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writes:im a 22 year old virgin.my whole school experience was pretty terrible for me i always felt insecure missplace and low because i was always being made fun of, plus my first relationship ever was a sad wreck i got played! as a result im unconfident insecure and havent trusted any girl since. my whole life has been a feeling of being a loser
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reader, trigger18  +, writes (4 December 2009):
hey,
wen i read ur story i realted straight away. i was in the exact same situation. i was played in my first relationship and it left me feeling extremely low. all thru school i was made fun of and was the typical target for the bullies on the school yard and in the classroom. However everything changed wen i got a job. there was no rumours to follow me and i made friends. i even met my current bf there and because of that i feel so much more confident.
like others have sed the past is the past but its an experience that u learn from. all u need to do is get out there and find the people who really care and dnt worry so much. remember that u are not a loser. u have the potential to be exactly who u want to be and people will accept u for that. good luck hun xx
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reader, bitch +, writes (3 December 2009):
The past is the past. You cannot change it and you should never look back since it really will not predict the future unless you allow it to. Just let it all go and start from scratch. You are not what happened to you, but what you make happen for yourself. You still have a very bright future if you let it be that way and you can have a wonderful girlfriend if you pick the nice girls.
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reader, Sadnat  +, writes (3 December 2009):
 well the advice that i can give you is.... always look for personality in a girl, i know looks play a part but personality is what counts, in the end its the personality that will keep you happy and together. On the trust issue, it will take time to recover. Not all girls are players actualy very few,thats if you like her for her peronality on not only looks because although there are some really sweet pretty people in the world in my experience pretty girls know they can get any guy they like and then they dont appreciate the good guys.dont get into a relationship untill you have forgiven what happened to you and you know that you are able to trust again because you shouldnt punnish a new girl who might truely adore you because some bitch hurt you. you deserve better than that.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 December 2009):
I frequently felt the same as you (I'm the same age), and sometimes feel the same now. Young men are under a lot of pressure, in the same way women are. It's just not mentioned as much. We also feel as if need to be popular, intelligent, attractive, successful so we can feel confident with our lives.
The thing is, it's a lot of worrying about nothing. I found a fantastic women who just accepts me. And you will too. You need to make sure you're mixing with people, make sure you're focusing on your life and becoming the best person you can. I think it might just be a good idea to see a cousellor to get all your feelings out in the open so you understand them. Also, take up a hobby where other women are, and that is a challenge. Dancing is a good one. You can get over your past hurt, if you spend enough time on yourself and your life.
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