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writes:How wrong would it be to have an abortion without my husband's knowledge? He is completely against abortion, but we have a 5 month old baby and I don't want anymore kids now. I misused my new birth control pills accidentally. He doesn't know that I may be pregnant.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (26 January 2012):
Check if you are pregnant first and then decide. Surprise him with the news and tell him you will need a nanny, a new car and a bigger house. He may suggest termination himself! Terminations of pregnancies is no big deal and usually allows the people involved to be happier and go on to have more children than they probably would have. I had strong prolife beliefs until my girlfriend got accidentally pregnant.
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reader, Mariab  +, writes (26 January 2012):
 I think if you had to abort his child and NOT tell him...there is no greater deceit! If he found out... your relationship would never be the same again! Ever! You have to talk to the guy! Good luck hun xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2012): hey, my friend was in a similar situation. She confirmed she was pregnant then told her husband, who was unsure at first but became very excited after a few days. However, she didn't want the baby. She had a medical abortion (by taking a tablet from a Dr) at 8 wks, told her husband she miscarried. He was relieved.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (26 January 2012):
 Before you torment yourself with this question you should first confirm you are pregnant. THEN come and talk to us. That way we're dealing in facts instead of maybes.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (26 January 2012):
 Before jumping to conclusions make sure you are pregnant. Misuse of the pill WILL mess up your cycle, so check first.
Then you should tell him. You don't have to listen to him or have it or anything like that, but you should tell him. He doesn't get control of your uterus or your life, but he is your husband and there's no point in having a partner if you can't discuss these kinds of things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2012): Alot of women think of the baby as "their" baby, when it actually isn't all theirs. Your husband has just as much DNA in that baby as you do, so you owe it to him and your baby to tell him.
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reader, babyparis +, writes (26 January 2012):
 I think you should let him know and talk things through, let him know how you feel about the situation...
I hope everything work out for you two...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2012): Ensure you are pregnant First.
If you are, then inform your Husband. The Title Husband means you love, honour him and go to him with anything, especially pregnancy.
Then seek counselling together to come to a solution you will both be comfortable, happy and have peace even years from now.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (26 January 2012):
 It's probably the most despicable thing you could do to someone. Keeping this type of a secret would guarantee a divorce if he found out. What you're suggesting is so manipulative and out of line there is no way he could ever forgive you and no one would blame him.
Tell him that you may be pregnant. If you are, decide on what to do. If you want an abortion, he will have to accept your decision, or leave you because of it. That's his choice and as humans we should have that choice. But for you to get an abortion and hide it from him for rest of your life BECAUSE of his anti-abortion stance is the worst option you could ever choose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2012): yes it is. its a joint effort and he should get a say, imagine him findingnout in a few months/years.. he would never forgive you!
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