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... Send *tayc63088 a private message | | | *tayc63088's profile:My name is Stacey. I've been on this site for years. I come and go at times depending on how busy life is.
I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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This is the BEST and WORST situation EVER!!
Q. Ok, last year my dad met a woman...She is a really nice woman and I have no problem whatsoever with her. And they moved in with is. She has a daughter 1 year younger than me, and she is pretty much drop dead gorgeous. My dad and her mom are not ...
A. 26 April 2008: It is kind of sweet. You did not grow up with this girl and she is not even technically your step-sister so don't feel bad at all. Explain to your father that you like her a lot to find out what he thinks. Why would he freak out on you? If you think ... (read in full...)
I feel like having a threesome would be my boyfriend's excuse to cheat! Is it?
Q. hi all i have a question that is bugging the crap out of me! ok my boyfriend really wants a three way but i dont because i dont want all of his attention to be directed to someone else is that to selfish because ive had a three way but the last one ...
A. 26 April 2008: Not sure if it is his excuse to cheat but if you have low self esteem you absolutely should NOT do this. Even the most confident of women could break down watching their boyfriend have sex with another woman. I can't imagine it. Like the previous ... (read in full...)
SITE VIDEO: April 2008 video from Andrew
Q. Been a while since we had a video update. Anyone interested in being able to post their replies to the site as YouTube videos??...
A. 26 April 2008: Ooo that would be very cool. I would love to do that after I practiced my response and tried not to get angry about it. I'm not sure how to do it but if there was a tutorial or a -click here to make a video- button it would be great ! I do have a ... (read in full...)
My friend was raped yesterday and I need some advice.
Q. My friend is 16 and she got raped yesterday. we were at a party with friends only and she drank quite a lot, and fell asleep. I then left the party because I had other responsiblity, and so I left her with my other friends, who i trusted. Today ...
A. 23 April 2008: Very very few people are raped and not affected by it. I don't know of any. I am not trying to scare you I am just telling you that her talking to you will not help her in the long run. She needs to speak with a professional. Besides look at how ... (read in full...)
My younger boyfriend has cheated and insults me, what should I do?
Q. i and my honey have been together for almost 2 years. i really love him so much even if he is younger than me. last november he cheated on me and said sorry for that and i did coz i was in love with him but know i am tired of him specially after i ...
A. 21 April 2008: Come on... What is it you are asking. You know you need to leave him. You did not mention one thing you even like about the guy! You are tired of him because he was cheating on you, for 3 months... Are you sure you even love him or is it the -being ... (read in full...)
Can he still treat me well if he doesn't believe in God?
Q. Ok my question is what do you do if you have this guy that treats you really great but he don't believe in god and that's really important to you and that he don't have a car or cell phone or job but he lives at home and he's going to be going to ...
A. 21 April 2008: You should love him for who he is. Can he still treat you well if he doesn't believe in God...? Seriously? Yes, he can. Believing in God does not make you treat someone better. You should not judge him on his beliefs. If it is such an issue then you ... (read in full...)
First day at high school soon. Where should I sit at lunch?
Q. Next year I'll be going to a new high school. I don't know anyone else who's going there. I'm kind of shy and I don't know where to sit at lunch on the first day. When I was in kindergarten, we only went for half of the day and didn't have lunch, ...
A. 21 April 2008: Sit with someone from your class you have lunch in. That is what I did, befriended a nice girl in my class and just sat at her table at lunch. I did it quite a few years when my friends and I didn't have lunch at the same time. If nothing else sit ... (read in full...)
Should he stay a virgin?
Q. Hi all, I find it really disturbing that one of our Aunts (WE ALL KNOW WHO) is ranting and raving over religion. He is clearly very disturbed, and should anyone that has such extreme views be giving advice? We are all entitled to believe in w...
A. 21 April 2008: I agree he has a right to believe what he wants, it is when he starts insulting everyone that gets me. Living his life in the way he does does not make him any better than anyone else as he seems to think. And emailing me saying I have no morals and ... (read in full...)
