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Archived questions from: October, 2013 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

Does my boyfriend wish things had worked out with him and his ex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4071 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - Why would my boyfriend (31m) look at his exes pictures on facebook all the time if he says he hates her because of the way she treated him. Is it really because he dislikes her or because he still has feelings for her - wishes things had worked out? ...

My ex won't let go and is telling people how he misses me and sending me things in the mail

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4075 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - Can any of u lovely people help me.... I've posted here before. I was with a man a few years older than me for 2 years. In those 2 years he cheated for 15 months (I was the mistress it turned out) I tried to stay and forgive him. It just didn't work ...

How do I stop thinking about a lying cheating ex boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4076 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - I started seeing a guy about six month ago, a few months into 'seeing him' he tells me he has a girlfriend. Gave me the whole as soon as he met me he planned to end it with her but couldn't bring himself to do it but he couldn't lie to me any ...

Will my boyfriend lose interest when his son (to another woman) is born?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4076 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend is having a baby with his ex and is due very soon, I'm worried once the babys born me and my boyfriend will grow apart as he will be looking after his son and being there for his son, I don't want that to happen me and him are very ...

I don't want to let go of my ex ... what do his recent actions mean?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4076 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - I fell for a guy just over a year ago and we got together, we were together for a couple of months and everyday he would message me 24/7 and I would message him back, we'd talk until all hours of the morning until one of us fell asleep. It was ...

My child's father risks jail because of his behavior towards me and I feel guilty!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4077 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - I need help.....i feel guilty for putting my child father in jail. His jealousy causes him to do crazy things to me. At first I thought his jealous behavior was cut until it ended with property being destroyed. Now we have a pending court case and I ...

Past love haunts me to this day... and now he's engaged...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4078 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - I was in a strange relationship for a few years... I was living with someone else but trying to get out of the abusive relationship and started seeing someone else... I fell pretty hard until he cheated then things pretty much went from hard core ...

I found a sex video on my boyfriend phone and it has just devastated me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4079 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - I recently found a video on my boyfriend's old mobile phone of his ex giving him oral sex, and a few photos of her just in her underwear. I can't help feelings like he kept them because I'm not enough for him. I've never had much confiden...

Having trouble adjusting after moving back home

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4080 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - When I spent a year working in Australia, I met the man of my dreams. He trained at a gym which had a coffee shop nearby, so as I worked there I saw him daily. After a few weeks of flirting, he asked me out and started dating. When my year was up we ...

Am I worrying too much about my boyfriend's ex and their continued contact?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4078 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Hi, I've been with my boyfriend about 4 months now. I knew before we starting dating that he was still friends with his ex and they talked often. She cheated on him and hurt him a lot, and I guess left him for another guy eventually becau...

Male friend has changed behaviour since we hooked up. What's his problem?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4080 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Ok so I have a friend who is quite flirty and anyway we hooked up once a couple weeks but we don't like each other or anything. So anyway we used to talk like all the time but all of a sudden he just stopped replying to my messages and starts ...

I'm expecting my ex boyfriend's child and I don't know if I should tell him and break his current girlfriend's heart.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4080 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - I'm expecting my ex boyfriend's child and I don't know if I should tell him and break his current girlfriend's heart. Basically, when we broke up, we made a stupid agreement to still have sex from time to time. I ended things because I got sick of ...

What can I do to supress my feelings, to avoid these emotional pains?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4081 days ago

24 October 2013 (M) - Dear community, there is a big problem that is really really bothering me. First of all, my girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 6 months now, and from all I can tell we're both pretty happy with each other. Everything s...

Ex is telling embarrassing personal details!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4082 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - My ex from 5 years started telling people about 2 years ago some very personal information of mine. Why he is doing this I don't know but I am horrified to the point where I can't stop thinking about it. We have had no contact now for years and I ...

We work together and my ex is trying to remain friends. I don't need the drama!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4079 days ago

23 October 2013 (F) - So my ex-gf has been trying to maintain a friendly contact with me. I have ignored her for the most part because I told her I do not do the friend thing with exes. We work together so it has been hard, and although I have maintained a professional ...

My ex named his daughter after me??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4083 days ago

22 October 2013 (F) - Hi, I got a txt of my ex of over 4 years, who ismarried for two years Now, he told me he Christened his daughter after me, what does this mean? Why does he need to tell me this after all theses years? ...

Help with a girl? is she using me? will she love me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4084 days ago

22 October 2013 (M) - Okay here is the deal with me and this girl that i have very strong feelings for, we have been talking for a few weeks, she invited me to stay the weekend with her, i did and we got drunk had amazing sex one night and then the next night, she then ...

