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*ndrea2777
writes:I met this guy last Friday and he got my number. We hung out again Saturday night. I live about 45 minutes away from him and I'm in college. Monday I came home for Thanksgiving break. He told me to tell him when I got into town. I did... two nights in a row he'd ask what I was doing that night, but then would continue to tell me he was busy.Finally Wednesday night he invited me over to his mom's house to hang out and I met her. I asked him to tell me when he woke up on Thanksgiving the next day and he didn't... I txtd him Thanksgiving night because he was traveling to another city for college game day. He txtd back and told me to call him when I got into the same town the next day.Whenever I arrived in the town I txtd him, but did not hear back from him for about 4 or 5 hours. He called me and told me he'd been trying to call all day and that he didn't have service and had just gotten all my txts. He also continuted to tell me he wanted to see me. I ended up seeing him that night at his friend's house and stayed with him (we didn't hook up just kissed).The next day I decided to txt him when I got home from college game day. He didn't respond... We'd hung out 4 times and I stayed the night with him so I thought it was apropriate to tell him later that night that I wasn't going to be one of those girls that stays with him and then doesn't hear back.He txtd me the next day telling me he'd left his phone in a friends car. He also has been acting a bit strange since I saw him the night I stayed with him. I didn't talk to him yesterday or half of today so finally I txtd him today. He apologized and said he's sorry we haven't talked much and he's been busy with finals for school and also asked what I was doing this weekend.I'm just very confused. I met his mom and I've met his friends. I'm not sure if I should be worried that we don't talk everyday... guys have done this before and we just don't talk or hang out again.Should I be so worried?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (3 December 2009):
 rhythmandblues2 is correct...you just met him.
You're treating this guy as a boyfriend, and he's not. Even a boyfriend would perhaps be overwhelmed at all this attention. Guys (and girls to some extent) don't like to be this involved when you first meet. Take it easy, let him chase you, let him find you, text you, call you. Let him be the guy. If you keep chasing, he'll keep running...in the other direction.
And as a side comment, he doesn't sound that interested...or he's not interested enough. He's either busy with his life or a few other girls who text him.
You ask if you should be worried that you don't talk everyday...why do you have to talk everyday...are you in a committed relationship? He doesn't owe you anything at this point.
So relax and take it easy. Let him come to you. If he's really keen he will come looking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): If I were you I would be worried that you are so into a guy you just recently met, texting him to let him know where you are. If he doesn't set a firm date, then you have no plans, he has no plans to see you.
If the guy can't commit to an actual date, then he can't commit to anything else.
Stop texting him, let him do all the work of contacting you and get your mind on something else. It is clingy and demanding to follow this guy around in his confusion. He sounds busy, what about you?
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