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Archived questions from: October, 2017 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I don't know if I should ask a colleague out

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2599 days ago

31 October 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 26 and have been single for around 7--8 months now since splitting with my gf of 3 yrs. I found that break up hard and I'm unsure if I want a new relationship. However I've only been with 2 girls in my whole life and I'm desperate to "get out there" and do more, meet more ... (306 words)

Cannabis killing our marriage

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2604 days ago

31 October 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been with my wife for 5 years and been great . A few months before the wedding my wife started smoking cannabis and it's now really effecting our marriage and relationships.. . What makes it worse is that I love her so much and I'm not emotionally strong enough. ... (89 words)

Should we end our friendship? We will never have our parent's blessing

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2604 days ago

31 October 2017 (M) age 30-35 - I like her and she likes me. We talk everyday. She checks all the boxes for wife material in my book. We are currently only friends and whenever we slip into flirting one of us pull back. We're of different religions. We will never have our families' blessing.I can't not ... (111 words)

How do I tell someone not to touch my boyfriend?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2603 days ago

31 October 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for almost two years. We have a good relationship, not much drama, we both prefer that way. He is introvert but in social situations he can have fun if he wants to. I'm an introvert who is socially shy and Don't have many friends to begin with. So w... (390 words)

I hate the person who I used to love for his std and promiscuity

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2605 days ago

31 October 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in love with my partner , we've been together for a year and a half, we've been through so much, specially at the beginning. The truth is, even though I thought I knew him ( we were friends for years before falling in love ) the fact is I did not. I rarely had seen him with ... (1087 words)

I think he has erectile dysfunction. Do I wait it out? Approach the subject?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

31 October 2017 (?) age 36-40 - I have started dating a new guy. We have not had intercourse yet. Dating for a few months but have done plenty of other stuff. I’m late 20s and he is in late 30s. When we first started fooling around I noticed he wasn’t really getting a full erection, very soft. I also think he ... (223 words)

I love my long term partner but feel a spark for a coworker!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2602 days ago

31 October 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, i'm in a situation i never thought i'd be and i need advice, because i can't talk about it with anyone..I'm in a longterm relationship (7 years). I love my partner, although i can't deny that our relationship is much of a rutine now. We live together, we have calm, steady ... (390 words)

My ex wants me permanently in the background and have a baby mother too!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2584 days ago

31 October 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - Im good frinds with my ex. We are very close. We broke up 5 yrs ago, but during those 5 yrs we have been sleeping with each other. We talked about getting back together and trying for a baby.... But I told him im not ready.He was ok with this... But now hes changed h... (256 words)

How can I stop thinking about this teacher?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

31 October 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - How do I get over thinking about a former teacher. I’m 21 years old and ten years ago, I had a huge crush on my teacher. Whenever I felt I needed to talk to someone he was always there. He was also the reason I became so close with my best friend because he partnered us up (my ... (183 words)

Am I asking too little of him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2569 days ago

31 October 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I have posted before and thankfully we solved a little issue in our relationship. This may be hella stupid for me to be resentful of how he treated his ex, but I kind of am. Idk how true this is, I'm only hearing his side of the story, but apparently he really spoiled his ex ... (195 words)

Should I tell my dad's new wife he's cheating on her?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2601 days ago

31 October 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - my dad is a horrible person and a big cheater. i recently caught my dad out cheating on his new wife. No mistake about it-it was a sad site. my dad has moved on and he has his own family--and his new wife has tried hard to be nice to us--even tho im avoiding her at the mome... (291 words)

He wants to propose and I'm just not ready!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2604 days ago

31 October 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years. Recently, he has been hinting A LOT that he wants to proposed. He also keeps asking me to find time for him to see my mom.. I know he wants to ask her. Any girl would be super happy... and I am happy... just, I'm not ready. I love ... (242 words)

Should I give it a week? Am I worrying too much for no good cause?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

