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writes:ok so i'm quite upset and I don't know what to do. I kinda got into a fight with my best friend. Last night he called me because he was really depressed and I was trying to get his mind off of things well he just starts to attack me saying that I cared too much for and a that I was selfish because I "care only about not losing him, and I never focus on what he's going through." which is kinda true but he never tells me the whole story. And then he was like "all you say to me is that i'm special,it does't mean anymore." (theres a lot more, by the end of the talk I was crying) he's been saying he doesn't care abaout me anymore that i'm nothing.And today he made me maed because i was going to change my school schedule for him, so we could be in a class together.(he kept begging me,and he's changing his schedule as well) well today I told him I couldn't and he was like "well I guess we won't see each other during the day then." (which is really stupid cause he could if he really wanted to.)which really made me mad, I told him I had to go,a dn he asked why. before I could answer he hung up the phone. I feel like such a bad terrible person, i'm so selfish! All I want to do is pick up the phone right now, i do really care about him but he's breaking my heart.(the whole caring too much thing) What should I do? give him time to come around or talk to him tomorrow? please help..
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 You want my honest opinion? I hope you do because here it comes!
Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle, in the left column write down all the postitive things this boy brings to your life, in the right, all the negativity and stress.
If the good column far outweighs the bad pick up the phone and tell him that because you can't change your schedule to suit him, you are quitting school so you are available when he needs you.
If the bad column outweighs the good, dry your eyes, remind yourself of the old adage, with friends like him who needs enemies .... have a good night's sleep and tomorrow go find him and tell him to his face you don't need prima donna's like him trying to rule your life!
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