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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I broke up with my boyfriend almost four months ago (I was the dumper). Since then he's gone through all the motions of telling me to never contact him again, at least twice. Each time he's been back contacting me within two weeks. In this time, I've also left the country for study and won't be back until me year. I haven't started conversation with him in weeks as I don't know how to feel: as much as I miss him, I resent the things he did in the relationship and therefore can't bring myself to start conversation.It's become his regular thing to contact me about once a week. At first it was the how are you or something trivial going on, eventually followed by a 'I miss you' later in the brief conversation before he would suddenly stop responding. Now he just makes awful jokes (the latest being, 'I don't know how to say this, but I'm pregnant and your the father') tells me misses me and ends the conversation as quickly as he starts it by just not responding. What's up with him? I'm making conversation back, so can someone explain what he's doing?
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (13 October 2013):
 Honeypie is right, he's missing you and trying to get you to respond to him.
You had your reasons for ending this relationship and should be concentrating on your life now.
He needs to start getting over this too but won't be able too all the while he has a glimmer of hope that he may get you back and he'll think that all the time you make conversation back.
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Change your number or block him completely.
When he realises you're not getting his communications and are not responding, he'll finally get the message that you have moved on.
He can then grieve and start to heal too.
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 October 2013):
 I have no idea why he is doing it, but I'm guessing he misses you.
What I don't get is why stay in contact with him? Why bother? Why not block him and let the relationship go?
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