31 October 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - I started chatting with this guy online on Thursday. I messaged him first and thankfully the messages have not stopped since and he has been the one to initiate conversation since the first message. I hate over thinking these situations but I am worried that he won't ask to ... (188 words)

I'm not being asked out by suitable men!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2599 days ago

30 October 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 31 and single. I've wanted to be married for years, maybe since 20. Part of that is my south Asian culture that puts a lot of importance on marriage and family. But I never had any substantial relationships. Over the years I've discovered things about me like how guys ... (423 words)

I broke up with my fiancé after 5 years together, she is begging me to come back!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

30 October 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, We live in one of the bigger cities on the West Coast. Met my ex-fiancee (wow, writing that still hurts) 5 years ago. I run a couple successful tech companies so for the last two years I've been traveling back and forth (spending together 60-70% of days maybe, tr... (1473 words)

My past has led me to hate sex, relationships and even the human touch

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

30 October 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - I hate sex, masturbation, porn and sex toys. I even despise human touch and being social, including relationships. I'm very happy being single being alone by myself, but my family and therapist pressures me to date and socialize, which angers me. I have been bullie... (144 words)

I'm dating someone who has a twin brother and when the brothers and the sister-in-law get together, they make me feel very left out

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

30 October 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been dating an identical twin for the last 4 years. We have been doing well except when it comes to spending time with his brother and his sister in law. When we are all together, I am always to one that is left out. I always get left out of conversations and often catch ... (151 words)

How do we settle on the temperature issue? My partner and I find it difficult to adjust to each other's preferences

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2608 days ago

30 October 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - It's a bit of a funny thing that is becoming not funny really fast. Me and my partner have vastly different temperatures at which we are comfortable. It's especially pronounced at nighttime, as the temperature that makes him feel OK-ish feels suffocating to me, I have trouble ... (271 words)

My husband is inefficient and forgetful. How do I deal wth him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

30 October 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband is inefficient, forgetful and I can’t count on him to get things done or remembering schedules. Any advice? Last week, he fixed something at work on Friday and spent the whole day playing games on Saturday. On Saturday evening we were supposed to attend an event ... (653 words)

My husband ordered diet pills for me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

29 October 2017 (F)

age - My husband ordered diet pills for me online without saying anything to me about it first. He said he just wanted to help me because he knows my weight bothers me. I don't know how exactly to feel about this am I wrong that him doing that bothers me more then my weight?... (55 words)

I need to give my wife an ultimatum... Get a better job or lose me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

29 October 2017 (M)

age 36-40 - my wife and i are in our mid 20's. we really want to get a house soon but i just dont think its in our budget at all. she has a 4yr degree at a top school and im a laborer. im making $25+/hr with no student loans and shes making $14/hr with $95,000 student loans which is a... (292 words)

Our 7 year relationship is in shambles. Is it over? Should I accept defeat?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2605 days ago

29 October 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been in a relationship for 7 years, and throughout the relationship we obviously had ups and downs like any other couple. However, one huge problem with us was that I had suffered some sexual trauma in my past which left it difficult for me to engage in sexual activities ... (644 words)

Am I seeing something that isn’t there and maybe she is just making excuses so I won’t hate her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

29 October 2017 (M)

age 51-59 - After about 4 years my girlfriend and I broke up. It wasn’t one that I wanted at all as I was ready to purpose She has distanced herself but not totally as we still have some contact I have informed her that I am moving and we are supposed to meet to say goodbye. This is ... (362 words)

I suffer from social anxiety and it bothers me that he leaves me alone with his mother!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

29 October 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in the best relationship I have been in, but there is one little issue... My boyfriend is 24 (I am 22). He is German and I often travel to Germany to be with him, usually staying 1-3 months at a time. The rest of the time I travel a lot for work, usually for 2-3 months a... (305 words)

Why did he say he was disappointed?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

29 October 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - I played a little joke on a sort of friend, who I deep down fancy, but haven’t told him.. On a hook up app their profile popped up so I messaged them sent them a few funny pics of people, told them I know them and that to find out who I am they have to play along. I ended u... (249 words)

