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writes:HiOver the past few months my partner and i have tried anal sex. At first she was against it, but now likes it and enjoy the change.she is concerned if there is any long term side affect from doing it that way and if so what
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reader, supermum  +, writes (31 October 2015):
 I realise this thread is very old now... but just in case people find this page in the future like I did I wanted to post some accurate advice, since there is a whole lot of ignorance, naivety and downright misinformation here.
Having anal sex from time to time will not cause you to loose control of your bowels in later life. It simply wont happen. In fact, the control you gain from learning both how to tighten and relax those muscles makes it less likely.
The only way I can see that will probably make you lose control is if you have something in your rectum full time or if you stretch it to extremes (I am talking baseball bat here, not penises). If you are wearing, for example, a butt plug for 20 hours a day, 6 days a week, for years on end, then you will have issues. But all the while the rectum is able to close and tighten itself again you will be fine. It can take up to four hours for the rectum to go completely back to normal after sex.
There are, however, risks to anal sex (as there are to any form of sex). The biggest risks are tearing and infection. Both of these can be avoided by taking simple steps. Be sure never to do anal and then move on to the vagina or mouth without thoroughly washing your penis. Make sure you are very gentle, particularly when you first enter her back passage, and use lots of lube to ensure everything glides freely and there is no resistance. If using toys or fingers to prepare her, ensure they have no sharp edges and that the fingernails are clipped short.
Both of you need to clean yourselves after too, but an enema after the sex isn't necessary if you don't want one. In fact, an enema before often isn't necessary, especially if she has a bowel movement not long before the sex. An enema cleans out parts of the colon as well as the rectum, which is unnecessary. You only need the back passage clean, not the colon, and most of the time it is clean. You will never get ALL of the 'mess' out, even with an enema, and if you choose to have anal sex then you will have to put up with the odd piece of mess. Using a condom may help if it squicks you out, but in the grand scheme of things I am pretty sure men still thinks it is worth it.
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reader, Avg Man  +, writes (14 June 2009):
Anal sex can cause long term effects like hemmorrhoids and fissures (see wiki article on anal fissures). It can also affect bowel movements and cause spasm pain/bruising. Remember that the anus and rectum were designed for one purpose...expelling poop. With all that being said, here are some other tid bits shared on other websites and blogs.
Millions of heterosexuals (women and men) enjoy anal play. By anal play, I mean massaging the outer anus, having a finger inserted (sometimes during oral sex), or inserting butt plugs, dildos or male penis. Some enjoy holding a vibrator around the opening other simply enjoy rubbing the opening with your finger. This is a very sensitive area.
Now, you must be careful when partaking in such an activity, because the membranes that line the anal cavity are so very delicate. Make sure anal play is periodic and not constant...and that the area is well lubricated. A special product designed for anal use is Doc Johnson's Anal Lube.
The more you "play down there" the more at risk for long term side effects.
I can’t stress the importance of communicating this desire with your partner. And for all those who have been approached with the situation and have been turned away by it, I can guarantee it’s been out of ignorance.
So many people out there believe it is taboo to partake in such an act. Devout Christians consider it soddoming... especially when shared amongst homosexual partners.
Remember the old adage: All things in moderation...and you (and your partner) should be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): Yeah. Not only does your ass hurt (as quoted from 'john101' haha), I've heard you can actually tear muscles down there. It can be really bad :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi
thanks for your replys, i expected that may be the case so we may only do it from time time
thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): yes, unfortunately she could loose control of her sphincter muscle from tears and stretching. This is what keeps her poop in ..... some gay men have to resort to using tampons. She could also develop hemmoroids, either way......Not a pleasant thought. The anus wasn't made for sex, the vagina was, that's why there isn't any natural lubricants produced by the back door.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): yes there are bad long term affects, she could loose control of her sphincter muscles by tearing and damaging them, this is what keeps her poop in......not a very pleasant condition. Some gay men resort to using tampons in their anus.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Well, I don't really know what the long term effects might be, so I can only advise that she have a chat with her doctor about it. As long as you're using lubrication, practice immaculate hygiene and she's comfortable, I don't have much else to offer here.
Good luck!
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Alright, I have never had anal sex before, so I looked this up for you. The main problem in dealing with anal sex is the higher risk in transmitting sexually transmitted diseases. Always use a condom. Also, do not go from anal to mouth, aside from being... disgusting... you can have serious problems resulting from doing this. "Anal intercorse can cause damage to tissue, muscle strength, and can cause serious damage if not properly approached. YOU MUST be very comfortable, gentle, lubricated, and take it from me -- it can be absolutely the most wonderful thing if you and your partner study this issue. Otherwise you will become frustrated, damaged, injured and so many other things." (answers.yahoo.com) So make sure you are using plenty of lubricant and to listen and at the slightest sign of pain, stop. Hope I helped you out.
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reader, john101 +, writes (15 April 2008):
 yeah there are side affect from anal sex. your ass hurts lol
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