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36-40,
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writes:I need a little advice. I realized today that my string of bad relationships has never given me the opportunity to see what it's like to be treated well by a man. I have no idea what it feels like. I've considered joining a dating website to see if I'd have luck with meeting a nice guy but when I filled out the trial survey of what I found attractive in a guy, I had no clue. Aside from being nice, and taking me out once in while what else is there? And because I can't recognize these things is this why my relationships haven't worked? And does this mean I'm doomed to pick the wrong guy everytime? I get that everyone has their own physical attractions, but aside from the physical stuff, what should I be looking for in a guy??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (3 December 2009):
 This is going to sound weird coming from a guy. Do you like romantic movies? Is there a character that makes you want to swoon? I know they are all fantasies, and that combination of traits doesn't exist in reality. They can however help you identify what it is you value.
If you like James Bond You like excitement, confidence and a witty sense of humor. Muscular guys are a turn on, as is great hair.
If you like Adam Sandler Then you are more into a sincere self effacing guy. Tallness is a turn on.
This could help you explore you feelings in a safer environment.
Often times we say that if aren't finding the right kind of guy, you must be looking in the wrong place. Try church socials instead of single bars. Also interest groups, and service groups. Especially service groups, insincere guys don't do service work just to meet girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): Well maybe you could tackle the question the other way round. Look at all the things you didn't like about the bad relationships and then think about the opposite for each one. Hope this helps. It could also be that you just find it hard putting things into words.
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