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Archived questions from: April, 2009 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

Is it wrong of me to want her ex gone from our lives?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5071 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Okay so..I have run out of options and need advice. This might be long so sorry ahead of time. My gf and i have been together for a year and 4 months. Now the problem is that my gf is moving to a new place and her ex is her friend that is m...

Said no, but now feel guilty

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Hi guys i still talk 2 my ex but the other day he said he may need 2 borrow my car 2 take him,his gf, and his child out for the day and i said no But now i feel really guilty that i said no, i dont really have a problam with it its just that i ...

I think he is crossing the line by talking to these other women but he just tells me I am sick!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I have a problem my husband e-mails his ex and visa versa, always wanting to help her either fix her apt. or anything else its ridiculis the way he goes about it, he tells her if there is anything you need done let me know. I am a jelous person ...

I think we are still in love but he is getting married! Help please!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I have a question that I really need help answering. I have been in love with this man for almost 4 years, we dated for about 2 years and then we broke it off and decided to remain best friends. Trouble is I am still in love with him and I t...

Is he just using me to get back at his ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - My friend didn't talk to me for about a year, when he was having trouble with his relationship he started talking to me again. then he broke up with his girlfriend, 2 weeks later we slept together, and have been ever since, but not in a relationship ...

Why is the man I was with for 16 years trying to make my life a living hell?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Just a vent more than a question. I HATE MY EX. He left me and his 2 toddlers for a 22 year old. Gt to love it. I got over him leaving, we weren't happy. However, I am angry that he tried to proof I was unfit in court to get full custody which was ...

I'm terrible at reading women!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - My problem is, I am terrible at reading females. Unless it is very obvious, I can't always tell if a female is interested in me or not. There is this one female that I am interested in; the first time I asked her out she told me she wasn't single, ...

She wont let go of her past, should I let her go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - Hi I'm in this relationship with this girl she's 26, extremely pretty and sweet. I believe her main problem is that I've noticed she can't let go of her past, an ex-boyfriend to be specific. She says she is not in love with him, but she's constantly ...

Would-be 2 year anniversary coming up with my ex and I'm not coping!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5669 days ago

30 April 2009 (?) - What would have been my two year anniversary with my ex is this sunday and Ive been so upset all week. We broke up for good in February after going back and forth for a while. We cut all contact four days after my birthday and I havent spoken t...

Its still early days but I'm worried I'm being used!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I've been seeing this guy for about a month now. We have a lot in common, and we have a great time when we're together, which has generally been at weekends. This weekend a friend of his in in town and naturally he's arranging to meet up with ...

Why doesn't she leave me if the fault is in me that I am not able to be even her genuine friend??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - i broke up all contacs with my ex girlfriend... I deleted my facebook and changed my mobile number, I'm trying my level best to avoid her and that too gently and politely taking atmost care not to hurt her too much... before we departed she said she ...

Going to a wedding, his bitchy ex will be there, how do I get through it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 4 months has asked me to go to his friends wedding in May. Not a problem really, until you take into accoiunt that his very maliscious, nasty and bitchy ex will be there - who has a real thing against me (she had my boyfriend wra...

How can I make my ex choose me over my friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - I dated a girl for a few years before she broke up with me a few weeks ago. Although we were not in a long distance relationship, we could not always see each other due to a number of reasons, and it has gotten worse lately. I became too ...

Why does he have a picture of his ex on the wall?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I have been having a long distance relationship for about three months with a guy I have known for 10 years or so. I went to visit at his house last weekend and noticed that there was a picture of him and his ex up on the wall. They were together ...

He'll probably try to talk me into going back with him but I don't want to. What can I say?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - so me and my ex Chuck had a really bad history like he was really mean to me and so on... and we eventually had to end because it got so bad our parents had to get involved... and i havent seen him or talked to him in a month.. He sent me a letter ...

Although I don't want my ex back, I do miss him...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I broke up quite recently. We had gone out for almost 2 years the first time, broke up, and the second time we went out for 3 months. About a week later, I found someone new. It was sudden. He is better than my ex, and he is perfect ...

I don't want to lose any of my friends, despite how they treat me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Sorry, this is VERY long. I recently got back with an ex boyfriend, and things are going great. We are both so happy and it's perfect. The thing is today my friends starting making fun of him. Whilst I was with them. At first I knew they were just ...

