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writes: I had been completely madly in love with my ex for 8 years, he loved me, we had a 7 year old but he was an addict, I'd been messed about for so long and in the end he ended it. Now he is in prison asking for one last chance saying he's changed, he wants to prove himself how much of a different person he is, I agreed 8 months ago, but in May he started seeing somebody, quickly I fell in love with him, he did with me so much he wants to be with me for the rest of his life, so do I but feel bad, the loves not as strong as my first love but I dont think I can ever get that again. Do I move on and start a fresh new life where I know I will never get hurt and looked after or risk my ex going back to his old life???
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reader, Araelia V  +, writes (3 December 2009):
 NO!!!!
He is obviously no good. And you have a child. You have to think about that child too. Part of a childhood should not be 'going to visit daddy, he's a convict' and you deserve better. A man who has done enough wrong to end up in jail is no place for a child to grow up with. Move on girl or risk your child following in his fathers footsteps.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 December 2009):
You go to where you know you won't get hurt and where you will be happy. Your ex will hurt you. Think of yourself and your child and happiness. Your ex had his chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): "move on and start a fresh new life where i know i will never get hurt and looked after or risk my ex going back to his old life"You just answered your own question. You have a 7 year old and that child deserves to be in a stable home with good parents, not neglectful addicts. That, and if the risk is just far too great. I've known far too many women who gave their jail birds second chances, only to realize nothing good came of it. Go where you know you will be happiest, safest and your child will be best taken care of - and going back to your ex isn't going to vive you that.
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