Why have I started despising my married lover?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

29 October 2017 (F) age 51-59 - Is it normal for the other woman to start hating or resenting the married man she's been seeing for a while? How does it go from him being able to do no wrong to thinking less of him over time? So, from love to hate? Seems like such a drop in her feelings and thoughts. Does thi... (62 words)

We are falling out of love and I don't know what to do

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

29 October 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - After being attached to his phone the TV and napping all day I asked my husband if he would spend some time with me. He suggested we have friends over I replied I would rather spend the night with just you since we haven't had a night alone in a while. He got all bent out of ... (290 words)

Do I tell my son she's cheating?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2579 days ago

29 October 2017 (F)

age 51-59 - My son's wife is cheating on him. Both she and my son are 29 and have been together for just over 9 years. I received an e-mail about 4 years ago from someone who has sent me evidence that she has been cheating on him for the past 5 or 6 years with his BFF. I've had th... (149 words)

Still not comfortable with my sexuality

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

29 October 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey all! Forgive me from the beginning if I am over graphical! I've known, and accepted that I am attractive to my own gender in a sexual way for years now. I identify as bisexual, but in private. Anyway I really come with 2 separate questions. I cannot picture myself with a h... (240 words)

Concerned about my mental state

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

28 October 2017 (M) age 30-35 - I have a big problem. My personality has changed a lot since I was a boy. I used to be a humble kid. But now when I get home after any kind of social interaction, and think about how I behaved and what people's reactions to were to things I said n did, I can't help but feel ... (415 words)

I'm interested in a separated man but don't like some of his actions. Advice?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

28 October 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I recently joined a dating site, and I found someone I know, I actually was at his wedding. But his currently separated from his wife of 2 years and has 2 kids with her. At first I contacted him and told him that I know him and that I was at his wedding. He asked me if ... (425 words)

I have nowhere else to live my mother and stepfather have offered me to live with them but my stepfather is a nudist and walks around naked most of the time!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

28 October 2017 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am a 44 year old single woman (and a virgin) and have nowhere to live because of various events in the past 2 years. However I am welcome to live with my mother and step dad, who are generous and considerate generally speaking. However my step dad is a naturist ... (139 words)

Girlfriend lost feelings for me - is it her depression?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

28 October 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I will try and be informative but brief! Myself and my partner (now ex) couldn’t be more perfect for each other. We were together just under a year and our relationship was great. We rarely argued or fell out and for... (1535 words)

Why would he say "I love you" if he has no intention of changing his life for you?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

28 October 2017 (F) age 41-50 - If a married man you've been involved in a long term relationship with tells you he loves you, could he really mean it, even if he will never leave his wife to be with you? It's a terrible predicament to be in when you realize you now love this man and would miss him for the... (138 words)

Has my husband gone off me

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

28 October 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello I have a problem with my husband never wanting sex anymore we have been together 6 years and married just over a year ago and now have two children together.in the beginning we were sex maniacs and he couldn't get enough of me now he never wants to i think he's going off ... (95 words)

A guy keeps sending me mixed signals.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

28 October 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Last month I met a guy, he's a friend's(F1) friend's(F2) friend.. We were a few girls and him. We had dinner and drank alcohol so we were all kinda drunk. F1 would continuously tell me that she feels like this guy is coming on to me really strongly so she would intentionally ... (811 words)

Fantasizing about older men. Is it normal?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

28 October 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello. I just have a simple question. Is it wrong for me to fantasize (daydream, or think..) about dating an older guy? Like five to ten years older than me? I already am dating and my boyfriend is three years older than me. I am 21 years old. I don’t want to cheat or anything ... (57 words)

Why did this woman pass such a comment on my 'almost' boyfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

28 October 2017 (F) age 41-50 - Hello. I'm a fitness model and I train at a studio with my friend who is also my trainer. We've just got involved together outside a business relationship. There's this other girl who he also trains. She's been with him almost as long as I have. The other day she was at t... (209 words)

