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female
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anonymous
writes:My ex-boyfriend had a sex change recently, but I am still in love with him!!! Now that he is a woman, I feel like I am a lesbian, although I have never felt this way about a girl before. Should I have a sex change and become a man, and therefore theoretically become straight again, or what?! I am so confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): this happened to me when i was 28 so in the end i didnt do it and theres no point.
i am still happy with my husband turned wife and i could care what gender she was as long as i love them...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): If you've got the balls to go through with the operation, go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): I'm taking this with a pinch of salt... but sometimes people can have feelings on impulse.This could be a suspected hoax, but if it is genuine, then speak to a counsellor about it.I'm not sure we're that qualified to discuss it.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Do you want to be a man? It is not even an option unless you really really deeply desire it and suffer each day for being in the wrong body.
Sex changes are not given lightly.
Consider what your friend went through, it is not something people just do to get out of being called a lesbian.
If you love him/her then what really does the sex matter? No, you two can't have kids the traditional way, but aren't we in 2009 a little bit more advanced then thinking "I love this person but I wan't to be sexual orientation X".
Consider what it is about a person your love, what they got between their legs or who they are. If the last, then what does it matter what they got between their legs?
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Would they even want to be with a man? Just because he became a she does not men that she is straight. She may want to still be in a relationship with a woman, but just always felt like she was in the wrong body, hence the surgery.
It is not so easy to get a sex change operation. There is a lot of clinical screening that goes on, and any responsible doctor will also engage you in psychological therapy to ensure that you suffer from legitimate gender identity issues.
Also, a sex change is not reversible. Could you imagine becomming a man only for her to dump you because she loved you for who you were before?
She had gender identity issues. You just seem to have either moral confusion about sexual orientation, or jsut plain confusion about where you stand with her now that she is a woman.
You two sshould be in couples counseling to decide what you want from this relationship now. You should have been already.
I have to wonder at the validity of this question as well. Since a sex change operation is a process of hormone therapy that takes several years, you should already have known how you felt about it and started to come to terms about whether sexual orientation in traditional roles mattered to you or not. It's a little late in the game to have this question.
And you would probably be denied the surgery from any reputable doctor.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): THERAPY! You need to get yourself some professional counseling. Changing your sex so that you can keep up with your boyfriend who has decided he is a woman? Doesn't sound like a good idea off the bat...
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female
reader, pebble +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Yes, do it. Go for it. Tut.
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male
reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Ask you doctor about having a sex change.
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