Why is my ex doing this to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Why is my ex doing this to me, he has a new gf, and we still get on really well as friends, the thing is he keeps going on about how i want 2 suck his cock,and then he says hes teasing me but then he said it may happen or it may not, I no i wo...

After a year, I'm still in love with him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I'm in love with my ex-boyfriend still a year later after we split. I don't know how to move on though because I don't want another man in my life at the moment. How do you move on from the past?...

Her ex just WILL NOT stop chasing her. Do I have a word? Or let her handle it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I am a 39 year old female that I have just married my wife Jan. 30th 2009. We got married in Connecticut. (legally) Well my wife has a friend that is her ex that is still in love with my wife. My wife has told her to quit emailing and texting ...

I tried to slow down our relationship and now she has moved on to a 60 year old guy!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - Hi, I met a woman about a month ago - we got along great. I had reservations because her previous boyfriend had left her just 2 months prior and she would talk about him often and how bad he treated her. I did not want to be her rebound guy...

She claims she really wants to be with me but I don't know if it's real!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - This Is a bad situation to begin with i know. About 2 months ago now i was reintroduced to my friends cousin who is/was Engaged, Red flag right there i know. Last time i met here was a few years back, I always had feelings for her, and i find out ...

Baby daddy crap!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - my girlfriend of 1year has two kids(9 and 10). their dad is in prison.he wants my girlfriend to come visit him.She claims that him and her are best friends.the problem im having out of the situation is that I've been feeling disrespected by her kids ...

I've become the green eyed monster over two girls I'm not even with anymore!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - I've become a green-eyed monster. I feel jealous and I don't know why. There are two women I'm concerned about right now. It started last night. I came across some old photos of an old girlfriend. My first love, who broke up with me nearly two ye...

Get lover to leave his wife for you or get her to leave him so you can have him for yourself

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I have found an ex lover after being apart for 8 and a half year.We have been in contact by phone and computer for the last 16 months. we are both married. I have been married for 9 years 10 months. He has been married around 4 or 5 years. he says ...

I can't stand her ex to be around her.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5647 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - I fell in love with a wonderful woman when i was going thru my divorce but I have a major issue. She was separated from her husband when she was with me and went back and forth a couple of times but now she assures me she is done with him and we ...

How do I make my ex of 2 plus years choose me over my friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

29 April 2009 (?) - Instead of cutting straight to my question, I am about to explain the background of my situation because I feel that it is unique and should be fully understood if I am to consider advice. If you are going to give me an answer, please do not skim ...

I just found out about my boyfriend's threesome! I'm shocked!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now and we are very much in love. we have our ups and downs like most relationships but we have gotten through bad moments and are enjoying time together. we've recently been away and had the most amazing ...

Should I have a sex change and become a man...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - My ex-boyfriend had a sex change recently, but I am still in love with him!!! Now that he is a woman, I feel like I am a lesbian, although I have never felt this way about a girl before. Should I have a sex change and become a man, and therefore ...

Sex CAN be beautiful!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I have made love with 3 of my ex-boyfirneds and my current bf. I was amazed by how romantic and gentle and beautiful sex could be. all my exbfs were virgins and sex with them was boring, tiring (I had to move from the beginning to the end and I am...

I think my boyfriend still has feelings for his ex.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4707 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - Just a few pieces of information before I delve any further into my question. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months, whereas he was in a relationship with his last girlfriend for over 2 years. When we met they'd been broken up a few months and ...

My ex boyfriend told everyone I'm not a virgin anymore!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5690 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - what should i do?,my ex-boyfriend told to his friends that there something happen between us,that im not virgin anymore. my mother did not know about it..i made NAME in our place our family, so im afraid that if people in our place know about it...

He loves his daughter, but not her mother.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5691 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I know this guy who truly loves his 4 year old daughter and doesn't want to do anything to ruin his relationship with her, but he doesn't love the mother. Is there any way he can still be in the daughter’s life without being in the mother's? Here's ...

She cheated, and I left but now she will not leave me alone!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - I just recently broke up with my girfriend of 5 years. She had an affair with a co-worker last year, and I almost left her then. But I confronted her about it, and she begged me not to leave her. Well we worked things out, and I thought things were ...

