes his history. I know he watches on occasion, and respects me enough to make sure I don't smack into it when typing a website and have the autofinish bring up something gross. He knows it's your computer, so he's not cluttering up your web history. There doesn't have to be something more nefarious to delete an internet history. Like I said - most computers have an "incognito" mode to do it for you.
If you're honest with yourself, I think there's another reason you're so interested in the exact sites he looks at, and the exact files and pictures he views and for how long. Let go of the need to see it. It would be weird if he had to smell your vibrator after your every use, and I'd hope you'd clean it as well, not to get equally gross about it. You have the right attitude about WHY he's doing it, and that's a good start. But doesn't it feel a bit voyeurish to have to LIVE the sites with him?
Talk to him about your sex life, and about how you're feeling that porn may be sapping your sex life with him. That's quite valid, and it's all too easy to become lazy, rub one off for release, and not want the appetite to do the full sexual experience with a partner.
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