He has lost all faith in me after I snooped, how can I put things right?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4084 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I have been in a lovely relationship with a guy in his 40s. His wife left 3 years ago after they mutually separated after 20 years due to growing apart. She came home pregnant and moved out shortly after with her new partner. My boyfriend has a ...

Should I wait for her or should I make the move?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4085 days ago

21 October 2013 (M) - Hi there.. I got out of a long relationship 5months ago.. I haven't seen anyone since then. I met a great girl once and since then we.ve been cahtting everyday and flirting a lot.. The problem was that she had a boyfriend at that time and I didn'...

My ex told me she still loves me.... What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4085 days ago

21 October 2013 (M) - Hey Everyone! So this morning I was totally blown away. I wrote on here a few days ago about how I just couldn't get over my ex. She is everything to me. I've tried everything to get over her. I've kept myself busy, gym, work, even dated othe...

I'm still getting to know him and just wonder why he's keeping me in his life if he can't give me his full attention?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4086 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice on this one! I have posted previously about this but basically for the last two months I've been getting to know this guy. He's 23 and I'm 25. When we met, he had literally just broken up with his ex of 2 ...

Dodged a bullet, but still can't get her out of my mind

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4085 days ago

20 October 2013 (M) - I am 21, so it feels ignorant to even be stressing this situation, but I have for an entire year now, and ALL I want to do is let go. I dated a girl that was my entire world for about 10 months, and she has a child. The child became very atta...

She was once his Gf and he's in contact with her. Will I ruin my relationship if I don't stop acting this way?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4086 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - Hi I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now. My boyfriend is friends with most of his ex girlfriends, I am actually okay with this except for just one of the ex girlfriends...his serious relationship that lasted like over 2 years...

Why would he flirt but never ask me out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4087 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - Was wondering if someone could possibly give me some insight as to why a man would constantly flirt with someone but, never ask them out. A particular man in question works with me but, on a higher level than I do. I have worked at the same plac...

Our connection was so amazing that I can't get her out of my mind

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4086 days ago

19 October 2013 (M) - Don't really know how to start this? I'm almost 34. I've had a few relationships. Some good, some not so good. Then awhile back I met this girl. We come from different worlds. She's had a really good upbringing. I haven't. Not that ...

What's a girl to do? No job with a boyfriend and his two kids.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4082 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - I have been in a 2 year relationship. Three months after becoming an official couple my bf found out his ex was 7 months pregnant 7 months since they had broken up. He was pretty sure it was not his child and he says his ex had not spoken to him ...

I can't help thinking I'm doing exactly what I should not be

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4088 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - I dated a man on and off for a year, all while he was still living with his ex-girlfriend for financial reasons. I was not comfortable or OK with that situation so, even though we became very close, we stopped seeing one another and he got back ...

I think that fact that I want to stray is telling me something about my current relationship

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4086 days ago

18 October 2013 (M) - I'm in a bit of a dilemma here and not sure what to do? I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years now and I thought that everything was great. But, recently my ex girlfriend got in touch with me. Me and my ex dated nearly 6 years ago for ...

New girlfriend is friends with recent lovers. Feels bad to me.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4083 days ago

18 October 2013 (M) - New relationship-about 5 weeks. We are both in our 40s. Recently, she went out with an ex-BF who she briefly dated, but didn't work out, but continued sleeping with, most recently a few weeks before she and I met. She told me after the fact t...

Is it normal for my boyfriend to be friends with his ex girlfriend who hurt him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4088 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - Hi all, I could really use some help and opinions on my situation. My boyfriend who I've been with for about 4 months now is still friends with his ex-girlfriend who he was with for about 2 years. They broke up about a year ago. She chea...

Was this some sort of revenge for breaking up?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4088 days ago

17 October 2013 (F) - Yesterday an ex-lover sent me a text message and I simply replied. Then he called me and we began to have a conversation about our past. My ex finally gave me a chance to explain my side of the story about how we ended up going our separate ways. I ...

The relationship is great -- except for his psycho ex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4088 days ago

17 October 2013 (F) - I am very much in love with this man and we are engaged to be married in a year. He treats me wonderfully and we are best friends. The only issue is the mother of his child hates that we are together and has drawn a wedge between us. She is violent ...

She ditched me to hang out with her ex!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4089 days ago

17 October 2013 (M) - Dear Cupid, Its been a long time since I wrote to you (I apologize), and now I am here again asking for help for more of my girl problems. In advance, I apologize for any grammar errors or fallacies since my english writing is not that great. ...

