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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So, I"m 17 and my girlfriend of 11 months is 16. We're almost at our 1 year anniversary and I can't shake the fact that my feelings for her are swinging up and down. I've never been so confused in my life. I love this girl but at the same time I feel like I don't as much as I used to. I still get excited to see her. I still brag about her, still attracted to her, the sex and other things are in good check. But, we argue once in a while and she sees that I've changed and so do I. Suddenly I don't have the same time for her that I used to. I honestly love her and wish there were more hours in the day and that I had a car so seeing her wouldnt mean a sketchy long walk. I'm so busy now that my few free days are consumed by her and not my friends, and when I'm with my friends she's hurt, and I'm hurt, but it works equally the other way when I miss being with my friends.We've talked about breaking up a few times, mostly me. This hurts her so much and in doing so hurts me and reminds me that I still truly love her. I'm just not sure if it's romantic love. The thing is though, she thinks that me breaking up with her means that I never loved her and was using her... etc etc...Deep down I know she wants the best for me and means that she should let me go. She saw this very early on, way before I ever did. Now we're so close and dependant on each other that it my be impossible for me to leave her and vica versa. We've been through some bad things.... Many bad things and pretty much end up being the only loving people in each others live's.I'm so afraid to leave herI dont want to, and sometimes I feel like I must others I dont at all. She loves me with all her heartI"m giving it a few months but I should know for sure by then. I know that usually these feelings are permanent. I just hope not.I love this girl like water
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): How much time are you spending together? If you spend too much time together, it's not healthy. Maybe it would help to take some time out for yourself and figure out your feelings. It doesn't sound like you really want to break up but it might help to have some time apart to realize how much you still love her.
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