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Dating: Help and advice

I'm involved with my boyfriend, flirt with another guy I like, and make out with a girl who has a crush on me, drugs, bad grades and booze are my vices, help?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Im just a complete waster. I do my A levels, got predicted and got good grades last year, now i'm in my final year about to leave for uni and have done nothing but drink and take drugs to the point where i just cannot be bothered with my a levels ...

Why does he drag me along?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I will be forever indebted for a male/female perspective on this. I'm a 44 year old woman, the man i date is 48. He's in the Navy and nearing retirement. We met 5 months ago..neither of us knew what we were looking for. I've been divorced one year, ...

Loving & patient in bed, complete opposite otherwise!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - how can there be such a great contrast-- i've dated someone once who was on the surface, kind and sometimes genuinely understanding, we rarely if ever had a true fight (he never once instigated one, but was very passive aggressive i found), and wh...

How important is it that a girl is pretty?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 5659 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - i`m wondering how important it is that a girl is pretty? i`m a 17 year old girl, and i have never been in a relationship. i`m really ugly (people have called me man-face and so on) and fat, and have no selfesteam what so ever. i feel really alone, ...

He moved away and I think he might love me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5660 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Here are some of the background facts: He's in his early 20s and I am in my late 20s. He was a friend-of-a-friend who came onto me hard and heavy for a month or two, but then freaked out and ran the other direction for a couple of weeks, until I ...

He spends an hour on the phone with his female business associate, how do I deal with this monkey business?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - My b/f who is 8 yrs younger than me started texting this business associate on the night he worked the night shift, then I found out he has been calling her on evenigs before he reaches home, on morning after I left for work. I confronted him and he ...

Why does he want to know if my friends are fit?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend hasnt really met my friends yet but whenever i talk bout he always says to me are they fit? This hurts me. Why would he be bothered what they look like? He says cos he like to get an image of what they look like! One time when he was ...

I'm attracted to women, how do I tell him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5661 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - How do i tell my bf i fantasise about him sleeping with other women? Will he freak out? How will he also react if i were to tell him im bicurious and admire women the same as he does? i dont want to ruin the relationship and he runs a mile. Im ...

Fours years together, great sex before, now nothing, he's too tired, what is the problem here?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5661 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hey Everybody, I need some serious help, I have been with my bf for nearly four years and we just don't have sex anymore or we do its lucky if it once a year! Its that bad that it makes me think he is either cheating and getting it somewhere els...

She has hurt me 3 times, I still love her, friends say don't, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - I dated this girl for 4 years and we broke up in January. I was going to propose to her and I still love her. We started talking again in March and then she suddenly stopped. Well she got in touch with me just recently and acts like she wants to get ...

He is too involved with his best friend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - for few days my boyfriend is kind of avoiding me and getting too much involved with his best friend. we are in relation for past 3months n he is not so open with me n i dont have much to tell him every time we talk and his best friend is really open ...

We're on summer vacation, now and bf hardly ever texts me! What's happening?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 months. We are now on summer vacation and I won't get to see him as much. However he hasn't called or texted me. What should I do?...

He's a FWB and dating others! How do I distance myself emotionally?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5658 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hello all, I have been dating a man I met online for about 6 weeks. It turned into sort of a "friends with benefits" situation right away, which was fine with me. He was only four weeks out from a messy marriage separation and I knew our relatio...

We have nothing to talk about

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - hiya im 14 and i know i lied about my age but anyways ive been going out with my boyfriend for two weeks now and ive liked him for ages and we have went out before. but this time feels like we are girlfriend and boyfriend properly. we kiss and snog ...

He wants space and I want him back! Any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - hi...my boyfriend left me saying tat he needed space...and i still love him and i want to be with him..he says he also wants to be with me but at the same time he does not want to be with me..please tell me how should i get him back..!! i really ...

Do I dump my current bf and go for this other great guy? Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hi, I am a thirteen year old girl, in a relationship with a great guy and i really like him. But yesterday, one of my best friends told me that the boy i have had a crush on since i first met him likes me. This boy is so much like me, we have so m...

Is this cheating? Should I tell him? Please help!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5659 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I met someone and we spent about two-three weeks hanging out and eventually being intimate, then that person left to travel for a few months. During that time we spoke on the phone every day, and at one point sort of verified a commitment to one ...

Tips on what men like in bed....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Ok I have been with my boyfriend for a good while now and this is stupid but I figured I could get tips and advice here... So anyhow I was wanting to know what are somethings men like while in bed! Our sex life is wonderful and full of passion but I ...

I'm crazy paranoid...about everything!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hey... So I've been with my fiance for 2 years now and we have a one year old daughter... And we're happy, most of the time. The problem is that I'm crazy paranoid... about everything. HE dated a girl for 3 years before me and she's caused...

Worried what my parents will think of my older boyfriend when they want me to marry someone of their choice

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - i am 17 ie turning 18 in this july.i have a boyfriend who is 32.we are in this relationship for about last 5-6 months.i love him very much but i am worried about my parents.actually my parents want me to marry a guy of their choice.well i too know ...

Should I expect more than this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hi I have been down a bit for the past while over my boyfriends friends and family. I feel like I dont fit in with them no matter how hard I try. The friends are very laddy and sometimes dont say hello to me - they rarely ask how I am and usually ...

Is he cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Ok I been with this guy for almost 3years n I thnk he's cheating on me he did in the past and cuz he did it I did it bad cuz it hurt. But I think he is doing it again The reason why I say is cuz the past 2days he called me late n he said and yest...

