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writes:My gf and I will be having our second anniversary in march. I'm know that she is he girl for me and she has told me that she wants to marry me. She's only 23. We live together in a rented apartment, we pay bills and both work. Do you think she is too young to get married ?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 January 2017):
 No. I don't think you're too young to marry when you're regarded as an adult by the law, and therefore considered adult and capable of making your own choices in life.
Now, if SHE thinks she is too young to marry, that is another matter. She might feel too young. Maybe you should try to ask about it, discreetly, before proposing. Because she might feel that her hand is being forced and that she will lose you, if you propose and she says no. So try to pick her brain discreetly first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2017): I think 23 is too young for anyone to get married.
You need to live life, have adventures and experiences before being tied down. If you don't, that will lead to regrets. And wondering what you missed.
Too many people settle down much too early to later regret it and end up reliving their teenaged years in utter rebellion and abandon.
Never be in a hurry to get married.
Been there, done that.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (26 January 2017):
 I don't necessarily think she's too young, per se, but I wouldn't advise it this early on at her age, as she'll change a lot in the next few years. You're quite a bit older than her and I think you need to wait a year or more before getting engaged, to make sure the age gap won't become an issue.When we're young adults, things should be taken slowly. You started dating her when she was my age and I'm not sure what many our age would have in common with someone your age, in terms of sustaining a lifelong marriage, when we're still at the start of developing our own identities.My boyfriend and I have been together nearly two years and both said we want to marry each other, but we won't be ready at 23. I think you should wait a bit longer before proposing, as you know she'll say yes, so you just need to wait to have a bit more of a foundation than 2 years of her early adulthood - in my opinion.
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