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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years i'm moving out in January and he still doesnt know if we're ready to live together? If he's still unsure after two years do you think we should call it quits?? Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 April 2008):
 2 years is a sufficient time to make a decision.
If he cannot make a decision , he won't be able to make a
decision in another 2 years time.
The question is , are you willing to wait another 2 years?
Is he worth the wait?
Only you can answer those questions.,
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (19 April 2008):
 I don't think you should call it quits just because your boyfriend does not want to live with you. You can't make him do something he does not want to do, these things have to be discussed properly before you throw in the towel.
I have lived with three guys in my time one was my ex husband, one was my ex partner and the other one my flat mate. Think of all the smelly socks and underwear that gets left around, not to mention all their bad habits and fighting over the TV remote control lol. Seriously though it is a HUGE commitment, personally myself I like my own space. You can come and go as you please, eat when you want, watch your favourite TV programmes when you want.
Still if it is important to you then, I would not do anything hasty. Or you could stand to lose your fella altogether. Good luck Hun and keep us Aunts posted. Dusky xxxx.
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reader, Merisier +, writes (19 April 2008):
Why would you come it quit? Not everyone wana move with her boyfriend or his girlfriend. You never know everything happen for a reason. You should be happy about cause do you know how couple that move in together and they don't even last 2 or 3 months. All I can say is take your time and wait for tthe right time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): Men are scared of commitment. Don't break it off but ask him were he thinks the relationship is going? I personaly think to live together you should be married because when you live with a man they get lazy and think ok well she is already here I don't have to marry her. I was living with a man for five years and wanted to marry him but he would not commit.So I had to leave. It in my opion it just dose not work. Plus you are so young people that are together at a young age usally don't stay together. You need a chance to live and date other people or you will grow apart.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (19 April 2008):
 Not necessarily. Have you asked him why? Does he think it is too soon? Some people just take longer to make huge steps like that. He may be one who takes forever to finally propose. If it bothers you so much then you might should leave him. Or you can get a place on your own and live together when he is ready. Just don't give him any ulimatums. Saying you will leave him if he doesn't make the jump to move in with you could be disasterous. But if you don't mind giving him time and understand where he is coming from then stick it out. If you really don't get it and think he is scared of commitment and you don't want to deal with it then you should get out now. Most likely he will take awhile with most big decisions, which isn't a bad thing depending on how long. Personally I think 2 years isn't too bad for not wanting to move in. Now if it was 4-5 years... Well, Good luck !
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