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writes:My ex from 5 years started telling people about 2 years ago some very personal information of mine. Why he is doing this I don't know but I am horrified to the point where I can't stop thinking about it. We have had no contact now for years and I wish I had never met him. I have anxiety about this and don't know what to do to fix it as I know confrontation would achieve nothing and I really want to ignore him at all costs.How do you get over the anxiety of an ex telling people embarrassing personal information about you? It has been a couple of years so I am hoping that he has stopped now. But why can I not stop thinking about it?Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 October 2013):
 It's been a couple of years... have you had any feedback due to this?
what is it that bugs you, if your worry is all about what might happen or what could have happened etc... then I'm thinking a bit of therapy with a professional could help you work through this very specific anxiety.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 October 2013):
 Wow, he sounds like a bitter pill!
There isn't anything you CAN do. I know it's not pleasant to have an ex tell people things you rather not get out, but you CAN NOT control what he does or what he says.
If someone bring up that EX told them one of these embarrassing details just laugh it off and tell them EX was a petty person.
I would venture a guess, that that is his way of getting "even" with you or because frankly his life is dull and to make himself seem important.
Stop worrying, because there is nothing you can do about it.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (24 October 2013):
You care because it's normal to care about what others think of us.
However , put your mind at ease. Most people will view him as a bitter ex by the mere fact that he's talking negatively about an ex. It's just not classy and most people won't believe him anyhow.
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