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writes:Why do girls typically go for the douchebags, and typically grody asshoke frat boys that spend 5 days a week in the gym? To me it seems like the only difference between a jerk asking and any other guy is that the prick, because of his false sense of confidence that girls misinterpret for confidence is really just his inability and ego to stop trying to ask a girl out, if a guy that isn't used to approaching beautiful girls is rejected he internalized it inside and it's likely that he will never go up and approach women again. Now back to the guy that doesn't care if a girl has a b/f, well I feel bad for the girl because of the guys ego( the prick guy) he's likely to just start calling the girls who rejects him all kinds of nasty names like whore, just because he feels "NO ONE TELLS ME NO!!" So what the guy with no experience does is internalize rejection, the guy with fake confidence internalized it as attacking outwardly how he feels they view him. The only reason why it "appears" that jerks always get the girl is because with their ego, friends, brothers, uncles, other family, etc... Encouraging them they just don't give crap and since they talk to soo many girls, eventually one will get with him, until she realizes the mistake she made. Why aren't girls looking to other guys for hope? I grew up with the 1950s 60s dating mentality my parents told me about, but doesn't seem like they warned me about the jerks, etc...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): If a woman complains that men want physical beauty too much, do men start griping at her and saying she is obviously just too man-hating to get a date? No we don't. We may try to defend ourselves somewhat depending on the way she put it. But we basically accept the criticism because we know there is plenty of truth in it. We don't turn it around and blame the messenger any time somebody complains.But whenever a man complains about women liking jerks . .
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reader, jls022  +, writes (26 November 2013):
I don't like jerks and never have done, so there are definitely women out there who don't go for that type of guy. Another thing I don't like is bitterness though, and I'm afraid your post screams of it. You are so mad at women for choosing other guys over you that you come across as a whiny woman-hater. Explain to me why any woman would want to spend time with someone like that?! You don't sound like you like or respect women at all, yet you expect them to think you're great and want to date you? Without you even having to ask them no less?!Dude I'm afraid you will be stuck in this cycle if you don't suck it up and actually put yourself out there. If you don't try, you won't get. That's the case for everything in life. Nothing will be handed to you on a plate, it's up to you to go out there and get it. So stop blaming everyone else and go and do it already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell my question still hasn't been answered, too many vague generalizations
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAm I supposed to do something irrational when a girl tells me to get lost, or I'm not her type only to find out she's just gonna go out with sum other guy? I don't like asking girls out because the last few times I've tried some "fertile jerk for a girl." Gets in my face, with his buddies helping wanting to kick my ass. First of all if he's so confident why does he need his buddies to help? Anytime I express interest the peanut gallery douchebags step in and thwart my attempts.
Oh any by the way, it's bs about girls just wanting fertile guys n shit. It's bs about meekness being weakness, I'm so meek I choose not to kick their asses. Meekness is power under control
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2013): Jerks = good genetics.
Women go for jerks at their most fertile ages, and they still go for jerks at the most fertile times of the month even after those ages.
They only go for "nice guys" when it becomes evolutionarily beneficial for them to stop focusing on having more kid and start taking care of the kids they already have. This is usually about their middle or late 20s, since evolution built their preferences before birth control intervened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2013): Hi!
To be honest, I didn't really read all your sentiments. Just the summary.Why do girls like jerks?
Because jerks does have the confidence that an average joe don't have. Jerks are certified plastics. Meaning they have the ability to make a woman follow their every whim. By saying the right words, most women wants to hear.
But to me, it wouldn't work.
I have learned my lesson so well.
Because of that, i know when i am dealing with a plastic or real.
I rather go out and have fun with someone who does have an average looks or average income, as long as I know he ain't a jerk or a player.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, Not all women go for jerks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2013): What exactly is your problem? You internalized rejection and have stopped asking girls out and yet you blame your lack of dates on the fact that the girls went out with those guys who did ask them out?If you never ask anyone out then how are they supposed to start going out with you? It is true that not everyone you ask out will want to go out with you but if if you don't ask anyone out at all then of course no one will go out with you.I should also ask why do you focus on the type of woman who likes jerks? Because hose are the pretty and hot women? I can bet you there are tons of women whom the jerks aren't interested in asking out because these women aren't as hot looking. Why don't you ask those women out if you're so concerned about having competition from jerks?if you wont consider those women then you're just as much a jerk yourself. When I was on high school and college I was very homely looking.I was tot and athletic but had no interest in fashion or make up etc. Very few guys asked me out. Then later on somehow I started paying more attention to my outward appearance and suddenly tons of guys were asking me out. Now I am in my 30s and have tons of male attention even though I am already married i always have to turn guys down. And these are good looking and successful men too. But I do remember how it was like when I was younger and no guys were interested in me because of my homely appearance. How superficial is that. It wouldn't have been hard at the time to ask me out but no one wanted to. If you are not asking out these women like me who got very litttle attention necause we were not the most attractive looking then you have no right to complain no one wants to give you a chance and you would be just as shallow as the jerks you resent for being your competition. That said. A my serious boyfriends including the one I ended up marrying, started off as friends. Why don't you try to be actual friends with women rather than see them only in a sexual/dating context. If your personality is really as good as you claim, you should have no problem finding romance if women have a chance to get to know you in a low pressure way where they are not being put on the spot.
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reader, LaceratedReality  +, writes (24 November 2013):
Just as not all men are the same - women are not all the same. Women do not "just like jerks" and I am tired of hearing that from men like you. Your problem is for whatever reason women do not like YOU, and for that you put the blame on them by saying "oh all women like jerks, I am such a nice guy, woe is me".Are you attractive? Are you fit, do you look after yourself? Are you actually a nice person or do you just try and befriend women and then bitch about them when they do not sleep with you/do not date you? Do you approach women you like with clear intentions to date them? We are not mind readers - if you do not talk to us how are we meant to know you want to date us? If you try and act like a friend, how do we know you want to date is? Are you an interesting and fun person to be around?Sometimes you can be great but a woman will still not be attracted to you, and you know why? Because they are people just like you and they have their own preferences and make their own decisions. Just as someone might be interested in you and you do my return the feelings - you can be interested in a woman and they might not like you back. It does not mean they "only like jerks" - it just means that do not like you, and that is okay. Not everyone wants to date everyone else.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 November 2013):
 At one time in my life... I could have posted this question.... THEN, I found out that the jerks who the girls fall for have outstanding s*x lives.... and so I converted and became one..... It's FANTASTIC!!!! I suggest that you try it.... and, if you find it as fulfilling as I did, you may want to come on this site and remove this submittal...
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2013): maybe cause the douchebags have confidence to ask females out...idk but usually good guys are too timid/afraid it seems
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