My wife's ex is moving in next door!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5691 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - My wife and I have been together for eight years - since she was 19 and I was 20 - and we've been married three of those years. We have a beautiful son whom is five months old and my wife is pregnant again. We also have our respective and stable ...

Her ex is suddenly back on the scene and in my house. I'm not happy.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - My wife and I are happily married. Going to be 9 years this summer. Everything is great. We love each other, love our wonderful children, and are each others best friends. My wife never dated a real lot before we met, but she did date this one gu...

Emotionally Hurt......should I send the letter?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - My man and I had an nasty breakup for reasons unbeknow to me. He just stated that I was very disrespectful towards his feelings. We are both adults, and I wanted to talk but I was blamed for something I never did, he went through a terrible event ...

Why couldn't I just fall for a decent guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5692 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - My ex was the only guy i've ever loved. But he cheated and is a liar. We spoke recently after not talking since it ended (when i found his lies). he told me he misses me and wants to see me more. I'm never going back to him after he treated me! b...

Advice needed... How do you get over your first love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5692 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - How do you get over your first love? I realized I still have feelings for my first boyfriend (for more details check my other question, please), who I dated for about 3 years. I want to forget about him because he is in a relationship and...

My ex beat up the guy I made out with... how can I make him stop this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5692 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - I'm 15, and my ex is 17. I recently dumped him, like 2 weeks ago, after 5 months. We both agreed that the relationship was coming to a halt and there wasn't any way to save it. And we've both been getting on fine since then, he's my best friend. ...

Afraid exs family will cause problems for my family

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5692 days ago

26 April 2009 (M) - i am in a predicament as i have not seen my kids for nearly 3 years and i am getting to the stage that i want to see them again,my new partner has her reservations regarding me seeing the kids and not a selfish level but on a level that we used to ...

Why would he leave me to be with women that treat him like crap?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5692 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I am so confused. My ex and I were together for 7 years and our relationship wasn't a bad one although it was rocky towards the end. What I want to know is why he left me to be with women who treat him like crap. I was faithful and I loved him ...

Started dating my ex gf's friend but now she wants me back! I want heer back too,, Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

26 April 2009 (M) - Hi. Please help! I'm 21 years old and in a relationship which is seemingly going no-where. It all started 4 years ago when i dated a girl, who i was madly in love with. I lost my virginity to her and everything seemed perfect. Then one day, ou...

My boyfriend is not allowed to see my kids! I think this is so unfair.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5693 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - my ex boyfriend and i have 2 kids together however i have a new boyfriend and its court ordered that my new boyfriend not have contact with our two kids i want to know how he can dictate this and also why he has a new girlfriend and baby and shes ...

We got on so well together... now he's telling me he's getting back with his ex...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5693 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - I am having a similar problem and was wondering if you guys had any advice for me. I have known this guy for 2 years and have kept in contact off and on during that time. Around then end of January we started dating. It was great, we talked every ...

What's he playing at, is he trying to make me jealous?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5693 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - Ok this is about my ex, ok i admit i still have feelings for him,and we split up in november last year,but carried on sleeping with each other, then hes now got this new gf he says she could be the one, But hes also said 2 my mate that he really w...

Isn't it ironic?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5693 days ago

25 April 2009 (M) - This really isn't much of a question just really sharing my experience and what I have become out of it. I have been on this site daily just reading other posts and I figured if someone comes into the situation I was in I hope they can use this as ...

She did with exs but won't do it with me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5693 days ago

25 April 2009 (M) - I feel resentful towards my girlfriend because I perform oral sex on her before we have sex. I genuinely enjoy doing it and would prefer to carry on. However, I don't know if me doing this act is the reason she feels she does not need to give me ...

She goes out and leaves me when she hears her ex is around?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5693 days ago

25 April 2009 (M) - Is it right for a man to be quiet when his wife leave him alone in the kitchen to go outside when she heard her ex-boyfriend was around ?and is it right for her to tell the husband that this is her house she can bring in anybody she likes or talk to ...

Am I an easy target because I am messed with so much?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - What is it with most men. Ive been messed around by my ex 4 two years dont know if he want me or not! Stupidly ive hung around cos i was in love. And yet hes been sleeping with other and me in between making his mind up! Ive not been with anyone! ...