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writes:This really isn't much of a question just really sharing my experience and what I have become out of it. I have been on this site daily just reading other posts and I figured if someone comes into the situation I was in I hope they can use this as a guide. A little over 4 months ago my ex girlfriend and I met through a mutual friend. We went on dates and hung out for a couple weeks maybe 2 or 3 then finally jumped into dating without really getting to know each other. Through this time we both have clicked very well, always got along never fought, we have a blast every time we see each other like there are things that only her and I do that most people would consider weird but thats just our inside jokes. We hit a rocky patch about 3 months into it and worked it out, it was something that I did and I proved to her I have fixed it and changed so we decided to get back together and give it another shot. Over the last month we have drifted from being boyfriend and girlfriend and loving each other to pretty much friends. All the cute lovey dovey stuff slowly came to a stop and eventually ended. I knew something was bothering her and as well with me so we had a very long talk about us, and the future. I some day want to have kids and she doesn't, the types of music we both like but I tend to listen to some music she hates. We both said yes we are acting like friends but we don't know why and after a couple times of hanging out and having a blast like we always do we've realized thats what we have grown into which is almost like best friends. We both really thought about it and how every thing in life happens for a reason and how we went from lovers to friends but we are both mutually okay with it. We even were talking about dating other people like she explained to me what kind of guy she wants and obviously im not really her type and I've understood that and same goes with her she isn't my type. Its the fact that we are only a couple days into this and we are okay with talking like friends. I admit for the both of us it is still very hard but it is getting better, we still say we wish we were meant to be together as boyfriend and girlfriend but the way every thing has come we are meant to be friends and obviously this isn't something that her and I could try to fix like me listening more or her being more affectionate to me. We agree that we are glad we dated and ended up like this because we have both brought the best out of each other and made us realize who we truly are so us dating was something great like if it didn't happen who knows what we would be doing or what we would be like. All in all this has been a wonderful experience granted we are still a bit sad and I know it will be hard but thats what time is for. I am very happy we both came to a mutual agreement and are both happy of the outcome. We did things in reverse order which was dated then became close friends atleast now I know she is my true friend and I will always love her like a friend. So with this experience I do feel like ex's can become friends and with this I am very satisfied with the outcome. Who knows maybe someday she will meet a great guy and date him and maybe he knows a single girl that I may meet and end up with. I hope there are other people who have experienced this, if there is any advice or comments please offer them. Thank You.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): So the advice you offer to potential qeustion posters is that you can be friends with an ex?
And maybe also that although things don't always go your way, and may be difficult at times, things happen for a reason? So try to see the good in things so that you can move on? Because you cannot always be with "that person..." and the more time you spend pining over him/her, the more time you are wasting.. because you could be doing something productive with your feelings?
Is that what you're saying? There are lots of points that can be made from. If you don't have a profile, then i would suggest creating one and turning this into an artical instead of a question that will pass from immediate veiw in a matter of hours.
THanks for the insight!
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