Did I rape her? She told me "no" in her usual playful way only half-way through the act(?)
Q. Me and my gf split 3 months ago but we had sex 3 days ago we both wanted it and i woke up 2 her the next morning she was crying saying that i had raped her she never told me to stop untill half way through and it was in her playful way the way she ...
A. 20 April 2008: Most likely she did it and now regrets what she has done. Like when some girls say the guy took advantage when clearly she wanted it too (not in all cases). Technically though if the girl says no, it means no and you stop. I don't know how strong ... (read in full...)
I sometimes regret breaking up with my ex and think that maybe I have lost my true love
Q. I was once engaged about seven years ago to wonderful handsome man who treated me like a princess. I broke off the engagment as I feel that i wasan't ready for marriage and I didn't feel that I loved him. After we broke up I found out that my ex ...
A. 20 April 2008: You need to see how lucky you are that you broke off this engangement. He was cheating on you and was not a great guy and I doubt he is your true love. You have no reason to regret what you did, thank god you didn't marry someone who had been ... (read in full...)
Any home treatment for Breast Enlargement (maybe a massage oil)?
Q. Any home treatment for Breast Enlargement or any oil available for breast massage reagarding the same ...
A. 20 April 2008: Totally agree with last 2 posters 100%. Love yourself! You do not need large breasts. And no oils or massages will make them grow, only breast implants. Oh the pressure girls can feel to have large breasts... Be happy with yourself. If you want big ... (read in full...)
Why are guys so obsessed with breasts?
Q. Why are guys so obsessed with breasts? It's unfair! I see so much naked boobs online, and the obsession with whose cleavage is hotter, this and that, and I feel inadequate! In a normal day I feel that my breasts look pretty, but then all this ...
A. 20 April 2008: Oh no, do not feel bad about your body. Listen to what you are saying, girls gone wild (no self respect, it makes me sick) and people who get surgery to look better, these are not real people. They care only about their looks and it is very sad. ... (read in full...)
My friend was raped yesterday and I need some advice.
Q. My friend is 16 and she got raped yesterday. we were at a party with friends only and she drank quite a lot, and fell asleep. I then left the party because I had other responsiblity, and so I left her with my other friends, who i trusted. Today ...
A. 20 April 2008: You may lose her as a friend this way but I would tell her parents. This is just my opinion. She will regret not going to the police for the rest of her life. These "friends" of hers will not matter to her years from now, remind her of this. Tell ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and filled with hate and regret because of my immaturity. How can I sort this all out?
Q. Hey again, I'm 15, and I am immature for my age. I hate myself for it. It fills me to the brim with regret and hate. It is making me a loner, I can't help it. I try to act my age but it seems impossible. Is there anything I can do to 'sort' this?...
A. 20 April 2008: 15 is immature. And nothing against males but they do tend to mature later, most anyway from what I know. There is nothing to worry about or hate yourself over. Well what do you consider to be immature? Things you say are immature? What you need to ... (read in full...)
The way he replied to my joke makes me wonder if I'm just a "pal". What do you think?
Q. I send him a joke, and he just replied. "Funny Stuff. How are things down there?" I live in a state south from where he is. We haven't communicate that much lately, so he sending that note to me makes me wonder if it's a light way of him wanting to ...
A. 20 April 2008: To me it just sounds like he wanted to know how you were. You are over-analyzing to the extreme. But what is your question really, if he likes you? That just sounds like normal conversation. I don't know if he likes you or thinks of you as a friend, ... (read in full...)
I'm not shallow but she wants to wait to have sex....that could be years!
Q. I'm in a bit of a pickle right now and I could use some advice. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about six months now. And we started talking about how we feel about sex. She told me she wants to wait until marriage and I'm fine with ...
A. 20 April 2008: If that is what your girlfriend wants and you love her then you should respect her decision. I don't think you do have a reason to be upset at all. You told her you do not mind waiting for her, which is the right thing to do. But to get upset about ... (read in full...)
I am bi-curious...how do I approach my best friend about having sex?
