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writes: I met this guy online, he travelled miles to meet me and now that he's near, we only went on two dates and he went up north to join a course for three weeks. He emailed me saying he was sorry he didn't keep in touch (for a week) saying he had probs, but promised to spend more time with me once he's back to the capital city where I live. Am I his plan B, is he really keeping me on the backburner, given that I did email him back saying that I'm up for a third meeting once he's back. I think I'm showing enough interest, but he lost interest in me especially after I paid for our second date! I know, I may have done a hash of things, but trust me I showed enough yet maintained the hard to get game. Am I sending mixed signals or is he just not into me?! Help please and what should I do once he's back. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies, folks. No, I did not have sex with him and will not any time soon. I have to wait at least two months to get to know him better, before I lower my guard. He suggested and third date once he's back in town, and I might just go out with him and confront him or try a direct approach with him once I see him in person, but I'm not planning of giving him a phone call before he does and besides he already knows that I'm not a phone person and I don't like talking to him on the phone. That I made very clear, it might have upset things and frustrated him but at the same time, I wanted to see how confident/serious is he. Thanks again.
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reader, SonOfMan  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 I think if you are that frustrated about it and want answers then talk to him. Contact him and you him how interested you are and see what his reaction is.
With some guys you could wait a lifetime and not get a straight answer. If you think you are being taken for a ride or being used then let it go and move on.
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reader, Probablylucy  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 Hmm. the 'is he interested' question is always a tricky one. Some men are simple. They seem baffled by the 'hard to get' game and would much prefer a woman to say 'I like you. Lets spend more time together'. However, it could be the case that you might be his 'plan B'. Either way, I think seeing him wont be such a bad thing, has he agreed to see you again? if he does agree, then make a go of it, if he doesnt, i'd suggest to give it up as a bad job. You want someone who really wants you, the kind of guy who would do anything to go out on a date with you. Not someone who is half-hearted and disinterested. There is a guy out there for you, and he's probabaly just around the corner. However, this guy might be 'that guy' he just might be a little confused about the situation, have you tried the 'confident' approach? you could simply ask him directly how he feels about the situation between you two. sometimes its good to be a little assertive!!
All the best!! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): Did you have sex with him?
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