A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My wife and I have been together for eight years - since she was 19 and I was 20 - and we've been married three of those years. We have a beautiful son whom is five months old and my wife is pregnant again. We also have our respective and stable careers up and running and could not be happier.That is, until a month ago when my wife ran into her ex (her first love) at the elementary school she teaches at. For years, she had an Order for Protection against him because he repeatedly beat and raped her while they were dating. He also emotionally abused her on a daily basis and then decided to cheat on her (this all happened when they were 16-18). When she and I first met, I have to admit, she was a serious mess but I was patient and understanding.Anyhow, my wife told me that he was there to pick up his nephew and wanted to talk to her. She was very uncomfortable about it at first but then slightly relaxed because there were witnesses (students, parents, and her fellow teachers). Well, for some extremely odd reason, she decided to invite him over for dinner (this was a month ago) and he was okay company. All he did was talk about his airline pilot job and how great college was for him.And then about a week ago, we got this crazy news: He's decided to move in next door to us. The place has been on the market due to a foreclosure since the housing market started crashing and he apparently fell in love with the palce. My wife and I are now feeling rather uneasy about this and we're both wondering if we should move away without his knowing? Lay-overs and flights usually go for three to four days, right?There are no immediate threats coming from this guy, though, so my wife hasn't a reason to file for another Order for Protection. We're just not really sure what to do right now considering we have a kid and we're on our way to having another one. We want to protect our kids. What exactly should we do?
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reader, GoldenSovereign +, writes (28 April 2009):
If are in a finacial position to do it...MOVE. Keep your eyes and ears open and your mouths closed...let your dealings be done in secrecy. Also I'd be in serious prayer over this situation.
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