My ex wouldn't interact with my friends but now he is!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4089 days ago

17 October 2013 (F) - Hello all I recently broke up with my bf. One of the reasons was because he never wanted to interact with my friends or introduce me to his family. Personally I feel that if a couple got together, there shouldn't be anything to hide. Furthermore, we ...

How can I ignore an ex boyfriend that I work with?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4090 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - How can i ignore an ex boyfriend!!! We only dated for a few months, but i cant get him out of my head. I found out he was cheating on me and he was texting alot of other girls too, so i dumped him. But he keeps contacting me all the time for 'one...

Was my ex emotionally abusive to me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4072 days ago

14 October 2013 (F) - Was I in an emotionally abusive relationship? At first my ex was very loving and the perfect gentleman. After a little while he stopped having sex with me, stopped giving me physical affection and began completely ignoring me, even when I was in t...

I care for him but take his words with a pinch of salt..am worried I'm a rebound!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4092 days ago

14 October 2013 (F) - Hello Agony Aunts/Uncles! Thanks for taking the time to read, I'll try not to be too repetitive in the telling :) In summary, I met this guy J online. He's got a lot (and I do mean A LOT) of baggage to work through, not the least being that he br...

Signs that your boyfriend isn't over his ex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4091 days ago

14 October 2013 (F) - This may be a stupid question but what are some signs or how do you know if your boyfriend is not over his ex girlfriend? I really don't want to jump to conclusions or anything but I just have this feeling that my boyfriend still misses and has f...

Why is my ex making such awkward conversation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4093 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend almost four months ago (I was the dumper). Since then he's gone through all the motions of telling me to never contact him again, at least twice. Each time he's been back contacting me within two weeks. In this time, I'...

How can I recover from this love-sickness?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4093 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend broke up with me three months ago. Since then, my life has started to be absolutely nonsense, I spent my days watching the time passing by, and fell into a deep depression. I have started university almost a month ago, still I don't ...

I cant stop missing him. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4093 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - Hey :) I was in an ldr with a wonderful guy for nearly a year, and things were pretty great. But we were definitely switching off. Well, he more so than me. He went MIA for about a week and i was really worried to find out he was in hospital...

Can you sue someone for giving you an STD?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4093 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - Can you sue someone for giving you an STD? My ex boyfriend has contacted me, to say that he recently ejaculated blood and that if he has an STD he will be suing me. I haven't had a check-up for a few months, but last time I went to the doctors ...

am still in contact with a guy I dated when I was 16, I still like him what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4092 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - Hello, I am still in contact with a guy I dated when I was 16, we broke up cos he lived in America and I live in NZ, anyway, recently we have started emailing each other constantly throughout the day and a few months ago he moved to Australia, wh...

I'm confused as to whether or not he likes me as more than a friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - So confused. A co-worker who transferred from one of our global and I have become very good friends over the past year. His wife was supposed to transfer as well to the us but they ultimately separated and are in the process of divorcing. A mo...

Why did he treat me so badly when all I ever did was love him? He treats his new girlfriend much better than he did me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4093 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - I'm 20 years old.. I have only been with one man and that was from the age of 13... However over the years the man I was with for seven years didn't treat me very well... Put me down, took a lot of my money, cheated, broken my finger etc but he was ...

Should I ask my ex to our son's birthday outing?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

12 October 2013 (F) - Should I ask my ex to our son's birthday outing? We haven't been getting on at all lately, infact that is an understatement. He doesn't see his son much anyway, through his own choice. I don't particularly want him there, but this is...

Him keeping his ex as a friend bothers me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4092 days ago

11 October 2013 (F) - How can I stop worrying and stop being upset about my boyfriend's friendship with his ex girlfriend? Even though they had a bad break up and things got pretty ugly with them (she cheated on him a lot and they fought a lot) they both decided to ...

Why would an ex say "we should have a relationship with love and compasion because we have history"?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

11 October 2013 (F) - Why would an ex say "we should have a relationship with love and compasion because we have history." he left the marriage for another woman who he has been with for over 5 yrs. now. there were other women before her. He is extremely dishones...

What are people's opinions are on changing your mind about the way someone looks?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

11 October 2013 (F) - I was wondering what people's opinions are on changing your mind about the way someone looks? A few months ago, I found out that my boyfriend told his friend last year that his ex was better looking than me and I wasn't all that great. I'm not ...

I worry that my girlfriend misses other women!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

11 October 2013 (M) - Hi. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years now and we live together and have a daughter. Thing is, she's bisexual. I often find myself worrying she misses other women. I've tried asking her and talking but she just says no and won't talk. ...