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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:my girlfriend of 1year has two kids(9 and 10). their dad is in prison.he wants my girlfriend to come visit him.She claims that him and her are best friends.the problem im having out of the situation is that I've been feeling disrespected by her kids father. He knows that me and her is together,so he will send letters to his kids saying when I get out im going to get back with mommy,or he will send letters to my girlfriend calling me everything but my birth name or he will ask my girlfriend to send him pictures of her self nude to the prison.(she doesn't respond to the letters ) I feel like he's using their kids to stay in contact with her. His mother is using the kids as an excuse to get her to see him. their kids are 9 and 10 years old I feel like their at the age where they can talk to him without her being around. my girlfriend doesn't seem to see where im coming from she's so hung up on still being friends with him and his family. so im thinking that she can't make everyone happy if she goes to visit him after he disrespect me i will be pissed . If she don't show up at the prison him and his famliy will be pissed. so I say just send the kids with his mother. if the kids is as important as everyone makes it there shouldnt be a problem. but if she doesn't come with the kids its a problem. I want her to end this we are still friend BS! do you think im wrong for telling her its going to be her friendship with him or the relationship with me?
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reader, peacex3 +, writes (29 April 2009):
I don't think you are wrong at all.
I understand that other guy is the father of her kids, but she is now with you & he has to respect that no matter what. It's wrong & VERY disrespectful for him to ask her for nude pictures & call you names. You should definitely sit down & have a serious talk with her. Let her know that although he is the father of her kids, you are now her partner & that guy has no reason to be acting so childish & disrespectful. EVERYONE including this guys family has to respect you & your relationship with your girlfriend.
I know this can be a hard situation, I have a male cousin that is going through the same thing.
I wish you the best of luck =]
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