Q. So i think that I am bi Curiouse and i would love to have sex with my best friend but im not sure if he would be into it to give you some background on the situation about a year ago we got drunk and got naked and just masturbated together and ...
A. 19 April 2008: Uh.. he's not straight that's for sure. You think a straight guy who wasn't interested in you would let you give him oral? Or let you jack him off? Definitely bi or gay. You have done all that I don't see how crazy it would be for him to have sex ... (read in full...)
In a long distance relation, how to cope with the distance at our young age?
Q. i have a boyfrined and (yes i know i am young for my age to have a bf) but the distance is killing im in (i am going to use other states not my or my bf's actual state) new york and he is all the way in florida the distance is killing us what should ...
A. 19 April 2008: Internet dating actually can work, I just read Dr Vendetta's post. My neighbor met a woman online who lived in Austrailia and they talked for a year then she moved here and now they are married. And a few other people I know have met someone online ... (read in full...)
Why can't I stay pregnant?
Q. hi all i need help ok ive been trying to get pregnant since september of last year and ive been pregnant but miscarried and i was devastated. now i think that i cant even get pregnant because of my past medical history i had cancer when i was 7 i ...
A. 19 April 2008: You have to see an obstetrician and get blood work done etc. My sister has been having miscarriages and has been unable to get pregnant for years now. She has just now got the blood work done. They will be able to tell you what, if anything, is ... (read in full...)
Am I a minority here?
Q. Am i in the minority here? I get bored of men after a few months. We can email, meet up, text and i keep them at arms length, and then, i just get bored. Everything stops. No more emails, i send a couple of texts when i have nothing else to ...
A. 19 April 2008: No, nothing is wrong with you. You just haven't found the right one yet. I don't know if that is because they are all older men, maybe the intelligent, mature type bore you? It is very possible. Sometimes it is what girls think they want but really ... (read in full...)
Attracted to my little sister but I don't think it's wrong!
Q. So I am attracted to my little sister and I don't think it is wrong. i always have an erection around her and we are home alone a lot. she is just too sexy to ignore. i want to have sex with her but i don't think she wants it with me. if i can't ...
A. 19 April 2008: Uh... Get some help... No one on here can help you out. You need real psychiatric help. You do not think it is wrong? I don't even... There are not words I can say to help you out... I'm just going to be honest, it's pretty messed and very wrong. ... (read in full...)
Should we call it quits if he's not sure if we should move in together?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years i'm moving out in January and he still doesnt know if we're ready to live together? If he's still unsure after two years do you think we should call it quits?? Thanks!...
A. 19 April 2008: Not necessarily. Have you asked him why? Does he think it is too soon? Some people just take longer to make huge steps like that. He may be one who takes forever to finally propose. If it bothers you so much then you might should leave him. Or you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants our relationship to be a "secret"! Why?
Q. my boyfriend told me that he wants our relationship secret because i am not style and because its not the right time yet, he said it is ok to show it and let other people know our relationship when he already retire in managing his own company....i ...
A. 19 April 2008: There is no telling why, but you need to leave him. It may be that he is trying to see other women, maybe there is something about you he is embarrassed about- I really doubt that is it unless he is a total prick. It hurts you so you are unhappy. It ... (read in full...)
Should I hang on to my online guy?
Q. Hello. I will be as short as I can. I am pretty much a loner, apart from a few acquaintances, my problem is that I don't like any of these people. I have had an online relationship with a guy for about three years, and I am now holding onto thi...
A. 19 April 2008: It has become depressing. That is all you need to know to know you need to be out of the relationship. Online relationships are extremely hard. I'm guessing the depressing factor is that you can't meet for another 3 years and you feel all you have ... (read in full...)
Advice on my bob hairstyle?
Q. hey all i was just lookin for some advice i have a bob hairstyle.. its like as short aas victoria beckhams and that very style..but is there anything else i can so with it apart from keep it straight an bob like? i fancy a change but not a huge on...
