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writes: My ex was the only guy i've ever loved. But he cheated and is a liar. We spoke recently after not talking since it ended (when i found his lies). he told me he misses me and wants to see me more. I'm never going back to him after he treated me! but i'm just feeling so sad and down about the whole thing. and just need to vent how i feel! Will i ever get over him? why couldn't i just fall for a decent guy? why am i so stuck on him?
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reader, sunny123  +, writes (27 April 2009):
You are obviously a strong person by saying that even though it hurts, you are not going back. Men like that think that they can behave however they like and there is no consequence, the g/f will always take them back.You deserve someone who will treat you as if you are the only person in the world whose happiness matters. Don't give up looking, he's out there! Spend time with friends, focus on yourself and your own dreams. Make the most of the positives of being single!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): It's brutal to be so open and honest with someone only to later find out that you were in love with nothing more than an idea.Know this- you WILL get over him. You are already doing what you know to be right by saying out loud that you will not go back to him. Say it out loud, a lot, because manipulators like him don't like to let go of the ones they could best manipulate, and he will likely continue this assault for awhile.I know it sounds lame, but take up a new hobby. Seriously. When you do something new, you open yourself up to a new group of people, you change your routine so that you don't run into so many of your 'usual people', and you become more interesting to others.When I was getting over my ex of a brutal 4 years of on-and-off, I took up running. The next time my ex saw me, it was harder on him than it was on me!
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