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*anya101
writes:Hello.I will be as short as I can.I am pretty much a loner, apart from a few acquaintances, my problem is that I don't like any of these people. I have had an online relationship with a guy for about three years, and I am now holding onto this relationship for dear life, and this is becoming very depressing, but I really don't want to leave this person. Now, I thought it was because he is the only person I have. But I really like this person, I like their way of thinking, how they act, and it is a delight talking to them. And if I were to "find someone else" I would want them to be exactly like this person.Is this because I have known them for so long, and be come accustom to how they are?If so, can this be changed?Any help will be very appreciated thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (19 April 2008):
 It has become depressing. That is all you need to know to know you need to be out of the relationship. Online relationships are extremely hard. I'm guessing the depressing factor is that you can't meet for another 3 years and you feel all you have is him? You didn't mention anything about him that you don't like but after 3 years you should know how you really feel. What I would do is take a break. Talk to him every so often as friends. See other people but mostly be alone for a little while. You are far too dependent on this man. If you could be alone and learn to love yourself and learn you are able to be alone then it wouldn't be a depressing relationship. You could be with him without fear of losing him and enjoy having him there. If you are meant to be with him then you will, no matter what. I think this is the only way to find out if you really like him or if you are just used to him after talking for so long. Talking to him like you are now won't answer your question of whether or not you really like him over other guys. Date some other guys, get out more. I know it's hard since you are a loner but it will do you some good. Good luck with everything.
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Darling do me a favour. Get away from the computer, get a life and find a real person to love. How come you guys have never met? As eyes wide open said,people can pretend to be someone else that they are not and feed you a load of bull shit.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Why three years? How do you know he's telling you the truth about himself? People can be anybody they want to be online.
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reader, Tanya101 +, writes (18 April 2008):
Tanya101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPOSTER:
We have never met. And can't for at least about three years.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 April 2008):
Has your "relationship" with this guy been strictly chatting to each other on line? Have you guys ever met face to face?
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