A. 19 April 2008: My friend has that haircut. Sometimes she won't straighten it and it gets a little wavy but basically it looks the same no matter what. If you like to change you hair a lot then it may not be for you. If you like easy to manage hair it may be ... (read in full...)
Is he being a baby or am I just insensitive?
Q. My boyfriend and I got into a fight over how many roomates to have when we move out into an apartment. He was saying something about having multiple roomates after I already told him numerous times that I didnt like that idea. Well today he ...
A. 19 April 2008: Sounds like you may be being insensitive to me. Although I can understand you getting annoyed since you have already said you don't like the idea and he keeps bringing it up anyway. Apologize to him and hear him out on his idea. If you still don't ... (read in full...)
Is this due to low self esteem or could I be gay?
Q. I am a woman and at 23 I am still a virgin. I have had boyfriends in the past but found it hard to be intimate. I am attracted to men but I am sexually attracted to women. is this due to low self esteem or could I be gay? I need help!...
A. 19 April 2008: Low self esteem will not make you sexually attracted to women. Are you attracted to men sexually or are you just able to say "oh he's handsome"? Do you ever imagine or fantasize about having sex with a man? Do you want to date a female? What were ... (read in full...)
Ok to use something like certain dry even if you are not diagnosed with a condition such as axillary hyperhidrosis?
Q. hey i DONT have mega sweating problems and dont sweat an awful lot, however no deodorants seem to work on me. I asked about this a cou[ple of months ago and was advised by several to get certain dri anti-perspirant. i am only just getting round ...
A. 19 April 2008: Never heard of certain dry but there is Secret Clinical Strength, Degree Clinical Strength, and another one I can't place the name of. They work very very well for people who feel they sweat more than average. I'm sure the people who posted before ... (read in full...)
How do I know what colours suit me?
Q. i am the ty[e of girl who only wears black, grey, white clothes.. im not a goth or nything.. i just dint think colour suites me.. i really want to wear colour tho.. how do i know what colours suit me?...
A. 18 April 2008: I think a lot depends on hair and skin color. My sister is a blonde and tan and looks great in black, not in all black but a nice black shirt. White, orange, or anything bright also looks good on her. I am not tan and have a somewhat dark shade of ... (read in full...)
In a long distance relation, how to cope with the distance at our young age?
Q. i have a boyfrined and (yes i know i am young for my age to have a bf) but the distance is killing im in (i am going to use other states not my or my bf's actual state) new york and he is all the way in florida the distance is killing us what should ...
A. 18 April 2008: Long distance is very hard. I've been in 2 long distance relationships so I know this. Me being on the southern east coast and him being all the way across the country and another time a boy who was in the north-west. It is hard. Most of the time if ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of the mindset that somebody I can't be with is "the one" for me?
Q. How do I get out of the mindset that somebody I can't be with is "the one" for me? I was dumped by this girl a year ago now, due to problems in our relationship we couldn't overcome. i.e. We went to different uni's, and so she let distance become a ...
A. 16 April 2008: No it is quite normal. Or if it is abnormal, I am right there with you. It had been over a year for me and I wasn't over my ex. I would see his name on things or hear our song on the radio and swear it was a sign we were meant to be. I cried too. He ... (read in full...)
Any tips for me on how to approach him?
Q. I'm a jr. in high school. I'm on the softball team as well as other clubs. I have a lot of good friends. But I have trouble when it comes to guys. They never seem to work out for whatever reason. I like a sr. guy Andrew. He is very attractive....
A. 16 April 2008: Well unless he tells you or really makes it obvious that he does, you probably won't know he likes you. Going to his game and going out to eat after as I mentioned before is a good idea and doesn't have to mean a date. Of course for you you would ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 16 April 2008: Also, Dr Pete had an amazing answer I just read. I agree 100%. ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 16 April 2008: EXCUSE ME? I do not have morals and standards because I am not delusional and wait until I am married and spend my life with someone I care nothing about just so I am not sinning? Are you kidding me? Do you realize you can have morals and standards ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but I'm not so sure. Can you help?
