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writes:ok well I work with this girl and shes my age. she has had a boyfriend since highschool. we got to know each other and became real good friends. thru a year I've gone thru relationship after relationship and she has known bout each one. she asks me for advice every now and then weather its sex related or just general relationship advice. we generally flirt quite a bit and joking about stupid stuff generally just to get some laughs. she'll ask me often how she looks or how her hair is, stuff like that. lately she's been texting me more and more and wanting to be around me more. I could totally be wrong and I kinda hope I am but lately there's been a strong sexual tension between us and makes it almost awkward sometimes especially since she knows how strongly I am against cheating. im not sure what exactly we are or can be considered but were closer than friends but no actual action has happnd yet and I don't want it too. can someone give me advice on how to handle this situation? I know this isn't how female friends really act i have girl friends and this isn't like any of em. whats goin on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): I would go for it, it is obviously going somewhere, im in the same situation except im the one thats married, she kissed me on the lips last week at a night out and sends me messages every day when we dont work together, our feelings are definatley becoming stronger and cant stop it, i have a strong desire if anything does happen to come inside her again and again and i think its going to happen, she came on to me and now ive fallen, i would say to you go for it NOW! dont leave it any longer or you will miss out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): I wouldn't say anything. If she has a boyfriend, going further with you will just complicate things and hurt people. She needs to make her own decisions about how she feels.
If you want to encourage her to make a decision, you could back off a little and when she sees what she's missing, she'll really take stock of her life.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (3 December 2009):
 maybe she does genuinely like you however she is stil with her boyfriend so chances are she's doing this with no intentions of taking this further. Maybe her current boyfriend isn't giving her the attention that she needs, and you are therefore that is maybe the reason why she wants to spend a bit more time with you.
Or i could be wrong and maybe this is just her friendly nature. I would suggest maybe asking her if she would prefer to take things further or how does she feel about you but then again she might only be being friendly and this might scare her off. If you don't want to scare her off how about a text asking her?? Or just simply do nothing and carry on the way you both are and if she decides to make a move then confront her then?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 December 2009):
It's as simple as this. If she likes you enough, and knows you won't tolerate cheating, then she'll dump him and come to you. Other than that, back away a bit to make it clear you won't be second best. She needs to dump him before coming to you.
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