Boyfriend says his phone was hacked. I don't believe him.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

28 October 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently found pictures of my significant other in his phone along with seeing him on website called backpage. I viewed his history and found him looking up girls in different areas. He denied taking those pictures in my bed from not even less then a month ago, along with his ... (73 words)

How do I tell my online guy friend that I won't be able to keep talking to him every night when I move in with my boyfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

27 October 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - So to give you a little bit of context - I've been talking with this guy over the phone for a little over a year (we met online) - Let's call him James. He lives in the US and I am in Canada. We used to talk dirty to each other over the phone during that time, but in the past 5 ... (431 words)

Why doesn't my mother believe what I am telling her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

27 October 2017 (M)

age 36-40 - I''m a male who has aspergers syndrome, something I had when I was born which is considered a form of brain damage, ive had some form of therapies to help and been to doctors, my parents are at the end of their tether with me. I forget things and I'm not as bright or as cleve... (277 words)

I have unresolved feelings about my wife cheating

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

27 October 2017 (M)

age 51-59 - Like most guys I know, its not the easiest thing to talk about feelings. I have been struggling with this for a while and has grown more and more to bother me. Hate to divulge that my wife cheated about a year ago but its part of the thorn. She says nothing happened... (172 words)

My ex apologized but she never really said she was at fault

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2608 days ago

27 October 2017 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi cupid, my ex apologised to me which is a rare occasion. After 2 years since we broke up, one line she said really triggered me... I read her apology and as soon as i saw the line "i dont want any drama" i snapped. This was a girl i really cared for but she constantly kept ... (122 words)

Can I believe him after just 2 months?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

27 October 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - I am from Palestine and currently living in Jordan. so I met a turkish guy at a resort 2 months ago, and we started talking and liked each other, and I kept talking to him even after going back to palestine. He then started telling me that he wants to marry me and I honestly ... (139 words)

How do I end a FWB relationship and just be friends?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

27 October 2017 (F)

age 22-25 - How do I end a friends with benefits thing? I'm 18 and he's 21 and we were friends for about a year and a half before we started sleeping together basically, and he took my virginity. There was a point before we had sex where I thought I had feelings for him, but I think I was ... (355 words)

How do I explain to my fiance that I want to go out dressed up as a female without hurting her feelings?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

27 October 2017 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm engaged to a wonderful girl. I've always considered myself a female in my heart. I have been crossdressing secretly in the past but I can't anymore. I really want to go out and be feminine once in a while. I explained my fiancee my situation. I was very clear I'm not ... (145 words)

My husband doesn't trust that I love him. Its getting old

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2611 days ago

27 October 2017 (F) age - i grew up with my husband as teenagers when we were 16 he moved away.i never saw him for about 37 years , we both had spouses and children but seperated, when we met after all those years we fell for each other very quick got married 3 1/2 years later been together 4 1/2 years ... (230 words)

What is my best course to date my cousin?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

27 October 2017 (M)

age 26-29 - I’m in love with my cousin. We haven’t seen each other in 3 years her mom is my aunt and she has been going through a custody battle but she finally won. Anyway, when we were younger we would swim together and I was ten she was 9 and she would flash me her pussy and I would ... (131 words)

Is it wrong if I want to be a housewife and not work for a living?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

27 October 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi , is it wrong to wants to be housewife? I want to get marry and want to have kids. I don’t think I will be able to work. Since, I am taking care of my elderly mom and I am going to have kids as well. I want to be housewife. Is it wrong to think like that. If no then what’s ... (78 words)

How can I live down my mistakes?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2611 days ago

27 October 2017 (M)

age 51-59 - My wife is upset with me due to my past mistakes that I didn't remember??? I love my wife! My family and my friends have told her about my past mistakes and she won't let me live those mistakes down! I have also lied to her about some of my past, but I admitted to those lies! ... (98 words)