Q. Hi, i have been with my boyfrind for almost 4 years now, we just moved in together, in to our own apartment. He says he loves me, and he shows me i am everything, but i know he still talks to other girls, and that he is a very big flirt. Does this...
A. 15 April 2008: Some guys are overly flirtatious and have a lot of girl friends. Some girls are the same way. I wouldn't say he doesn't care, not that I know him, just going from what you are saying. Sounds like an insecurity issue with you. If it helps, I do know ... (read in full...)
I just want to be his friend, I don't want a relationship with him.
Q. Hi to all. I've been talking through the phone with this old college male friend lately. We live thousands of miles away. We are currently both single. I'm happy talking to him because he always speaks highly of me and he is a good friend. It's l...
A. 15 April 2008: I have been in your exact predicament. Loving to talk to him cause it makes you feel good to have someone who tells you how great you are etc. The worst? When they say "I love you" and you just have to sit in silence... quite awkward. Luckily you ... (read in full...)
Still in love and can't understand why...?
Q. I have not been in a relationship for over a year now, however, I am still in love and I don't see this changing. I've tried everything--seeing new people, being friends with my love, completely avoiding him, envolving myself in my passions--and it ...
A. 15 April 2008: There is your answer. You do not have closure. You did not get the "why". How can you get over something when you have no idea why it ended? It's near impossible. You need closure. Then lots of time. Ask him why now. Ask him if he thinks you will ... (read in full...)
Any advice on our first kiss?
Q. I'm going to have a first kiss....for both me and my b....hwo hsould i go about it? And what kind of kiss?...
A. 15 April 2008: This probably won't help you but it's the absolute truth, you just learn when it happens. Planning something that is supposed to be romantic and impulsive will ruin the moment. Trust me, I was beyond nervous about my first kiss. Will it be romantic, ... (read in full...)
Are there any long term side effect from anal sex?
Q. Hi Over the past few months my partner and i have tried anal sex. At first she was against it, but now likes it and enjoy the change. she is concerned if there is any long term side affect from doing it that way and if so what...
A. 15 April 2008: Alright, I have never had anal sex before, so I looked this up for you. The main problem in dealing with anal sex is the higher risk in transmitting sexually transmitted diseases. Always use a condom. Also, do not go from anal to mouth, aside from ... (read in full...)
My boyfrind might be gay! What am I going to do? Can I make him straight?
Q. Im so worried My Boy Friends Gay, Im his first GirlFriend and he always used to get teased and called gay, and resently he told me hes not so sure him self! I dont know what to do! he says he loves me, but if he was gay i dont know how id cope ...
A. 15 April 2008: No you cannot "turn him straight". Think about it this way, could someone turn you gay? Could you just start to have sexual feelings for females? Most likely your answer is no. I don't know what other people believe and I'm not here to call anyone ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 15 April 2008: I'm sure there are a lot of people like you with your standards. However I don't feel people should be judged for their past and who's to say the one for you is going to fit exactly what you want? No one is perfect and expecting someone perfect will ... (read in full...)
Any tips for me on how to approach him?
Q. I'm a jr. in high school. I'm on the softball team as well as other clubs. I have a lot of good friends. But I have trouble when it comes to guys. They never seem to work out for whatever reason. I like a sr. guy Andrew. He is very attractive....
A. 14 April 2008: Tisha's idea was cute. Also you could go to one of his games and cheer him on, or ask him to come to one of your games. Maybe afterwards go out to eat to celebrate or if you lose, to make you feel better :) Make sure you let him know you are ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of the mindset that somebody I can't be with is "the one" for me?
Q. How do I get out of the mindset that somebody I can't be with is "the one" for me? I was dumped by this girl a year ago now, due to problems in our relationship we couldn't overcome. i.e. We went to different uni's, and so she let distance become a ...
A. 8 April 2008: I know the same exact feeling. Its been a year, why am I not over him yet?? And sometimes feel like he/she is your soulmate, thats why no one else has meant so much and why you arent over her. You are still in love. Put simply. There is no reason ... (read in full...)
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