He only wants me back now I'm dating other people!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - My ex bf broke up with me, but now he wants me back. He showed no interest in me for so long during our relationship and kept pushing me away etc, no matter how hard I tried to be a good gf to him. Then he broke it off and didnt speak to me again. ...

Is this guy a lost cause, destined to be an eternal bachelor?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I'm sick of thinking about this guy and I would like some advice on the situation! I have seen a guy a couple of times now and at first I was happy for it to be a bit of fun. But now I actually quite like him, but I have no idea on how he feels ...

Tempted to cheat 2 years into a relationship, is this normal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - i no you probably think I am being stupid, but I am such a worrier!! i have been tempted to cheat on my partner (a year ago)! has most people if not everyone in long term relationships been tempted to cheat at least once? and would this be something ...

Am I being used?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - hello, i really like this guy, i have just broken up with his best friend, and now even tho his best friend dumped me, my ex hates me. but his best freind is so nice to me, but only at certain moment, he only texts me or is nice to me when he wants ...

First steps as a gay female....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - im single. super single. have never been into a relationship before.. have quite a number of male suitors but am not interested in them! i think im gay, and i feel soo trapped. im tall with athletic body, decent looking, but have yet to attract any ...

We are planning our future together but he cant seem to get over his insecurities!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hi there, I need some advice..my boyfrend and I are considering getting married, we have a joint savings account, we have chosen a ring etc, however he goes through these stages where he feels insecure and not strong enough for me, he feels lik...

Is he messing me around?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - He says he wants us to just be friends as there is alot of baggage between us on either side, so i agreed not really wanting to as i like him alot, but we still text, email loads and he said he wants to meet me for a drink next week before i go on ...

I'm scared he will see me differently if he finds out my grades!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have become really close, and I trust him with everything except telling him my GPA. I know it sounds moronic but I go to a very good college where people are quite intense, and he's a pre-med near the top of the class. He al...

Troubles with my boyfriends family....we just need to get away from them!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5644 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, i dated this guy in 2005 for a year and a half, he went to America the last six months of our relationship and in that time, his father tried everything to break us up.. i never knew why.. and he got it right.. we broke up for a year ...

He starts his day by looking at other women!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hi, I am 24 and my bf is 25. We have been together for 10 months. 6 months into the relationship after he rejected my advances, I walked in on him getting off to porn. We have lived together for the whole 10 months we have been together and apa...

I really like him but I want more!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Met this guy 2 weeks ago and got on really well... we arranged to meet again after he returned from a week away on business, but he texted me and said work was manic, and really he could only give me good sex at the moment. B/c I really liked him I ...

Is it innapropriate?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5659 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, is it inappropriate/creepy for me, 20, telling a 14 year old girl (albeit mature), that i think she's beautiful and if i were younger, i would ask her out? opinions to be appreciated...

Am I still a virgin?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5659 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He is my first boyfriend. I am also a virgin. So I've always said I would not have sex until I was married. But more and more, it's getting harder between my boyfriend and I. Today, we were ...

Is it worth it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - hi everyone Three years ago my life fell to pieces. My grandparents, who played a very big part in my upbringing both died within 6 months of each other. My alcoholic abusive partner of 9 years went a step too far, finally admitting cheati...

I'm confused by the mixed signals!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - So, last night, my ex that I was with for 5 years came over to my house. He said he was coming over to help me forget at least for a little while about a friends death. He came over at around 10:00pm and left at around 2:00am. He did try to have sex ...

Should we stay together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend have only been together for about half a year, but already i feel like a boring old couple i see on tv and think.... how unlucky. as he is hardly ever home because he has a job on the other side of wales by his dad i never know ...

Am I in love too?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - we are on the same dormitory but diiferent rooms. we started hanging out until one day she wants to sleep beside me every night. i was used to it that she always sleeps besides me but then as months past by she told me that she don't want to ...

Does he love me and just not know how to tell me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Ive been seeing a guy for about 3 months, I have fallen in love with him, but he does not know. I think he feels the same way, but im not sure. He recently told me he was moving out of state for about 2 months to straighten out his life, when I told ...

Dating for five months but no sex yet!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5659 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for 5 months now and we haven’t had sex yet which isn’t exactly a bad thing but he always makes up some excuse like if my child wakes up or he drank too much or its too soon. We have had some foreplay but when I try to ...

I want to tell him that I like him, but I don't wanna ruin our friendship....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - i'm 15 in high school. ok theres this guy on my bus, and i really really like him. i never felt this way about anyone before. i just can't stop thinking about him. we talk and text and we're pretty good freinds. i told a couple of my friends that i ...

Can a guy really like you but never talk to you?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - There is this guy that I like. I've been told he likes me too, but I'm not convinced. We are both really shy. He stares at me a lot and when I see him he looks away really fast and pretends to be doing something else. When we pass each other in ...

Best love match for a libra?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I wonder,if anybody has any idea what is the best love match for a libra woman? I don't think it is very serious, but I did see a few times in life it seem to work. So ,if you really don't like this question, than I understand, but if you belie...

How reliable is this implant?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hi (: I've been with my boyfriend for well over a year; serious, stable relationship. I have the implanon implant in my arm - from about 6 months ago. We both want to have sex without a condom, because we're both happy and trust each other compl...

I feel my boyfriend is withdrawing from me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now and we are in love. But I feel like he is withdrawing from me. His mom is severally sick and he can not go see her she is in another country. So that is one thing that has him depressed. We ...