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writes:Ok, last year my dad met a woman...She is a really nice woman and I have no problem whatsoever with her. And they moved in with is. She has a daughter 1 year younger than me, and she is pretty much drop dead gorgeous. My dad and her mom are not getting married...so she's not even a 'step-sister' if you will. I mean I like her tons, it's kinda torture to live with such a pretty girl and seeing her all the time. I have a strong feeling she likes me alot also. We go out to movies and eat out together.....but never once was it ever said or mentioned as a 'date'. And I'm pretty sure if my dad knew I liked her he would freak out on me. It's like the best situation ever....and the worst at the same time. I don't want to hurt her or anyone, so I guess I should just keep it to myself.....but I don't want to look back 20 years from now and remembering how I let the best girl I have ever met find someone else because I never told her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): If you both like each other, then don't keep it to yourself. Act on it and pursue a relationship with her. Like you said, she is not even your stepsister, so it's no different than if you were not living together. I think this situation came into your life for a reason, so I think you would take advantage of this opportunity. Like you said, you don't want to look back on this 20 years from now and regret that you didn't pursue things with her. I would not tell your dad or her mom about it unless you have sex with each other. Bottom line, act on your feelings now and talk to her about the two of you dating each other. If she feels the same way, the two of you could end up having a beautiful relationship with each other. So go for it and post back here to let us know how things turn out.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (26 April 2008):
 It sounds like you have developed a good relationship with her.
What if you were to ask her what she thinks of the idea of the two of you and go from there?
I lost someone in a similar situation about 30 years ago....I have never gotten completely over it although I have been happily married for 28 years. I miss her and I wish I had done things differently and maybe I would have had an even happier marriage. But now I will never know.
If there are no marriage plans between your dad and her mother I see no reason why there should be any problem.
At any rate I would talk to her first then deal with the parents after.
Otherwise you may be beating a dead horse.
If she says it would not work then you will have talked to the parents for no reason.
Don't let this opportunity go by. All she can say is no.
The thing is, maybe she won't. Doc
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reader, bobalu +, writes (26 April 2008):
 If ur pretty sure that she likes u back, u should tell her how u feel, but make sure she knows it must remain a secret ok make sure of that
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (26 April 2008):
 It is kind of sweet. You did not grow up with this girl and she is not even technically your step-sister so don't feel bad at all. Explain to your father that you like her a lot to find out what he thinks. Why would he freak out on you? If you think he would be unreasonable then do not tell him anything. Tell the girl you like her though. If she doesn't think of you in the same way then all of this worrying could be for nothing. You should probably not date though until you move out unless you talk with your parents. It could become quite weird. But yall's parents are not married and it's possible they could not even work out and then where would you be? Regretting never telling this girl probably- just like you said. You could probably ask her "so do you think it would be weird to like your dad's girlfriend's daughter..?" and see her response. Good luck though.
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